Archive for February, 2011

Negotiating Sex with the Yes/No/Maybe List

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

Total surprises in bed are generally frowned upon, at least when it comes to a new partner or a new and/or exotic sex act. Want butt sex? Negotiate. Want to be tied up or tie someone up? Negotiate. Want to call your partner a filthy manwhore while working his nipples like a stuck zipper in a urinal at Mardi Gras? Yeah, definitely negotiate. We suggest each partner take a list and fill it out separately, then get together on a sex date,

  • The Yes/No/Maybe List is a tool we use here in the store to help partners get the conversation started. It’s a list of sex acts (to which you can always add your own) and columns reading “Yes”, “No” and “Maybe.”

Love at First Lube

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

Lube, or “Personal Lubricant,” is actually one of the sexiest sex toys there is. The extra slickness allows you to have sex longer without irritation, can increase sensation, and will definitely spice up a ho-hum handjob. There are all kinds of lube to love, and each type has its pros and cons, but this guide will hopefully help you find the slippery sidekick(s) of your dreams.

  • Water-based lube is one of the most popular types because it feels natural and absorbs well into the body for minimal cleanup.

G-spot Basics

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

The G-spot, also known as the urethral sponge, is the not-so-elusive-as-you-may-think area inside a woman’s vagina that fills with fluid when aroused. It is located at the front wall of the vagina and can feel textured and bumpy. Pressure applied to the G-spot can feel very pleasurable, and some women are even able to ejaculate fluid (which is not urine) from the urethra.

  • To locate the G-spot, insert a finger or fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina and press upward gently towards the belly button using a milking or come-hither motion.

How to Use a Cockring

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

Cockrings made of rubber, silicone, wood, leather, metal, and other materials keep the flow of blood in the penis, which creates an erection that is more sensitive, harder, and may last longer. Many people also love the way they look. There are many varieties of cockrings that vibrate or have textured nubs to stimulate both partners during sex or for something extra during masturbation. Some are also designed to be shaft-only rings or rings for the penis head. WARNING: Do not use cock rings if you have a blood-clotting disorder or suffer form any nerve disease.

  • Cock rings should be worn against the body, surrounding the base of the penis and the testicles. The fit should be snug, but comfortable.

Entering the Back Door: Butt Sex Basics

Saturday, February 19th, 2011

When engaging in anal play, it is essential to relax and use plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. One of the key things to remember about anal adventures with a partner is the incredible amount of trust involved. Practice open communication with your partner and let the person being penetrated control the action, at least in the early stages.

  • Use a lot of lube. Silicone lube is great for butt sex because it stays slick for a long time, but water-based lube can be thicker and more cushioning for delicate anal tissue. Experiment to find what’s right for you. And be sure to read about Our Favorite Anal Lubes.

Our Favorite Anal Lubes

Friday, February 18th, 2011

Anal sex without lube?! It’s almost too frightening a thought to say out loud, but here at The Pleasure Chest we talk people down from that lubeless ledge on a daily basis. We’re kind of like behind-the-scenes heroes, if you think about it. When it comes to ass play, no amount of lube is too much. These are a few tips on the lubes we like best for butt sex.

  • Silicone lube is a fanny-fucking favorite because it coats the ass with its extreme slickness and lasts pretty much until you’re done. The main drawback of this type of lube is the fact that cleanup isn’t as easy and it may stain your sheets, but hey, that’s what mutual showers and all those old towels you refuse to throw away “in case you need them” are for.

Strap-on, Get Off: Mastering the Art of Harness Play

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

Strap-on sex is for everyone. We know that sounds far too awesome to be true, but it totally is. In our stores and online, we sell harnesses and dildos to women who fuck women, men who fuck women, men who fuck men, and women who fuck men. For this reason, there are a multitude of harness styles, materials, and sizes to suit just about everybody. People strap it on for a variety of reasons, some of which are: because it feels good, because playing with power dynamics is sexy, for double penetration, for variety in gender expression, for variety in cock size, shape, and color possibilities, because it looks hot, to have a permanent hard-on, and because watching your partner bob their head up and down on your cock is pretty awesome no matter what sex organs you were born with.

How to Pick a Butt Toy

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

Anal beads are usually on a string or, if made of silicone or other soft materials, linked together. We don’t recommend anal beads with string because the fabric can cause small tears that can lead to irritation and increased risk of infection. Anal beads come in all sizes, from small for beginners, like Fun Factory Flexi Felix, to extra large, like Tantus Cowboy. Some even have graduated sized beads to work your way up, like the Bottoms-Up Anal Toy Set. The main attraction to anal beads is the feeling, texture, and anticipation of each bead upon insertion or removal. Some people like to have sex with anal beads inserted and pull them out at orgasm for extra sensation. This is fine, in theory, but don’t pull on it like you’re starting a lawn mower. The rectum will not be pleased.

Je Joue SaSi

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

Introducing SaSi from Je Joue.

Clone-a-Willy

Thursday, February 17th, 2011

Clone-a-Willy