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Conner Habib on Porn & Hatred

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by thepleasurechest

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In an article on The Stranger today, gay porn star Conner Habib takes on the arguments that people who are anti-porn use to attack porn performers. You know the ones: disease, objectification, what about the children?, etc. He uses the essay, called, “What I Want to Know is Why You Hate Porn Stars,” to break each of these arguments down to its emotional components, dismissing bad science and addressing people’s feelings instead. Between each argument, he tells a short anecdote about his time with an ex boyfriend who loved him but hated that he worked in porn. The article is, frankly, gorgeous. We wish that we could send it to everyone who has ever said anything hateful about a porn performer, but we’re going to have to settle for quoting it here:

I’ll talk on your terms.

Here are your terms: Men are too enthusiastic about sex. They like it more than women do. They don’t know how to control it. They’re like stupid babies about it. And when they get that way, all horny, they turn other people into objects.

Objects. See, it’s hard for me to hear from you that we’re responsible for objectification—that we objectify each other and help our audiences objectify us. It’s hard to hear because aren’t you the same person who won’t listen to us when we tell you we enjoy it?

Aren’t you turning us into objects that support your ideas?

Okay, let’s just skip that part, I already went over it, and I don’t want to tire you out by repeating myself.

How about this: Aren’t we part object? Isn’t there a part of us made out of stuff? What’s so wrong with appreciating that aspect of ourselves? Why is that “dehumanizing”? I’m not sure why you think bodies are such an unimportant part of being alive.

Read the whole piece here. Please.

2 Comments

  • Trix

    Conner has also written really good essays for the gay art magazine HEADMASTER (can’t remember which issues right now, but their website would say)…

    ReplyMarch 20, 2014 at 3:54 pm

    • thepleasurechest

      Thanks for the tip!

      March 20, 2014 at 7:54 pm

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