800.753.4536
Discreet Shipping

The Pleasure Chest is the oldest and most trusted sexuality boutique in the country, and we understand the importance of discretion. We ship every order in a plain brown box, with PC LTD on the return address. PC LTD (not The Pleasure Chest) will appear on your credit card statement.

Your purchases
are protected by

Men

Archives

Categories

Nov 19 2013

Sex FAQs

1

by thepleasurechest

Here at The Pleasure Chest, we spend a lot of time talking to people about their sex lives. Consequently, we also spend a lot of time answering a pretty short list of questions. While we’re always happy to answer them in person, we thought that you might appreciate some quick and dirty answers to our most frequently asked questions.

1)      How can I have a stronger orgasm?

  • Fact: Orgasms strengthen your pelvic floor muscles (also called PC muscles, for the pubococcygeus muscle). Combining orgasms with Kegel exercises will help tone your PC muscles, which are directly related to both urinary function and ejaculatory function. Well toned PC muscles also produce stronger orgasms.
  • Pleasure chest prescription: Many people don’t give their body enough time to build up to their orgasm. Try using a massage candle paired with a seductive massage before accessing the genitals. If you plan to incorporate a vibrator, trace the vibrator over your body to awaken nerve endings. Take your orgasm to the next level by exercising your PC muscles regularly. Kegel balls are a sure way to incorporate your exercises into your daily life. Put them in while you shower, during your morning commute, or when you go to the gym.

2)      How can I get my partner to do (fill in the blank: anal sex, threesome, BDSM)?

  • Fact: In order to enjoy sex, you have to be aroused, right? Nothing kills arousal faster than anxiety, since your body interprets it a sign to stop doing superfluous fun things – like sending blood to your genitals – and focus on survival. Stressing your partner out by demanding that they help you live out your fantasy will probably achieve the opposite of what you want.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Start an open conversation about what turns each of you on and what you’d like to try in the future. You might be surprised to see where you overlap! We recommend scheduling a sex date at least once a year. This date focuses on communication rather than sexual intercourse. Each partner privately fills out a yes/no/maybe list and then you get together to negotiate your sexual desires. It is important to do this at least once a year as our desires change over time.

3)      How can I increase my sexual desire and libido?

  • Fact: Sex is not the only ingredient in a healthy sexual relationship. It is important to incorporate touch, romance, communication and playfulness into your daily life with your partner.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription:  Incorporate touch into your daily routine and longer sessions of touching into your sex life. Touch increases attraction and, when combined with eye contact, can increase desire. If you want an extra boost, make time for things that turn you on: watch porn you like (or even movies and TV that feature actors you’d like to roll around with), read erotica, or just imagine sexy scenarios.

 

4)      I’ve never had an orgasm. Help!

  • Fact: A lot of factors go into orgasm: your PC muscles, your level of physical arousal, and also your mental state.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Strengthening your PC muscles can do a lot to help you achieve orgasm. If you’ve never used a vibrator, give that a try. A lot of women find that the consistent sensation of vibration is the only thing that gets them over the edge. As impossible as it can seem, the best thing that you can do for yourself is to put the idea of having an orgasm on the back burner and focus on enjoying what you’re doing. Try some new things, alone and with a partner, and discover what feels underwhelming and what feels amazing. Take your time, enjoy a ton of foreplay, explore some new fantasies, and find out what it takes to get you really turned on. Eventually, one of those things is going to give you an orgasm, and in the meantime you’ll have had a lot of fun.

 

5)      I want to have sex, but I’m too (fill in the blank: busy, old, fat, tired).

  • Fact: Not only are you fully capable of having sex, but having sex is a great way to stay healthy! An active sex life helps your immune system, especially in fighting colds, and is a key element in your overall health.  Sexual intercourse lowers your systolic blood pressure. It also keeps your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance which is good for your heart. Orgasms are a great substitute for aspirin, as they help to raise your pain threshold. People have reported that they help with menstrual cramps, back pain, arthritis and headaches. Plus, orgasms improve your sleep by releasing prolactin, a hormone which promotes relaxation and sleepiness.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Expand your definition of sex. You may not be up for a marathon of porno-style sexual intercourse, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun. Oral sex, hand jobs, or just cuddling up with your partner and a vibrator are still completely legitimate ways to stay sexually active. If you’re worried about finding partners, you don’t have to be. Only on TV is sex the sole property of nineteen-year-old supermodels.

 

6)      How can I make my penis larger?

  • Fact: Penis pumps can actually make a small difference in girth. If you decide to try pumping, be realistic about your goals; pumping stretches the skin without increasing blood flow to the genitals, so excessive pumping can leave you looking a little flaccid. In any case, here’s a fun fact:  women whose partners have smaller penises actually report higher rates of sexual satisfaction than women with large-shlonged partners.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: We’re willing to bet that the women with the less-well-endowed partners were so happy because their partners weren’t relying solely on their penises to get their partners off. Given how few people reach orgasm by (receiving) vaginal or anal intercourse alone, you’ll thrill your partner by picking up some new oral sex skills, or learning to be amazing with your hands. If you’d still like to increase your size, try using a cock ring, which stops blood from leaving the penis as quickly, so that you look bigger and feel harder and more sensitive.

 

7)      How do I keep from ejaculating so quickly?

  • Fact: First of all, we want to stress that ejaculation is great for you! Ejaculate expels carcinogens that accumulate in the prostate. Ejaculating at least 12 times a month will help reduce your risk of prostate cancer by 1/3. On the other hand, we understand that it can be fun to delay ejaculation until later in your sex session.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: If over-sensitivity is the issue, a condom can cut down on the amount of friction you feel, which can help you last. You can also try a ball stretcher: a loose ring that fastens around the top of your scrotum. (Stay with us here!) The ring can help delay ejaculation by preventing the testicles from pulling into the body like they normally do before orgasm. The easiest solution, though, is to spice up your routine with activities that won’t lead you immediately to orgasm. Plus, no one is cooler than a guy who wants to spend time using his hands, mouth, or even a toy to get his partner off even after he’s ejaculated.

 

8)      What can I do to tighten my vagina?

  • Fact: You don’t necessarily want a tighter vagina, but you do want more control over your PC muscles. Strong PC muscles allow you to grip your partner tightly, and they also allow you to have stronger orgasms. Exercising your PC muscles is good for your overall vaginal health: bringing blood flow to the vagina encourages vaginal elasticity and pliability and prevents vaginal atrophy later in life.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Do your Kegels! The great thing about PC muscle exercises is that you can do them while you’re watching TV, sitting in traffic, or in the line at the grocery store. Tense the muscle, hold it for a couple of seconds, and then release it. Try doing three reps of ten three times a day, and you’ll be on your way to super strong PC muscles! Better yet, invest in some Kegel balls, which speed up the process by give the muscles some resistance.

 

9)      I want to have anal sex but it hurts.

  • Fact: Vaginas self-lubricate when you get aroused. Butts do not. Artificial lubricant is essential to making anal sex safe and comfortable. Also, most people hold a lot of tension in their anuses, which can make anal sex difficult, if not impossible. Successful anal intercourse requires time, lubricant, relaxation, and a lot of arousal.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: First, get a big bottle of good lube, and plan to use it. When it comes to anal sex, if you think you’re using enough lube, you’re not. Plan for anal sex to take time – not just over the course of an evening, but over several sessions. Experiment with non-penetrative butt play: your partner can massage your anus (with lube!), rim you, or use a vibrator on you, all without you worrying if it’s going to hurt. Only try penetration if you’re super aroused. Soon enough, you’ll stop associating anal sex with pain, and your body will relax enough to make anal penetration possible and enjoyable.

10)   How can I spice up my sex life?

  • Fact: Your brain reacts to novelty by releasing dopamine, just like it does when you have sex or eat cupcakes.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Challenge yourself to try something new every time you have sex for the next month. Review your yes/no/maybe list with your partner to see what sparks both of your fantasies. We always love new toys for spicing things up: why not try a vibrating cock ring, a G-spot toy, or some basic bondage gear?

 

11)   I have vaginal dryness. What can I do?

  • Fact: Vibrators have been shown to help vaginal dryness by boosting pelvic blood flow.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Make time for your favorite toy! Even better, incorporate it into the sex you have with your partner. Don’t shy away from using lube, though. A good lube, especially a moisturizing lube like Sliquid Satin, will keep things comfortable for you and prevent the extra friction from causing tiny abrasions in your vagina. Ouch!

 

12)   I don’t like giving my partner oral sex.

  • Fact: Some people find that giving oral sex is stressful on their knees, their necks, or their jaws. Some people simply object to their partner’s taste, which can be affected by diet. Coffee, alcohol, meat, dairy, and dark green, iron-rich vegetables can all give a person’s sexual fluids a bitter taste, while acidic fruits like pineapple can make them taste sweeter.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: If position is your problem, try a new one! Lie on the bed instead of kneeling, or use a Liberator pillow to position your partner for easier access. If your jaw is cramping up, take a break and use your hands for a while. If your partner’s taste is too intense for you, you could always try making them a smoothie. Showering together can also help, if you suspect that sweat is the culprit. Finally, condoms, dental dams and flavored lube are always an option for oral sex. If you think that something is really off about your partner’s smell or taste, though, you should let them know; it can be a sign of a minor and easily treatable bacterial infection.

 

13)   Will using a vibrator permanently make me numb?

  • Fact: Using a vibrator can make it more difficult for you to orgasm other ways, but only if you always use the same vibrator on the same setting every single time you masturbate or have sex. Repetition is the problem, not vibration.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: If you love your vibrator but you don’t want to train yourself to get off only one way, vary your routine. Use different vibrators, use your hands, use your shower head, or use your partner.

 

14)   My partner wants to use a sex toy, but I’m afraid it will replace me.

  • Fact: We spend all day talking to people about their sex lives, and we’ve never met anyone who wanted to stop having sex with their partner because of a toy. In fact, many toys are designed not to mimic the human body but to do things that it can’t do. For instance, did you know that the clitoris extends several centimeters into the body? Vibration accesses the entire clitoris in a way that your hands just can’t.
  • Pleasure Chest Prescription: Rather than taking it as a sign of defeat that you can’t vibrate (or that your vagina isn’t lined with large, soft nubs and ridges like a Fleshlight), enjoy using toys as tools to make your partner feel as good as possible. (If you’re spooked by something too realistic, go for a toy that’s brightly colored and non-anatomical.) After all, the one thing that makes you definitively better than a sex toy is that you’re creative in bed. 

Jan 05 2013

7 Questions & Answers On Blowjobs

0

by thepleasurechest

How do you begin a blow job?

The best BJs begin with the brain. Both of you should be turned on for a good BJ. Build up the tension with dirty talk. Get your mouth warmed up with a hot makeout session.

How should you incorporate using your hands?

Use your hands to add friction. Hold the base of his cock to control the pace of the action. Use a finger to stimulate his perineum. Or, if you’ve negotiated it, slip a lubricated finger or two in his ass, to stimulate his prostate directly.

What about the balls?

Most guys like their balls being cupped during a blowjob. You can also use a finger or two to put pressure on the perineum (the taint) for an external prostate massage. If you press on this, you can really enhance a man’s orgasm.

Do you have to deep throat?

No, it’s not necessary. A lot of people want to learn how to deep throat, and it can be an amazing feeling for both partners. The secret is to position yourself to follow the natural curve of his cock, with the natural curve of your throat. Try it first with him on his back and you on your side. Keep your hand on the base of his cock to go at your own pace. Swallow when you feel like you have reached your limit which will help to go further and widen your throat. Don’t deep throat with a  full stomach. You can also simulate the sensation of deep throat by using a masturbation sleeve to stroke his shaft while sucking on the head of the penis.

Does it matter if you spit or swallow?

It’s up to you, but always negotiate this ahead of time. If you’re not fluid-bonded with a partner, use a condom.

What are some reasons that men can’t get hard, and should you push it if it’s not working?

There can be many reasons – erectile dysfunction, using alcohol and drugs, stress or exhaustion.  Sometimes, even if he’s in the mood, his penis isn’t. Never push. Move on to other things. Don’t make a big deal about it.

What’s the single best tip for giving great head?

The best BJs are really great hand jobs. Most guys need more friction than you can create with your mouth, so a great blowjob is often a combination of using your hand to tug on the penis while adding sensation and suction with your mouth.

Jul 12 2012

Our Staff’s Desert Island DVD Porn Picks

0

by thepleasurechest

With tens of thousands of porn titles to choose from, it can be a challenge to choose a DVD for a hot evening at home. To make it easier, we’ve polled our staff and come up with a not-quite-definitive list of dirty movies we’d take to a desert island. Here are some of our favorites.

Star Wars XXX

If you’re a Star Wars fanatic, you might be annoyed with the inaccuracies in this film, but they’ve done a pretty good job with the look of the movie (except for Chewbacca– he’s a little disturbing). But the best part of this movie is that it’s genuinely funny at times. Tom Byron really steals the show. He’s hilarious. I found myself fast forwarding through the sex scenes to get back to the story. – Mary

 

Tristan Taormino’s Chemistry Series

I like this one for its personality, humor, good example of negotiation, and hot scenes that span a huge range of types of sex. It bridges education with fun, hot porn.- Victor

Chemistry 1 was the DVD that got me excited about porn! There’s an authenticity to the scenes that is super hot and fun. Tristan Taormino manages to capture real chemistry and it is fantastic. – Sarah T.

 

 

The Fashionistas

Most often, hardcore and/or kinky porn lacks context let alone storyline or plot. Fashionistas is a classic, not to mention epically filthy film that maintains a strong storyline. There’s just something in Belladonna’s eyes and smirk that makes me feel like she really loves her work. And that’s always a turn-on for someone less interested in the high-gloss, unconvincing moaning of other pornography.- Hana

 

Jock Itch

Forget the cheerleaders! These hot jocks get down and dirty with each other. High school fantasies fulfilled! - Karen

 

 

Post Apocalyptic Cowgirls

Queer BDSM porn with watersports, armpit worship and intensely hot performers. What’s not to like? - Lillian

 

 

 Pirates

Janine at her hottest! Dominating men and women left and right on a boat! This was the first porn film to have a red carpet premier at Grauman’s Chinese Theater. That’s old Hollywood class. –  Jess

 

 

Billy Castro Does the Mission

My fave porn ever! Billy is the sexiest! His scene with Dylan Ryan is the best in any porno I’ve watched. Rough and playful– my favorite combo! – Larkin

 

Sexing the Transman 

I didn’t know I would be so turned on by watching a bunch of trans dudes fingerfucking themselves, but I was! I can’t wait for part two. – Little Miss M

 

 

The Crash Pad Series

A great choice for those interested in authentic interactions and negotiations, a body and sex positive project, and a broad spectrum of scenes. I love that in any given DVD from this series, you find such a gamut of kinks, couplings, bodies, and aesthetics. – Hana

 

 

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Pegging

One of the hottest collections of pegging action I’ve ever seen! Dylan Ryan and Wolf Hudson’s scene shows it all– including the communication that makes pegging successful. Also, Christian is taking it up the ass from Jada Fire? And Jiz Lee nails a scene with Mickey Mod? What’s not to love?- Sarah S.

 

Rough Sex

This  has one of my all-time favorite scenes: a stranded Satine Phoenix getting fucked by– and abandoned by– Derrick Pierce. I love that the director includes interviews with the stars whose fantasies are being realized in these scenes. – Sarah S.

 

The Look

Jeff Stryker! Jeff is a fucking genius when it comes to dirty talk. I love anything with him in it. It’s the type of porn you can watch with your pals and laugh at the ridiculous dialogue, but then after they leave, you can totally jerk off to it. Je t’aime Jeff Stryker! – Larkin

 

Alice in Wonderland: An Adult Musical Comedy

It’s got a musical number called “What’s a Nice Girl Doing On a Knight Like This?” Need I say more? This is a masterpiece of camp. – Kate

 

 

Damon and Hunter: Doing It Together

I love the story line in this video. The characters are very developed. It’s nice to gay see male porn with a more developed plot. – ACE

 

Behind the Green Door

The storyline involves abduction and forced sex, but it’s done in a caring and liberating way that is common in 70s porn. It also has the longest, most psychedelic cumshot of all time. It’s the kind of thing you could play on repeat at a party. – Mary

 

Belladonna’s Strapped Dykes

What happens when you introduce Jiz Lee and Syd Blakovich (of Crash Pad fame) to America’s rough fucking sweetheart Belladonna? Hardcore, no holds barred, super hot strap on sex complete with choking, biting, foot play and squirting. April Flores and Jiz Lee’s scene alone is worth the price of admission. Porn perfection. – Lillian

 

Incubus 

It’s very male. It’s very hot. The men are solid! – Still Ticking

Jul 06 2012

6 Great Products for Gender Expression

0

by thepleasurechest

As trans people have become more visible in society, we’ve seen an increased demand for products tailored for gender expression. In general, nearly everything we offer at The Pleasure Chest can be used by anyone regardless of their gender identity, but here are a few of our favorite products that meet the needs of trans men, trans women, genderqueers and people from across the gender spectrum.

Sailor Softskin Packer

Designed by sex educators, the Sailor Softskin Packer  is soft and lifelike to the touch, but firm on the inside. Whether tucked into a pair of jeans, or worn with packing underwear like the Rodeoh or the SpareParts Pete Trunks, this packer can be worn daily or whipped out for special occasions.

Transform Full Triangle Breast Forms

These soft, firm Transform Full Triangle Breast Forms  have a symmetrical design, making them ideal for most figure types. The triangle shape has a full front profile and a curved back to conform and fit snugly against the chest wall. These can be worn in most full figure bras or in special prosthetic bras with built-in pockets.

Go Girl

Go Girl was designed  to make public peeing more convenient, by freeing female-bodied people to urinate while standing up. This also makes it a popular choice for many trans men. The Go Girl is a reusable, fold-up silicone cup. It’s easy to clean and portable, so you can take it anywhere, from public restrooms to portapotties.

Transform Gaff

The thong-style  Transform Gaff is designed to help smooth and flatten the lower body, enhancing gender expression for many trans women. Made of 93% soft nylon and 7% stretchy spandex, this garment fits snugly and discreetly. It can be worn under most panties, pantyhose or other garments without showing through. Transform also makes binding tape helpful for trans men in flattening the chest.

Pumping Cylinders

Pumping products use suction to draw blood into body tissue, stretching and enlarging it, while enhancing sensitivity. Popular with sensation players and BDSM practitioners, pumping is also useful for many trans people. A simple kit consists of a pump, a hose and cylinders that can be used to enhance specific parts of the body. Trans women who want to develop their chests can use an accessory like this Breast Pump Cylinder , while trans men who want to enhance the size of the clitoral tissue can use a Clit Cylinder.

Snake Bite Kit

The Snake Bite Kit is a great, inexpensive alternative to pumping systems. It can be used to enhance the size and sensitivity of nipples or to enlarge the clitoris. As a bonus, it could save your life if you’re ever bitten by a rattlesnake.

 

 

 

 

Sep 24 2011

40 Ways to Make Life Sexier

0

by thepleasurechest

We asked our LA store staff for their favorite sex tips. Here’s what they said…

Hard to remember to do your Kegel exercises? Do them at traffic lights! Every time you stop at a red light, squeeze for as long as you can, or until the light turns green, whichever comes first. -Sandra

 

Wrestle! The physical contact will make you sweaty, get your heart rate up and make you laugh. -Alicia

Buy a great lube, even if you think you don’t “need” one. Sometimes getting extra slippery can be just what the night needs. -Alicia

Take over one of your partner’s chores for a day. Let them relax and expect nothing in return (though you’ll probably get something!). -Alicia

Attend free sex workshops together. Get inspired! -Alicia

Find a great porn that really does it for you. -Alicia

Go down on someone without expecting anything in return. It’s sexy, fun and a good deed! -Alicia

Come up with a catchphrase to let your partner know you’re thinking of him or her naked. (Example: “Elephants are my favorite animal!”) With your partner’s consent, use the phrase often and in very public settings.  -Alicia

Roleplay! Make up a totally different persona and have your partner do the same. Don’t tell each other the details ahead of time. Meet at a predetermined location, commit to your newly acquired identities and let the sparks fly! -Oriana 

For women, the foreplay begins at dinner, not necessarily in the bedroom. Master the art of mental seduction by being attentive, making eye contact and engaging her in stimulating conversation. After all, nothing is sexier than a confident man or woman with brains to boot. -Oriana

The key to a sexy time is communication. Honestly discuss your dos and don’ts and learn to respect each other’s boundaries. It will make for a much more enjoyable time for all involved. -Oriana

Have an edible night! Edible body paint, chocolate-covered strawberries and whipped cream all have sexy possibilities. -Oriana

Whether you’ve been naughty or nice, a little spanking in the bedroom is always appropriate! Experiment with different positions rhythms. Use your hands or grab a wooden spoon from the kitchen. Just make sure to replace it afterwards! -Oriana

If your partner is female-bodied, don’t use oil-based lube, not even for anal play, as it can lead to a bacterial infection. Opt for a silicone, water-based or hybrid lube instead! -Madison

Buy great underwear. It can literally change your day. -Alicia

Compliment others. Putting all the positive energy into the world is bound to pay off somehow. Making others smile usually elicits the same response in ourselves.  -Alicia

Have a nooner. Sex in broad daylight just seems naughtier. -Alicia

Never underestimate the power of sexting. Fire up your imagination early in the day. By the time the evening comes, you won’t be able to control yourselves. -Alicia

Putting a cheeky finger in a willing butt is always fun. But be kind and lube that bad boy up before getting the party started! Spit is a sexy option, but may dry too quickly. -Madison

Set the scene! Light some candles, put together a sexy playlist, get your sexy ensemble on and make sure all your toys are at hand. -Madison

Ladies, own at least one set of sexy lingerie. Pull it out and surprise your partner(s)! Don’t have any? Bring your partner to The Pleasure Chest and pick something sexy out. -Madison

Prostitution roleplay! Have your partner meet you at a seedy motel. Dress up sexy and make them pay for it. Return home and ask them how their day went. Act like it never happened. -Kitty

Layer your sensations! Use a clit toy, nipple clamps and a toy in your ass, all at the same time, and take your orgasm to the next level. -Jamila

Do a sexy photoshoot alone or with your partner(s). Make it as tasteful or as raunchy as you want. -Alicia

Have naked movie dates. Watch a regular movie while completely nude. Try not to fool around during the entire movie. Even if you lose, you win! -Alicia

Put a little ice in your mouth before performing oral sex. The cold might be a welcome surprise to your lover. -Jess

Use bondage tape to make an outfit. Then have your lover cut it off. -Mary

Try gender play. A packer will put you in touch with your masculinity and make you feel sexy. Or, if you’ve always imagined yourself with breasts, try a pair of breast forms. Wear both at the same time and be a pomosexual gender warrior. -Matt

Gag reflex problem? Instead of numbing your throat with a spray, try swallowing! The act of swallowing should override your gag reflex. -Jess

Want to sweeten your come? Drink pineapple juice regularly! -Jess

Play the “Who can make the other come first?” game! Try your very best to make your partner climax before they make you come. The object of the game is to hold back for as long as you can, delaying that sweet, sweet release. -Shay

When you’re giving a blowjob, use thicker gel lubricant like Good Head. This will coat your mouth much better than a traditional water-based lube, so you can really get your face fucked! -Mykey

Try some sensory deprivation. Intensify your partner’s experience, or your own, by adding a blindfold and earplugs (or earbuds playing some mood-setting music). Taking away the ability to see and hear will not only heighten your sense of touch, but also add the thrill of “what’s coming next?” Have fun with it. Massage, sensation play, toys. The possibilities are endless! -Shay

Apply Nipple Nibblers to your asshole for a cool, tingly sensation. It will also make your asshole sweet and leave your lover’s tongue tingling. -Mykey

Invest in one really good toy, like a stainless steel Njoy plug or a Jimmyjane Form 2. -Lillian

Keep your partner’s package locked until you’re ready to play with a chastity device like the CB6000 or the Birdlocked. -Matt

 This one’s perfect for an anniversary or birthday surprise. Buy a wireless vibrator with remote control. Wear the vibrator and then gift wrap the controller. When your partner unwraps it and asks what it does, tell them to switch it on and see your reaction. Or, if you want to be in charge, gift wrap the vibrator. When they open it, switch on the controls, so that it vibrates in their hand. Either way, you’re both in for a fun night. -Sandra

 Make a replica of your partner’s penis. You can use it when you’re apart and missing him. Or, tie him up and tease him, while he watches you get yourself off with his clone. For more fun, bend him over, lube him up and fuck him with his own cock. -Matt

Take a bath together. It’s a wonderful way to relax, and also great foreplay. Bring a waterproof toy to play with. Wash each other’s bits before the main event. – Matt

Write erotica starring yourself! - Lillian

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jun 17 2011

Sounding? Sounds like fun!

1

by thepleasurechest

A sound is a medical instrument designed to stretch or enlarge the urethra. Sounds were originally developed to identify obstructions in the urethra, and to stretch the passage, allowing the flow of urine and semen. This tool was used to “sound the depths” of a patient’s urethra, in the same way that one measure’s the depth of water.

Sounds are also rapidly becoming a popular tool in the kinkster toybox, winning popularity with CBT enthusiasts, medical players and anyone looking to experience a new sensation during sex.

Surgilube

Sounds sexy!

It is! Sounding stimulates nerves you’ve never felt before. The sensation is often described as begin given a hand job from the inside.

A sound is usually inserted while the receiver (or “bottom”) is on his back. The sound is inserted into the meatus (also known to us regular folks as the “piss hole’). It should be allowed to slide down the urethra by gravity. You should never force or push a sound in. It’s always a good idea to use plenty of lube; we recommend Surgilube, a sterile medical lubricant. It may take awhile to find the natural path. Once inserted the weight of the sound should be supported by hand, as they are quite heavy.

After the sound is in place, you can create pleasurable sensations by sliding it gently up and down the shaft. You can also tap against the exposed end of the sound with another metal object or place a vibrator against it. We suggest a silicone vibrator, or something with a soft tip, as it will make gentler contact with the metal sound. Advanced players often like to combine sounding with electro-stimulation, using the exposed end as an electrical contact. Many players prefer to gently masturbate while sounding, reporting explosive orgasms.

Sounds like its for boys only!

Sounding is for girls too, but a woman’s urethra is much shorter than a man’s. For this reason, women looking to explore urethral play should try Hegar sounds. The Hegar sounds were actually developed for cervical dilation, but are also quite useful for urethral sounding. The Hegar sounds have a slight “S” curve, and are shorter than other designs. They also make excellent beginner sounds for men.

Sounds risky!

If you don’t take precautions, sounding can cause irritation, tearing and even a urinary tract infection. Infection can spread to the bladder, resulting in further complications. For this reason, it’s important to sterilize your sounds before each use. Unless you have an autoclave handy, you’ll want to boil your sounds. Some even suggest using a pressure cooker. You can also use a mixture of 9 parts water to one part bleach to clean your sounds.

When inserting a sound, use Surgilube, a sterile medical lubricant, to minimize the risk of infection. It is recommended to that you use the single serve packets rather than the tube, to minimize the possibility of contamination.

If you’re planning on sharing sounds with another person, all of the precautions we mentioned are doubly important.

Van Buren Dilator Sounds

Sounds complicated!

It can be. But exploring the different types of sensations offered by sounds is part of the fun. Here’s a quick overview:

Pratt sounds are longer, and can be up to a foot in length. They have rounded ends with a slight bend on each side. These are for advanced male players, and not recommended for women.

Rosebud sounds derive their name from the bulbous shape of the tip. This type of sound focuses the sensation in one spot.

Hegar sounds are shorter, rounded on both ends, and have a slight “S” curve. These sounds are ideal for women, but can also be used by male beginners.

Van Buren sounds are designed for reaching and stimulating the bladder, and have a pronounced curve at the end. These J-shaped sounds may be difficult to remove with an erection, so a person may have to be soft before removal.

Dittel sounds are flat on one side and rounded on the other. The flat tip acts as a grip for insertion.

There are many other types of sounds, including those made of soft, body-safe silicone and sounds that deliver electro-stimulation to the urethra.

Sounds like I should learn more!

Yes, you probably should. If you’re new to the world of sounding, you should consider learning from an experienced practitioner. Many professional dominants are skilled in the art of sounding. This website is also an excellent resource. Happy sounding!

Feb 22 2011

Keeping it Up

0

by thepleasurechest

It happens to the best of us. Whether you’re a shrinking violet or a priapic porn star, sometimes your cock just won’t cooperate. Can you keep up? Sometimes it’s hard. Or rather, it’s not hard. We know, it’s a bummer, but keep a stiff upper lip. We’ll tell you how to stiff up your dick. Here are some tips and tricks that just might work, when your cock won’t.

Foreplay

Slow down. Men can be very goal-oriented when it comes to sex. We’ve been taught our whole lives to compete, to win, to achieve. Performance anxiety can cause us to come too soon, or to lose our erections entirely. The best thing to do in these cases, is to stop focusing on your cock.

  • Give or get a massage. Keep some massage supplies handy. We’re partial to the Jimmyjane Afterglow Massage Candle which will help you set the mood with candlelight, while producing safe, warm oils that can be applied directly to the skin. If you need some pointers, try checking out a massage “How To” book or the Erotic Massage DVD.
  • Foreplay doesn’t have to be gentle. Adding a light spanking or some basic bondage to your repertoire can help restart your sex drive too.

Before you know it, you’ll forget all about your fickle dick. And when you stop thinking about it, it will usually come out to play, all on its own.

Do Your Kegels!

If you don’t have the control and endurance you like, it’s time to hit the sex gym. Perhaps you’ve heard of Kegel exercises. Well, they’re not just for women! Your PC muscles control the flow of semen and urine, and they affect the strength and quality of your erections. If you exercise them regularly, they’ll do right by you. The best way to find them is by stopping the flow of urine the next time you go to the bathroom. (We don’t recommend doing this every day, but it does help to isolate the muscles.) Once you’ve located the muscles, you simply need to practice tightening and releasing them. This can be done anywhere—while watching TV, sitting in traffic, or sitting through a boring lecture. AskMen.com suggests these simple exercises to get you started:

Exercise A

Sets: 3

Tighten and release repeatedly for 10 seconds.

Take a 10-second break between each set.

Exercise B

Sets: 10

Tighten and release repeatedly for 5 seconds.

Take a 5-second break between each set.

Exercise C

Sets: 3

Tighten and hold your PC muscle for 30 seconds.

Take a 30 second break between sets. Over time, work your way up to doing three sets of 15 to 20 minutes per day. Just as with weight-liting at the gym, you should eventually be able to increase your number of repetitions, up to 200 per session.

Aneros MGX

Using a prostate stimulator like the Aneros is a great way to do your Kegels. When inserted, the Aneros will gently rock back and forth between your prostate and your perineum, giving those PC muscles the workout they need. You’ll experience greater endurance and stronger erections. As a bonus, your orgasms will feel more amazing than ever.

Kegel strength is important, but your diet may also play a role. Check out Dr. Steven Lamm’s The Hardness Factor to learn how nutrition, supplements and exercise all play a role in maintaining stronger erections.

Pumping

If you find that pumping up your PC muscles isn’t quite the workout you need, try pumping your penis instead! Penis pumps use vacuum suction to draw blood into your penis, resulting in fuller and stronger erections.

If you’re new to pumping, try this Metal Suction Pump and pair it with the appropriate-sized cylinder, for erectile enhancement that doesn’t suck.

For a tutorial on pumping, the DVD Maximum Performance: The Man’s Guide to Erection & Potency is a very helpful introduction.

Jimmyjane Iconic Ring

Cockrings

Cockrings. They’re not just for kinky folks. Whether leather, steel, rubber, neoprene, silicone or wood, a cockring is a great way to keep it up. A cockring is designed to fit snugly around your balls and cock. When you’re hard and the blood rushes in, the cockring helps keep it there, resulting in a stronger, fuller erection and a whole lotta staying power.

  • Classic leather cockrings look and feel sexy, but they can be hard to clean, and the snaps have been known to pinch. For the most comfortable fit, try something in rubber or silicone.  The Super Stretch Silicone cockring is a great starter cockring. Silicone doesn’t play well with silicone lube, so be sure to use a water-based lube with this toy.
  • A vibrating cockring can add extra stimulation for you and your partner, while keeping you rock hard. The Lelo Bo is one of the best on the market, offering the stretch of silicone and the ability to recharge, for many repeat sessions. A more affordable alternative is the Jimmyjane Iconic Ring, which can be switched on to continuous mode, or set to activate by pressure. Fun!

Supplements

Unless you have a prescription for Viagra or Cialis (in which case, can your spare some?), you shouldn’t be taking a pill every time you want to have sex. There are times, however, when a little help doesn’t hurt. There are a number of all-natural supplements on the market. None of them have been evaluated by the FDA, but some folks swear by them.

  • Horny Goat Weed, otherwise known as epimedium has been a staple of Chinese medicine for 2,000 years, and is believed to be both an aphrodisiac and an enhancer of erectile function. You can usually find it wherever supplements are sold, and it’s often one of the main ingredients in enhancement formulas.
  • Yohimbe is another popular herb, widely used for its aphrodisiac properties. It’s usually sold at health food stores, and can also be found in combination with other herbs.

Many supplements offer a combination of these and other natural ingredients, packaged and marketed for the sex-enhancing properties.

  • A favorite here at the Pleasure Chest is Stiff One. A single dose will keep you ready for numerous sessions for up to 24 hours.
  • If drinks are on the menu, Rock Hard is the only supplement that claims it can be consumed with alcohol.

Desensitizers

When all else fails, and when you simply need a little extra help, you can always try a desensitizer. There are lubes, creams and condoms on the market, usually containing a solution of benzocaine or lidocaine, which will basically numb your cock. If you don’t mind the loss in surface sensation, these will certainly buy you some more time in the bedroom. But be careful to put a condom on top, unless you want to numb your partner too.  If you’re looking to try a non-toxic, hypoallergenic desensitizer, we think Sliquid Stay fits the bill.

Feb 19 2011

Prostate (P-spot) Basics

1

by thepleasurechest

The prostate, also known as the P-spot or male G-spot, is a gland located between the rectum and the bladder. During arousal the prostate fills with fluid which helps semen travel through the urethra upon ejaculation. The spot can be felt through a man’s anus as an area similar in size to a walnut. Stimulation of this area heightens pleasure for many men.

To locate the P-spot, insert a finger or fingers 2-3 inches into anus and press gently towards the belly button using a milking or come-hither motion. It helps to use lube and for the receiver to be very relaxed and comfortable.

Toys with a gentle curve aid in solo or partner P-spot exploration.

Angle and position are key during partner penetration. If a man is lying on his back, angle fingers or toy upward. If he is bent over, gently angle downward. Use a pillow and/or a little imagination to find the best way to hit the P-spot during anal penetration with a penis.

Bodies will respond differently to different types of stimulation, so experiment with pressure, rubbing, tapping, and vibration of the p-spot to find what feels best.

Studies have shown that regular prostate massage can help ward off cancer by increasing blood flow to the area.

Feb 19 2011

How to Use a Cockring

0

by thepleasurechest

Cockrings made of rubber, silicone, wood, leather, metal, and other materials keep the flow of blood in the penis, which creates an erection that is more sensitive, harder, and may last longer. Many people also love the way they look. There are many varieties of cockrings that vibrate or have textured nubs to stimulate both partners during sex or for something extra during masturbation. Some are also designed to be shaft-only rings or rings for the penis head. WARNING: Do not use cock rings if you have a blood-clotting disorder or suffer from any nerve disease.

  • Cock rings should be worn against the body, surrounding the base of the penis and the testicles. The fit should be snug, but comfortable. Some cock rings, such as smaller ones made of wood or metal, are designed to be worn around the shaft or head only. Always read manufacturer instructions.
  • Adjustable cock rings are recommended for new users. They are often leather with snaps or rubber bolo styles, like the Lasso Cock Ring. We also tend to recommend the Clear Super Stretch Silicone Cockrings for new users, as they have a great stetch and come in many different sizes.
  • Put on the cock ring before the penis becomes hard. Non-adjustable cock rings should be entered one-testicle at a time, then tuck the penis through head-first. You can use lube to ease this process, but be sure to hold onto the ring until you are completely hard to avoid slippage.
  • Do not wear a cock ring for more than 2 hours and remove it if the swelling is overly pronounced and accompanied by pain, numbness, or cold genitals.
  • Wait until you are flaccid to take off your cock ring.

Feb 17 2011

Strap-on, Get Off: Mastering the Art of Harness Play

1

by thepleasurechest

Strap-on sex is for everyone. We know that sounds far too awesome to be true, but it totally is. In our stores and online, we sell harnesses and dildos to women who fuck women, men who fuck women, men who fuck men, and women who fuck men. For this reason, there are a multitude of harness styles, materials, and sizes to suit just about everybody. People strap it on for a variety of reasons, some of which are: because it feels good, because playing with power dynamics is sexy, for double penetration, for variety in gender expression, for variety in cock size, shape, and color possibilities, because it looks hot, to have a permanent hard-on, and because watching your partner bob their head up and down on your cock is pretty awesome no matter what sex organs you were born with.

joquePelvic harnesses come in two basic styles, two-strap and thong style. The two-strap style leaves the wearer’s genitals free and frames the ass like a well-hung piece of art, while the thong or g-style can provide more friction and stimulation in the crotch area as well as hold a butt plug in nicely. Users of both styles debate over which provides the most controlled thrust, but personal taste and comfort are the main things to consider. If you think g-strings are the ultimate in sexy, go for it. If you’d rather go commando than ever wear thong underwear, you’ll most likely be more comfortable and confident in a two-strap, and when it comes to strapping it on, confidence is key.

Once you’ve found the style you like, the next thing to consider is material. Most harnesses are constructed of either leather or nylon. The leather used to make harnesses can range from sturdy and hard to buttery soft. Leather harnesses like the Terra Firma Harness are popular because with time they mold to the body like a second skin, and some people find leather to be quite sexy. Nylon harnesses are vegan and usually less expensive, which makes them great for beginners and cow-huggers, but they can sometimes chafe or be uncomfortable. As far as non-leather harnesses go, a major standout is the Spareparts Joque Harness. It is made of soft, breathable nylon and Lycra that fastens with Velcro at the waist, is fully machine washable, ultra-adjustable to fit a variety of sizes, and manages to stay in place even during rough play without snaps, buckles, or d-rings.

When you know you want to get a leather or nylon harness other than the Spareparts, the next thing to consider is what type of fastener you want at the waist. Some people prefer d-rings, as on the O-Ring Harness, which are quick and easy to adjust once the harness is on. Similar to this are plastic backpack strap-style adjusters, found mostly on nylon harnesses. Both of these types can be vulnerable to slippage during the act, but again, they are easy to pull back into place. Still, the most secure waist straps are buckles, because they stay exactly where you want them. Check out the Jaguar Harness if you want to explore this option. Leg straps are adjusted with d-rings or plastic adjusters in most harnesses.

But the pounding (hopefully) heart of a strap-on lies in the center, aka where the dildo goes. All harnesses have this, though in different incarnations. Some are just holes in a back pad (which is the piece of material that covers the pelvis) that you slide an appropriately sized dildo with a base through, with the base resting against your body. These are quick and simple to use, but because the hole is cut into the pad, you are limited to that girth of dildo. The Spareparts harness has an extremely stretchy hole that can accommodate dildos large and small. We like harnesses with a snap-out o-ringbecause you can purchase a variety of ring sizes to fit almost any size dildo. Others, like the Commando Harness,have an o-ringwithout any back pad or a removable back pad. These are great for strappers who like extra friction against their body, for hard packing, or for people with a bio penis because the genital area is completely open. Harnesses with a hole or opening as well as an adjustable o-ring are the best option for using a double dildo.

The Fit

Your harness should fit securely yet comfortably. If your harness is too tight or loose, you’re going to have some trouble pitching at the mound (sorry, couldn’t resist). Many people prefer a harness that sits low on the pelvis, because it is easier to feel and therefore control the action, not to mention the extra rub for the wearer. However, a harness that sits higher on the waist is great for larger bodies, people with restricted movement, or someone with a bio cock. Thong and g-styles have a center strap that nestles between your buns. With a two-strap harness, the bottom two straps go between your legs and around the ass cheeks, like the afore-mentioned picture frame. Some of these have versatile straps that slide to the center for some g-string action, if you want to try it out. Most of the harnesses we carry are adjustable, and some are extremely so.

Sporting a strap-on may feel or look strange or even silly to you at first. Try wearing it around the house before showing off the goods to your partner. Get comfy, let it mold to your shape for a bit, and test your penis space perception by making sharp turns around corners and trying not to bump into the furniture.

Thigh Harnesses and More

There are even different harnesses for people to wear on other body parts! Thigh harnesses are probably the most well known. These are perfect for larger bodies, people with restricted movement, or someone who wants an un-obstructed view of the penetration party. Try the Buckling Thigh Harness for a sexy, sturdy leather option. The Spareparts La Palma Glove is one of our most recent favorites because it’s great for finger fucking when your hands get tired, frees the fingers to do other titillating things, and allows for a nice hard thrust. Face and chest harnesses, which are handy for oral sex with penetration, round out the harness family, for now anyway. Foot harness anyone?

Get to the Cocks, Already!

Harness-compatible dildos come in an insane variety of shapes, sizes, colors, materials, degree of realism, etc. The most basic rule when picking out a cock to strap on is that it must have a flared, flat base. Some have plain bases, some may have flat or 3D balls, and some have a suction cup. Suction cups are cool when you want to get frisky hands-free with the shower wall, but they don’t make the best base inside an o-ring because they can flop around and/or rip fairly easily. Balls are a great addition when it comes to gender expression or fantasy play, but make sure they are flat enough on the back to fit securely and comfortably in your harness. We love the VixSkin Goodfella because it has a flat base completely separate from awesome, lifelike 3D balls.

Color is a personal choice. A lot of people like to keep it realistic and match their dildo with their skin tone, others like realistic skin tones other than their own, and of course there is the ever-popular purple shimmer. The same goes for texture. Veins and a realistic head can look and feel great in any color, from mocha to turquoise. Smooth, silky dildos, like the Tantus Silk range are perfect for those who don’t like a bumpy ride or for anal beginners.

A tip we like to give is that a dildo with a lip, or distinctive ridge at the head, may help serve as a guide for how far you can pull out of the vagina or anus. It will also give extra sensation to your partner’s G-spot or prostate. When it comes to size, be reasonable and respectful of the needs and desires of the person you’ll be fucking. When you get to pick out your own dick, it may be tempting to go for the stretch Escalade, but when you can’t find anywhere to park it, you won’t be feeling so hot anymore. When possible, shop with your partner and have them close their eyes and wrap their hand around the widest insertable portion of the dildo. If the size feels about right for what they’ve had inside them and enjoyed in the past, you’ve got a winner.

If you’re going it solo, we love classic, sexy models likeVixSkin Tex (shorter, g-spot pleasing curve and head), VixSkin Bandit (reasonable girth with longer length for good control), Vixen Mistress (slender with a bit of extra length for control) Fun Factory Magnum. On a tight budget? Basix dildos are made of rubber, which we do not recommend as highly as silicone, since the material is porous, but they are latex-free and phthalate-free. Basix come in a variety of sizes and colors, with some that vibrate, and even double dildos.

Ah, the double dildo! Thankfully, the jelly rubber relics of yore are nearly obsolete thanks to the fine design and marketing of silicone companies Tantus, Fun Factory, and Vixen. Try the Feeldoe if you want to go for the no-harness double dildo thing, but be aware that strong PC muscles are a must. The Share has a much easier to grip “giver” side, but it is also rather large for some. Both of these dildos can be used with a harness as well. Vixen created their Nexus double dildos to be used in a harness. These have great balance between both ends and an awesome angle for mutual pleasure.

A successful harness and dildo combination should make you and your partner feel comfortable, sexy, and bring pleasure. With the right fit, it can become like an extension of one’s body, creating a unique and satisfying sexual experience.

12