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Aug 27 2015

Buzz Kill: The Ultimate Guide to Turning a Vibrator Off

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by Chelsea

This guest post is written by our friend and sex educator Lucas!

The staff at The Pleasure Chest answer thousands of questions about sex and sex toys on a daily basis. But the most frequently asked question may surprise you. No, it’s not about giving the best blow job. It’s not about finding the g-spot. It is, in fact…

“How do I turn this off?”

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Don’t panic, though! I assure you, we are all especially skilled in the art of turning off a vibrator, and we are are here to properly equip you for any visit you make have to our store, should you turn something on, panic, and not be able to turn it off.

First of all, how many buttons does it have?

A) 1
- Push it.
- Push it again.
- Still going? You should probably hold it down for a few seconds. Good? Good.

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B) 2
- Do the buttons have a + or – symbol on them? If so, hold the – button for a few seconds.
- If not, just hold one of them done. That should probably work. If not, ask the nearest Sex Specialist.

C) 3
- Do the buttons have a + or – symbol on them? If so, again…hold the – button for a few seconds.
- No luck? It’s the other one. I can almost guarantee it. It probably has a squiggly line or a shameless brand logo on it.

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D) 4
- We must be getting into Lelo territory. Again, that – button is your best friend.

E) None
- Okay then…what does it have instead?
1) A twisty thing
- Twist it. Counterclockwise
2) A pull cord.
- We definitely didn’t sell you that, and it’s probably not something you should use on your genitals.
3) None. What gives?
- Sorry to break this to you…but not everything in our store vibrates. Some folks get their jollies by other methods. If it breaks your heart that this beautiful piece cannot mechanically tremble within or around your privates, speak to our staff and we can possibly teach you some clever ways of rectifying this situation, but that, my friends, is a different blog post.

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Lucas Brooks is a New York-based writer, performance artist, and sex educator. His blog “The Intellectual Homosexual” (formerly “Top to Bottom”) has been named one of the top 100 sex blogs in the world by four different websites and magazines. He has spent the last three years touring the continent with his one-man shows “VGL 5’4″ Top” and “Cootie Catcher”, the former of which was named “Best LGBT Show” in the Orlando Fringe Festival in 2014. As a sex educator, he has presented at Dark Odyssey events and Catalyst Con, and is currently on staff at The Pleasure Chest.

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Apr 22 2015

Our Top 6 Picks for Earth-Safe Sex

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by Chelsea

You can make every day Earth Day… in your pants! Want to make your sex life as eco-friendly as the rest of your life? Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re concerned with both your health and your pleasure.

Personal Health
Promoting a safe environment starts with your own body. Some toys and lubes are made with chemicals like phthalates or additives like glycerin and propylene glycol, which can be irritating to your skin. Look for brands whose materials and ingredients reflect a commitment to your health – body-safe silicone toys and pH balanced, glycerin-free lubes, for instance. We especially love:

Jimmyjane Form 2  Jimmyjane Hello Touch XJimmyjane Form 5

JimmyjaneVersatile luxury toys made from body-safe, medical-grade silicone — what’s not to love? Plus, they’re so well-made that they’ll last you years and years. That’s sustainability we can get behind!

Sliquid H20 Sliquid Lip Lickers Sliquid Satin

Sliquid: Free of potentially-irritating additives, vegan, and cruelty free, Sliquid lubes are friendly to both the Earth and sensitive skin.

Also check out:

Fun Factory
Je Joue
- Minna
- Aneros
- Tantus
- Njoy
- Uberlube*
- Southern Butter**

Global Sustainability
Manufacturing practices are a big part of keeping pleasure products eco-friendly. These companies’ ecological footprints are as modest as their toys are exceptional.

Fun Factory Amorino  Fun Factory Cobra Libre IIFun Factory Bouncer Dildo

Fun Factory: You can always feel good about taking home a Fun Factory toy: they have some of the most eco-friendly practices in the business. All of their body-safe products are designed, manufactured, and packaged in their factory in Germany, which offers top-notch working conditions. Their minimal packaging is made of recycled cardboard, without plastic or glue. Oh, and the toys are innovative and awesome.

Southern Butter BlissOn Southern Butter Intimate Butters Southern Butter Massage

Southern Butter**: This lube and body product company takes sustainability seriously, even growing many of the plants and herbs they use in their own garden or sourcing them from local farmers.

Also check out:

Jimmyjane
- Tantus
- Crave
- Oxballs
- New York Toy Collective

Social Responsibility
Some brands aren’t just businesses: they’re active members of their communities, both locally and globally. Whether by donating safer sex supplies where they’re needed most or finding ways to make body-safe lube without animal testing, these brands go the extra mile.

Sir Richard's Condom CollectionONE Mixed Pleasures

Sir Richard’s Condom Company & ONE CondomsBoth of these companies support safer sex, and not just by selling condoms. Sir Richard’s donates a condom for every condom you buy, and ONE regularly partners with healthcare professionals and community groups on a variety of projects for making safer sex supplies and education more available.

Also check out:

Jimmyjane
Sliquid
- Good Clean Love
- Southern Butter**

*Pro tip: If you want to use a silicone lube with a silicone toy, cover the toy with a condom first. We love both, but they don’t play well together.
** Oil-based lubes stay slick and can even condition skin – just don’t use them with latex condoms!

Nov 05 2014

Semenette Q&A: How to Use our Favorite Squirting Dildo

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by Chelsea

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Looking for a squirting dildo? We’re smitten with the Semenette, the only silicone toy of its kind. Lucky for us, Stephenie R. Berman, who designed and now sells this unique toy, agreed to chat with one of our staff and share some pro tips for getting the most out of your Semenette experience.

stephanie bermanI hear that the company has a great origin story. Would you share it?

I own a women’s reproductive health company with my family. I’ve been helping couples get pregnant since 2003. When I married my wife in 2011 and we started thinking more seriously about a family, we realized that the only options available for at-home insemination were a turkey baster or a syringe – even though I had access to all of this medical equipment.

When we started trying, I found that I just didn’t have enough hands for all of the equipment: syringe, lube, flashlight, speculum.  I started wearing a head lamp!

Wait, why did you need a flashlight?

To get the semen as close to the cervix as possible. There was nothing intimate or romantic about it. After a lot of awkward, uncomfortable, failed attempts, I started thinking about how to make the experience better overall, because anything would be better than what we were doing. I thought that if [penis-in-vagina sex] works for heterosexual couples, why wouldn’t it work for a same sex couple to mimic the experience? A year and a half later, I was knee deep in the world of sex toys. I had prototypes and a business.

How long before you could start selling them?

I started the company in 2012. The Semenette has only been on the market since February.

My wife and I did conceive using the Semenette, by the way. We have a seven month old. The most rewarding part of this job is the success stories, and I’ve heard several. I love to help people start a family with love, privacy and intimacy. I like to joke that I’m not just the president, I’m also a client.

It’s not just about pregnancy, though: it’s about intimacy and romance. I don’t want to pigeonhole this toy as a tool for home insemination.

Have you heard from customers who are using it as a toy, not primarily for insemination? Were you ever surprised by who was buying it?

I actually didn’t think of the obvious: trans men. The Semenette isn’t flexible enough to be used as a packer, but it still lets you mimic an ejaculation. I’ve heard from gay men, folks in the fetish community, and men who have erectile dysfunction or are sterile. It’s also great for straight couples who are far apart, maybe having phone sex, who want a better way to simulate being together.

semenette largeWhat sets this toy apart from other squirting dildos on the market?

The Semenette is made 100% in the U.S.A.  It’s made of medical grade silicone, which is phthalate free, non-porous, and hypoallergenic. The tubing that threads through the middle is removable and replaceable, which keeps everything clean. You can keep using the same bulb, though, since the liquid should never come in contact with the bulb.

I’m looking at the Semenette and trying to figure out how exactly I’d strap it on and what I would do with the bulb once I’m ready to go. Any tips?

It’s a standard size and the base is also a fairly standard size. I tried to make it as universal as possible, so that it could fit into almost any harness. There’s a groove on the bottom of the toy for the tubing, so that when you put it in the harness it lays flat and doesn’t kink. The tube isn’t too long, and the idea is that you can just tuck it into the harness. That’s why we made the bulb smaller – we didn’t want you to be saddled with this hulking thing.

Do you have a favorite harness to use with the Semenette?

I love any Spareparts harness!

Got any other insider tips?

When you’re drawing the liquid into the bulb, you want to be careful. That small bulb is surprisingly strong! Do a couple of trial runs with water. Make sure that you can pull the liquid in without trapping air bubbles and then test the squirtablility.

Also – and I’m not a doctor – some lubricants can be extremely toxic to sperm. If you’re trying to conceive, make sure that you’re using one that’s going to work for you.

Pleasure Chest tip: if you’re using the Semenette to mimic ejaculation, try using a hybrid lube like Liquid Silk, Sliquid Silk or Spunk for a realistic touch!

Aug 22 2014

7 Toys for Anal Sex Beginners

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by Chelsea

Interested in anal? The trick is to start small. Whether you’re warming up for intercourse or just want to experience the fun of a butt plug, we have a few favorite toys to get you started.

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Lube Shooter

This little gadget is the key to having the best butt sex ever. Even when you lube up your toys (which you should always do), the lube often ends up collecting around the outside of the butthole. A Lube Shooter is a thin syringe that you fill with lube, so that you can insert the lube directly into your ass, where it belongs. Make sure to put some lube on the outside of the lube shooter before you do, though! (Some would argue that the lube shooter is not a toy but an accessory. To those people, we say: wait until you’ve tried mad scientist role play.)

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Tantus Silk Small
As slim as a finger but without those pesky nails and knuckles, this is the perfect anal toy for nervous beginners.

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Aneros Helix Syn
This slim, comfortable plug is designed to rest against your prostate – and you can make it rock back and forth using only the movements of your muscles. Effortless, hands-free prostate massage during intercourse? Yes please.

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Aneros Progasm Jr. 

Most Aneros toys – and we love them all – are only really worth using if you have a prostate for them to massage. The smaller version of their popular Progasm massager, however, is great for everyone. If you enjoy G-spot play, you’ll find that if you wear the Progasm Jr. during intercourse, it will angle the cock up toward your G-spot.

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Tantus Ripple

Do you know how anal beads work? No? Let us explain. Insert the beads slowly, one by one. Then, leave them in while you do whatever sexy things make you feel good. When you’re about to orgasm, pull the beads out, again slowly. Removing the beads will make your butt muscles contract over and over again, which will make your orgasm crazy powerful! We like the Ripple because it’s made of body safe silicone and because it’s all one piece, which makes it easier to insert than the traditional beads-on-a-string design.

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Njoy Fun Wand

We cannot rave about the Fun Wand enough! This gorgeous toy is made of stainless steel: heavy, smooth, great for temperature play, and incomparable to anything else. One end of the wand has a slight upward curve, making it perfect for prostate play (and G-spot play, since this is a toy you can sterilize). Plus, the prostate tends to respond to firm pressure, and the weight of the toy does half of the work for you! The other end functions as a set of anal beads. We also love the Fun Wand for beginners because it heats up when you run it under warm water, making it really comfortable to insert.

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Black Latex Gloves

Let’s not forget some of your best sex toys: your fingers. Smooth over callouses and nails with latex gloves – or nitrile gloves, if you’re sensitive to latex. Your butt’s sensitive skin will thank you. Whether or not you’re into penetration, we recommend lubing up your gloved fingertips and stroking and massaging the anus. Your butthole is one of the most nerve-dense places in the body (second only to the clitoris), and it deserves some love.

Jun 02 2014

Our Top 5 Toys for Outdoor Sex

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by Chelsea

Looking for adventure? We’ve got what you need to get down and dirty in the great outdoors.

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We-Vibe Tango

Pocket this powerful bullet before your next hike! The We-Vibe Tango is ultra-strong, fully waterproof, and won’t take up too much space in your pack. With two hours of play from a single charge, you can count on the Tango for quite a few woodsy quickies. If you’re traveling solo, tuck the Tango into the strategically-placed bullet pocket of your favorite Spareparts harness, for a very interesting trip.

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Sports Cuffs and Tethers Kit

Take bondage out of the bedroom with this versatile kit. Made of neoprene – the same material as wetsuits – Sports Cuffs are comfy, lightweight, and easy to wash. Clip them together, or use the nylon tethers to tie your partner to a nearby tree.

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Njoy Pure Plugs

Don’t want to carry an arsenal of toys into the wilderness? Go hands-free! Pure Plugs are comfortable enough for long-term wear, and their pleasant weight will turn any trek into a luxurious anal massage. Smooth, sturdy and non-porous, these stainless steel plugs simply make sex better.

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Sliquid Naturals Lube Cube Sampler

You should never have to go without lube, but that doesn’t mean that you should risk leaking silicone all over your sleeping bag. Enter Sliquid! This small sample box comes with two single serving packets each of thin water-based lube, thick water-based gel, silicone lube, and their three most popular flavors of Sliquid Swirl: Blue Raspberry, Cherry Vanilla, and Green Apple. Slip one in your back pocket, or take the whole box for variety!

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Fun Factory Meany Mini Vibe

If you’re planning a long excursion, you don’t want to have to worry about recharging your vibrator, or about bringing a toy for every mood. The battery-operated Meany is an extra nice alternative. Totally non-porous, pleasingly soft, and shaped for either clit or G-spot stimulation, this little vibe makes a great road buddy.

Don’t forget your Pjur Med Clean Wipes, for cleaning your toys and yourself on the go!

May 06 2014

Our Top 5 Strap-On Pairings

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by Chelsea

Dildos and harnesses are like fine wines and gourmet cheeses (or pizza and beer, or a double feature of mid-career Nicholas Cage films): paired perfectly, each enhances the experience of the other.

Here are some of our favorite five-star dildo/harness pairings:

Strength and Comfort

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Spareparts Joque Harness & Vixskin Maverick

Our most versatile harness is also our sturdiest – perfect for a sizable toy like the deliciously realistic Vixskin Maverick. Like all Vixskin toys, the Maverick is made of dual density silicone, with a hard inner core and a soft outer layer, making it both more lifelike and more comfortable for the receiver. Speaking of comfort, the Joque is easily adjustable for folks of all sizes, and once you get it to the size you want, you can slide it easily on and off like underwear. Slip a couple of bullet vibes into its well-placed vibrator pockets, and you’ll both be buzzing with delight.

A Classic, Upgraded

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Jaguar Leather Harness & Tantus Curve

The Jaguar’s ultra-sturdy design, flattering cut and supple leather make it a stylish alternative to a basic leather harness. Pair it with another simple-yet-brilliant design: the Tantus Curve, which – true to its name – curves upward for G-spot or prostate access and massages the receiver with its gentle ridges. Like every dildo on this list, the Curve is 100% silicone: hypoallergenic, easy to clean, and safe to share.

Femme Fantastique 

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Spareparts Bella Harness & Fun Factory Share

Feeling femme? With its lace back and seductive details, the Spareparts Bella harness lets you express your girly side; it even comes with detachable garter clips, for pin-up appeal. Like all Spareparts harnesses, it can support anything from a slim dildo to a 2″ wide porn star replica. Plus, the elastic O-ring sits low enough that you can use it to hold the Fun Factory Share – the wildly popular wearable double dildo – while you focus on doubling your pleasure.

Keep it Simple

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Terra Firma Harness & Vixen Mistress with Vibe

The chic leather Terra Firma Harness is intuitive to put on, easy to adjust, and always dependable. Pair it with the Vixen Mistress, a flexible silicone toy with a little ridge and a lot of vibration – ideal for butt beginners or anyone who prefers an smaller dildo.

Be Brief

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RodeoH Harness & Five Jules Dildo (Small)

Slip on the RodeoH; commence looking adorable. This stylish harness not only looks like a cute pair of briefs: it’s just as cozy. We recommend pairing it with lightweight toys, like the small, smooth-to-the-touch Five Jules Dildo, designed for folks who want a not-phallic toy.

Nov 19 2013

Sex FAQs

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by thepleasurechest

Here at The Pleasure Chest, we spend a lot of time talking to people about their sex lives. Consequently, we also spend a lot of time answering a pretty short list of questions. While we’re always happy to answer them in person, we thought that you might appreciate some quick and dirty answers to our most frequently asked questions.

1)      How can I have a stronger orgasm?

  • Fact: Orgasms strengthen your pelvic floor muscles (also called PC muscles, for the pubococcygeus muscle). Combining orgasms with Kegel exercises will help tone your PC muscles, which are directly related to both urinary function and ejaculatory function. Well toned PC muscles also produce stronger orgasms.
  • Pleasure chest prescription: Many people don’t give their body enough time to build up to their orgasm. Try using a massage candle paired with a seductive massage before accessing the genitals. If you plan to incorporate a vibrator, trace the vibrator over your body to awaken nerve endings. Take your orgasm to the next level by exercising your PC muscles regularly. Kegel balls are a sure way to incorporate your exercises into your daily life. Put them in while you shower, during your morning commute, or when you go to the gym.

2)      How can I get my partner to do (fill in the blank: anal sex, threesome, BDSM)?

  • Fact: In order to enjoy sex, you have to be aroused, right? Nothing kills arousal faster than anxiety, since your body interprets it a sign to stop doing superfluous fun things – like sending blood to your genitals – and focus on survival. Stressing your partner out by demanding that they help you live out your fantasy will probably achieve the opposite of what you want.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Start an open conversation about what turns each of you on and what you’d like to try in the future. You might be surprised to see where you overlap! We recommend scheduling a sex date at least once a year. This date focuses on communication rather than sexual intercourse. Each partner privately fills out a yes/no/maybe list and then you get together to negotiate your sexual desires. It is important to do this at least once a year as our desires change over time.

3)      How can I increase my sexual desire and libido?

  • Fact: Sex is not the only ingredient in a healthy sexual relationship. It is important to incorporate touch, romance, communication and playfulness into your daily life with your partner.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription:  Incorporate touch into your daily routine and longer sessions of touching into your sex life. Touch increases attraction and, when combined with eye contact, can increase desire. If you want an extra boost, make time for things that turn you on: watch porn you like (or even movies and TV that feature actors you’d like to roll around with), read erotica, or just imagine sexy scenarios.

 

4)      I’ve never had an orgasm. Help!

  • Fact: A lot of factors go into orgasm: your PC muscles, your level of physical arousal, and also your mental state.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Strengthening your PC muscles can do a lot to help you achieve orgasm. If you’ve never used a vibrator, give that a try. A lot of women find that the consistent sensation of vibration is the only thing that gets them over the edge. As impossible as it can seem, the best thing that you can do for yourself is to put the idea of having an orgasm on the back burner and focus on enjoying what you’re doing. Try some new things, alone and with a partner, and discover what feels underwhelming and what feels amazing. Take your time, enjoy a ton of foreplay, explore some new fantasies, and find out what it takes to get you really turned on. Eventually, one of those things is going to give you an orgasm, and in the meantime you’ll have had a lot of fun.

 

5)      I want to have sex, but I’m too (fill in the blank: busy, old, fat, tired).

  • Fact: Not only are you fully capable of having sex, but having sex is a great way to stay healthy! An active sex life helps your immune system, especially in fighting colds, and is a key element in your overall health.  Sexual intercourse lowers your systolic blood pressure. It also keeps your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance which is good for your heart. Orgasms are a great substitute for aspirin, as they help to raise your pain threshold. People have reported that they help with menstrual cramps, back pain, arthritis and headaches. Plus, orgasms improve your sleep by releasing prolactin, a hormone which promotes relaxation and sleepiness.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Expand your definition of sex. You may not be up for a marathon of porno-style sexual intercourse, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun. Oral sex, hand jobs, or just cuddling up with your partner and a vibrator are still completely legitimate ways to stay sexually active. If you’re worried about finding partners, you don’t have to be. Only on TV is sex the sole property of nineteen-year-old supermodels.

 

6)      How can I make my penis larger?

  • Fact: Penis pumps can actually make a small difference in girth. If you decide to try pumping, be realistic about your goals; pumping stretches the skin without increasing blood flow to the genitals, so excessive pumping can leave you looking a little flaccid. In any case, here’s a fun fact:  women whose partners have smaller penises actually report higher rates of sexual satisfaction than women with large-shlonged partners.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: We’re willing to bet that the women with the less-well-endowed partners were so happy because their partners weren’t relying solely on their penises to get their partners off. Given how few people reach orgasm by (receiving) vaginal or anal intercourse alone, you’ll thrill your partner by picking up some new oral sex skills, or learning to be amazing with your hands. If you’d still like to increase your size, try using a cock ring, which stops blood from leaving the penis as quickly, so that you look bigger and feel harder and more sensitive.

 

7)      How do I keep from ejaculating so quickly?

  • Fact: First of all, we want to stress that ejaculation is great for you! Ejaculate expels carcinogens that accumulate in the prostate. Ejaculating at least 12 times a month will help reduce your risk of prostate cancer by 1/3. On the other hand, we understand that it can be fun to delay ejaculation until later in your sex session.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: If over-sensitivity is the issue, a condom can cut down on the amount of friction you feel, which can help you last. You can also try a ball stretcher: a loose ring that fastens around the top of your scrotum. (Stay with us here!) The ring can help delay ejaculation by preventing the testicles from pulling into the body like they normally do before orgasm. The easiest solution, though, is to spice up your routine with activities that won’t lead you immediately to orgasm. Plus, no one is cooler than a guy who wants to spend time using his hands, mouth, or even a toy to get his partner off even after he’s ejaculated.

 

8)      What can I do to tighten my vagina?

  • Fact: You don’t necessarily want a tighter vagina, but you do want more control over your PC muscles. Strong PC muscles allow you to grip your partner tightly, and they also allow you to have stronger orgasms. Exercising your PC muscles is good for your overall vaginal health: bringing blood flow to the vagina encourages vaginal elasticity and pliability and prevents vaginal atrophy later in life.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Do your Kegels! The great thing about PC muscle exercises is that you can do them while you’re watching TV, sitting in traffic, or in the line at the grocery store. Tense the muscle, hold it for a couple of seconds, and then release it. Try doing three reps of ten three times a day, and you’ll be on your way to super strong PC muscles! Better yet, invest in some Kegel balls, which speed up the process by give the muscles some resistance.

 

9)      I want to have anal sex but it hurts.

  • Fact: Vaginas self-lubricate when you get aroused. Butts do not. Artificial lubricant is essential to making anal sex safe and comfortable. Also, most people hold a lot of tension in their anuses, which can make anal sex difficult, if not impossible. Successful anal intercourse requires time, lubricant, relaxation, and a lot of arousal.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: First, get a big bottle of good lube, and plan to use it. When it comes to anal sex, if you think you’re using enough lube, you’re not. Plan for anal sex to take time – not just over the course of an evening, but over several sessions. Experiment with non-penetrative butt play: your partner can massage your anus (with lube!), rim you, or use a vibrator on you, all without you worrying if it’s going to hurt. Only try penetration if you’re super aroused. Soon enough, you’ll stop associating anal sex with pain, and your body will relax enough to make anal penetration possible and enjoyable.

10)   How can I spice up my sex life?

  • Fact: Your brain reacts to novelty by releasing dopamine, just like it does when you have sex or eat cupcakes.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Challenge yourself to try something new every time you have sex for the next month. Review your yes/no/maybe list with your partner to see what sparks both of your fantasies. We always love new toys for spicing things up: why not try a vibrating cock ring, a G-spot toy, or some basic bondage gear?

 

11)   I have vaginal dryness. What can I do?

  • Fact: Vibrators have been shown to help vaginal dryness by boosting pelvic blood flow.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: Make time for your favorite toy! Even better, incorporate it into the sex you have with your partner. Don’t shy away from using lube, though. A good lube, especially a moisturizing lube like Sliquid Satin, will keep things comfortable for you and prevent the extra friction from causing tiny abrasions in your vagina. Ouch!

 

12)   I don’t like giving my partner oral sex.

  • Fact: Some people find that giving oral sex is stressful on their knees, their necks, or their jaws. Some people simply object to their partner’s taste, which can be affected by diet. Coffee, alcohol, meat, dairy, and dark green, iron-rich vegetables can all give a person’s sexual fluids a bitter taste, while acidic fruits like pineapple can make them taste sweeter.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: If position is your problem, try a new one! Lie on the bed instead of kneeling, or use a Liberator pillow to position your partner for easier access. If your jaw is cramping up, take a break and use your hands for a while. If your partner’s taste is too intense for you, you could always try making them a smoothie. Showering together can also help, if you suspect that sweat is the culprit. Finally, condoms, dental dams and flavored lube are always an option for oral sex. If you think that something is really off about your partner’s smell or taste, though, you should let them know; it can be a sign of a minor and easily treatable bacterial infection.

 

13)   Will using a vibrator permanently make me numb?

  • Fact: Using a vibrator can make it more difficult for you to orgasm other ways, but only if you always use the same vibrator on the same setting every single time you masturbate or have sex. Repetition is the problem, not vibration.
  • Pleasure Chest prescription: If you love your vibrator but you don’t want to train yourself to get off only one way, vary your routine. Use different vibrators, use your hands, use your shower head, or use your partner.

 

14)   My partner wants to use a sex toy, but I’m afraid it will replace me.

  • Fact: We spend all day talking to people about their sex lives, and we’ve never met anyone who wanted to stop having sex with their partner because of a toy.In fact, many toys are designed not to mimic the human body but to do things that it can’t do. For instance, did you know that the clitoris extends several centimeters into the body? Vibration accesses the entire clitoris in a way that your hands just can’t.
  • Pleasure Chest Prescription: Rather than taking it as a sign of defeat that you can’t vibrate (or that your vagina isn’t lined with large, soft nubs and ridges like a Fleshlight), enjoy using toys as tools to make your partner feel as good as possible. (If you’re spooked by something too realistic, go for a toy that’s brightly colored and non-anatomical.) After all, the one thing that makes you definitively better than a sex toy is that you’re creative in bed.

May 17 2013

How To Choose A Dildo

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by thepleasurechest

So you’re in the market for a dildo. If you’ve browsed our site or taken a stroll through one of our stores, you might be overwhelmed by the sheer variety of dildos available for purchase. Let us help you choose the right tool for the job!

Choosing a Material

Dildos come in a variety of materials, from plastic, rubber and silicone to wood, glass and stainless steel. Each material offers its own unique sensation and there are strengths to each type of toy. The most affordable dildos are often made of plastic or rubber. Some types of rubber, especially those made from Cyberskin, can feel amazingly soft and lifelike. The Cybercock Dildo is a great introduction to the benefits of Cyberskin. Because plastic and rubber are porous, you’ll want to use a condom if you plan to share these toys with a partner.

The most popular dildos are made from silicone, which is non-porous, pliable and very easy to clean. Silicone toys tend to be more expensive than rubber or plastic, but if you take care of them, they can last a lot longer. They’re also fine for use with multiple partners. They can be sterilized in boiling water and most brands are dishwasher safe.

Toys made from glass and stainless steel are great if you’re looking for a firmer sensation. Both are also ideal for enhancing your experience with temperature play. Simply put your dildo in the freezer to chill out or hold it under a warm tap to heat things up.

Realistic?

Some people crave a realistic look and feel in a dildo. Others prefer a non-phallic or modern design. This is a matter of personal taste, so there’s no right choice. Folks looking for realism might enjoy toys like the Tantus Adam which has a very soft silicone exterior with a firm inner core. When balls are a must, a fully-equipped dildo like the VixSkin Goodfella fits the bill. Porn fans will probably adore the Jeff Stryker Realistic Dildo or the James Deen Signature Silicone Vibrating Cock, both molded directly from their famous phalluses.

Or Not?

If you crave something less phallic, you’ll probably enjoy the smoothness of the Tantus Silk or the elegance of the Five Jules dildo, designed by lesbians, for lesbians. Steel and glass toys offer even more options, from the hefty beauty of the Njoy Eleven to the smooth simplicity of the Glass Curved Wand.

Small, Medium or Ginormous?

Picking the wrong size dildo can be a costly mistake. Close your eyes and grasp one, two, three or more of your fingers at the same time and think about the size of things you have enjoyed inside of you in the past. You can also do this with a cucumber, zucchini or other phallic fruit or veggie. If you want to try out the size, you can use these items with a condom to ensure the perfect fit.

Every dildo on our site has a “Specs” section listing the toy’s dimensions. If you’re just getting started or like ‘em on the smaller side, try something like the Tantus Compact or the small Vixen Realistic. Smaller dildos are also great when you’re first trying anal intercourse.

If you’re looking for something in the middle, try the Vixen Leo or the medium Tantus Silk on for size.

And when only a big dildo will do the job, check out the mighty Vixskin Maverick or the 7.5” Captain. If girth is more important than length, you might feel cozy with the Tantus Mr. Universe or the Vixen Randy.

Do You Want to Strap It On?

If you’re planning to strap it on, then you should pick a dildo that works with a harness. Anything with a wide base or balls should work, though some very large dildos might not fit your harnesses’ O-ring. If strapping it on its important, check this page for an assortment of dildos we’ve approved for harness play.

If you’re new to strapping it on, pick a dildo with a little extra length to keep it from slipping out. A dildo with a ridged head like the Vixen Woody or the VixSkin Maverick will help the wearer in sensing depth to avoid slippage.

Finally, when picking dildos with a partner, here’s a good rule of thumb: the person wearing the cock should pick the look of it (realistic, color, balls, etc) and the person receiving should pick the size. Everybody’s happy.

How Do You Feel About Vibration?

Want to add a little buzz to the action? Some dildos, like the Vixen Mistress and the Tantus Buzz come with removable bullet vibrators. On a budget? The rubber Basix 8” Vibrating Dong comes with a handy wired remote. If you’re not satisfied with the vibe that comes with your dildo, swap it out for something stronger. The We-Vibe Tango is one of the strongest bullet vibes we’ve ever tried.

Remember that even if your dildo doesn’t come with vibration, you can always add vibration when strapping it on. When strapping it on, ask yourself who wants the vibration: the wearer or receiver? And where do you want the vibration, internally or externally?

If the wearer wants direct vibration externally, the Tantus Panty Play vibrator is an excellent fit, as it can be worn under the harness. Some harnesses like the SpareParts Joque even come with hidden pockets for positioning a vibe at the base of the dildo. You can make any dildo vibrate with a vibrating cockring, and when positioned right, it should hit the clit of the wearer. If you want stronger vibration, pick a dildo with a vibrator in it and select a separate vibrating cockring.

Packing Dildos

Whether for gender expression or fantasy play, some folks prefer to pack. If you want a realistic bulge that can still be worn under clothing, take a look at the Sailor Softskin Packer or Vixskin Mr. Right. Worn with a packing strap or packing underwear like the SpareParts Pete, these are ideal for daily wear.

The Angle of the Dangle

Where do you want that dildo to reach? If you want to stimulate a G-Spot or P-Spot, then your best bet is a dildo with a shaft that curves upward. Some toys, like the Fun Factory Tiger and the Admiral Dildo are designed especially for hitting the right spot. The handheld, stainless-steel Njoy Pure Wand is also great for targeting and stimulating your G-Spot or prostate.

Doubles Anyone?

Double your fun with a dildo for two. Double dildos can feel like an extension of yourself and provide wonderful sensations especially while thrusting. They’re ideal for gender play and for feeling more connected to your partner.

The Fun Factory Wave has a unique flexible center, perfect for sharing with a friend. If one of you wants to be in the active role, try a Tantus Feeldoe or the Fun Factory Share.  These are designed to be held in place by your Kegel muscles while you have anal or vaginal intercourse with your partner. They can be used with or without a harness.

 

Apr 26 2012

8 Essentials to Fulfill
Your “50 Shades” Fantasies

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by thepleasurechest

Has Fifty Shades of Grey turned you on to the erotic possibilities of bondage and submission? If so, you won’t want to miss our new workshop Fifty Shades of Pleasure, which will teach you how to safely explore your kinky fantasies. If you want to play like Grey, here are eight essentials you’ll need, paired with steamy quotes from the books.

Riding Crop

“He walks round me again, trailing the crop around the middle of my body. On his second circuit, he suddenly flicks the crop, and it hits me underneath my behind… against my sex.”

Cumfy Cuffs

“He produces some leather cuffs from his back pocket and reaches around me. This is it. Where’s he going to take me this time?”

Smartballs

“…the balls weigh down inside me, massaging me internally. It’s such a weird feeling and not entirely unpleasant. In fact, my breathing accelerates as I stretch up for a glass from the kitchen cabinet, and I gasp. Oh my… I may have to keep these. They make me needy, needy for sex.”

Ultra Blindfold

“He reaches down, lifts my chin, and plants a soft wet kiss on my lips before slipping the blindfold over my eyes.”

Rhinestone Glamour Cuffs

“Handcuffs! We’ve never used handcuffs. I glance quickly and nervously at the bed. Where the hell is he going to attach those?”

Njoy Pure Plug

“He moves one of his hands from my hips and twists the plug again, tugging it slowly, pulling it out and pushing it back in. The feeling is indescribable, and I think I’m going to pass out on the table.”

Magic Wand Original

“He plants soft wet kisses on my shoulder as he withdraws his fingers from me, and moves the wand down. It oscillates over my stomach, my belly, onto my sex, against my clitoris. Fuck, it’s intense.”

“What am I going to do? I want him, but on his terms? I just don’t know. Perhaps I should negotiate what I want. Go through that ridiculous contract line by line and say what is acceptable and what isn’t.”

For more information on BDSM, be sure to check out our selection of instructional books, including the excellent SM101.

Mar 09 2012

5 Steps to Finding
& Enjoying Your G-Spot

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by thepleasurechest

The G-Spot, also known as the urethral sponge, is the area inside a woman’s vagina that fills with fluid when aroused. It is analogous to the prostate in men, and is sometimes referred to as “the female prostate.” Many women have discovered that when applying direct pressure to the G-Spot, they can experience strong sensations, powerful orgasms, and (often) ejaculation!

The G-Spot can be a fantastic way to expand your orgasm and offer new sensations. However, please know that G-Spot stimulation is not always an orgasmic button. Some women find G-Spot stimulation uncomfortable, so be patient when exploring.

1. Find the G-Spot

It is ideal to be in a relaxed position, preferably on your back, or resting on pillows. To locate the G-Spot, insert a lubricated finger or fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina and press upward gently towards the belly button. When you find the area, it should feel spongy or textured. You can also use a firm, curved toy, like the Slimline G or the Pure Wand to assist in finding your G-Spot.

2. Stimulate the G-Spot

The G-Spot can feel sensitive or even painful if you are not aroused prior to stimulating it. For this reason, you may want to warm up with your favorite foreplay before G-Spotting.

When you’re ready, use a finger or fingers to stimulate the G-Spot with a “come hither” or beckoning motion. Bodies will respond differently to different types of stimulation, so experiment with pressure, rubbing, tapping, and vibration of the G-Spot to find what feels best. The G-Spot may respond by becoming hard. This is the result of fluid filling the area.

You can enhance the experience by taking your other hand and pressing down on the area between the navel and the pubic mound.If you are stimulating a partner’s G-Spot, you may also want to incorporate manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris.

3. Learn to Squirt

Many women who enjoy G-Spot play have also experienced ejaculation or “squirting.” Some women will only ejaculate a small amount while others might gush. This is not pee! Before play, lay down a towel or a waterproof blanket like The Fascinator.

In order to squirt, it’s important to be very relaxed. Empty your bladder prior to exploring. Fear of losing control and fear of incontinence could inhibit your ability to ejaculate. If you are trying to make a partner ejaculate, it is important to ease her fears about this. It is also a good idea not to place too much emphasis on making her ejaculate, so that she can enjoy the sensations without feeling pressure to perform.

A “need to pee” sensation is common and often the precursor to female ejaculation. If you feel yourself coming close to orgasm, bear down and pull the toy/penis/fingers out of the vaginal canal, as a full vagina can hinder ejaculation.

Through consistent stimulation of the G-Spot, many women are able to experience squirting, but it is not necessary to squirt to enjoy G-Spot play!

4. Try New Positions

Positioning is crucial for G-Spotting during partner penetration. Remember to angle fingers, toys, or penises upward, toward the belly button. For most women, the missionary position is not ideal for hitting the G-Spot. Many positions may work, but it’s important to remember that the G-Spot is only a few inches from the entrance to the vagina, so you must adapt your movements to ensure stimulation. Here are some positions especially recommended for G-Spotting with a partner.

  • Doggie style- This is the best position as it allows just the right angle for a penis or dildo to meet the G-Spot. Try slow and shallow thrusts. You can alternate these with deep penetration. The receiver can also finger her clitoris for added enjoyment.
  • Reverse cowgirl- In this position, the receiver sits astride her partner’s penis or dildo, facing away from them. Use a gentle rocking motion to stimulate the G-Spot.
  • Spooning- This is a great position as it allows the receiver to be totally relaxed and provides the ideal angle for G-Spotting.

For help with positioning you might also want to try using extra pillows or a Liberator Wedge.

5. Use Toys

There are many toys which can assist you in your G-Spotting.

Dildos with a gentle, upward curve can be a great aid in solo or partner G-Spot exploration. If you’re looking to strap it on, the Tantus Adam offers the right shape with a wide base for fitting in a harness.

The Njoy Pure Wand is widely considered to be one of the best tools for locating and pleasuring the G-Spot. Its stainless steel material is smooth and substantial, giving the necessary pressure for stimulation.

For women who would like to explore vibration, there are many vibrators designed for G-Spot play. One of the best and most affordable is the contoured Slimline G. On the higher end, the Je Joue G-kii is a luxury G-Spot vibrator, made of body-safe silicone. As every woman’s body is different, it’s also customizable, with two pivot points that you can adjust and lock, when you’ve found the right fit.

If you want to read more about G-Spot exploration, The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot by sexpert Violet Blue. Or if you’re a visual learner, check out the DVD Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to the G-Spot.

 

 

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