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Sep 24 2011

40 Ways to Make Life Sexier

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by thepleasurechest

We asked our LA store staff for their favorite sex tips. Here’s what they said…

Hard to remember to do your Kegel exercises? Do them at traffic lights! Every time you stop at a red light, squeeze for as long as you can, or until the light turns green, whichever comes first. -Sandra

Wrestle! The physical contact will make you sweaty, get your heart rate up and make you laugh. -Alicia

Buy a great lube, even if you think you don’t “need” one. Sometimes getting extra slippery can be just what the night needs. -Alicia

Take over one of your partner’s chores for a day. Let them relax and expect nothing in return (though you’ll probably get something!). -Alicia

Attend free sex workshops together. Get inspired! -Alicia

Find a great porn that really does it for you. -Alicia

Go down on someone without expecting anything in return. It’s sexy, fun and a good deed! -Alicia

Come up with a catchphrase to let your partner know you’re thinking of him or her naked. (Example: “Elephants are my favorite animal!”) With your partner’s consent, use the phrase often and in very public settings.  -Alicia

Roleplay! Make up a totally different persona and have your partner do the same. Don’t tell each other the details ahead of time. Meet at a predetermined location, commit to your newly acquired identities and let the sparks fly! -Oriana 

For women, the foreplay begins at dinner, not necessarily in the bedroom. Master the art of mental seduction by being attentive, making eye contact and engaging her in stimulating conversation. After all, nothing is sexier than a confident man or woman with brains to boot. -Oriana

The key to a sexy time is communication. Honestly discuss your dos and don’ts and learn to respect each other’s boundaries. It will make for a much more enjoyable time for all involved. -Oriana

Have an edible night! Edible body paint, chocolate-covered strawberries and whipped cream all have sexy possibilities. -Oriana

Whether you’ve been naughty or nice, a little spanking in the bedroom is always appropriate! Experiment with different positions rhythms. Use your hands or grab a wooden spoon from the kitchen. Just make sure to replace it afterwards! -Oriana

If your partner is female-bodied, don’t use oil-based lube, not even for anal play, as it can lead to a bacterial infection. Opt for a silicone, water-based or hybrid lube instead! -Madison

Buy great underwear. It can literally change your day. -Alicia

Compliment others. Putting all the positive energy into the world is bound to pay off somehow. Making others smile usually elicits the same response in ourselves.  -Alicia

Have a nooner. Sex in broad daylight just seems naughtier. -Alicia

Never underestimate the power of sexting. Fire up your imagination early in the day. By the time the evening comes, you won’t be able to control yourselves. -Alicia

Putting a cheeky finger in a willing butt is always fun. But be kind and lube that bad boy up before getting the party started! Spit is a sexy option, but may dry too quickly. -Madison

Set the scene! Light some candles, put together a sexy playlist, get your sexy ensemble on and make sure all your toys are at hand. -Madison

Ladies, own at least one set of sexy lingerie. Pull it out and surprise your partner(s)! Don’t have any? Bring your partner to The Pleasure Chest and pick something sexy out. -Madison

Prostitution roleplay! Have your partner meet you at a seedy motel. Dress up sexy and make them pay for it. Return home and ask them how their day went. Act like it never happened. -Kitty

Layer your sensations! Use a clit toy, nipple clamps and a toy in your ass, all at the same time, and take your orgasm to the next level. -Jamila

Do a sexy photoshoot alone or with your partner(s). Make it as tasteful or as raunchy as you want. -Alicia

Have naked movie dates. Watch a regular movie while completely nude. Try not to fool around during the entire movie. Even if you lose, you win! -Alicia

Put a little ice in your mouth before performing oral sex. The cold might be a welcome surprise to your lover. -Jess

Use bondage tape to make an outfit. Then have your lover cut it off. -Mary

Try gender play. A packer will put you in touch with your masculinity and make you feel sexy. Or, if you’ve always imagined yourself with breasts, try a pair of breast forms. Wear both at the same time and be a pomosexual gender warrior. -Matt

Gag reflex problem? Instead of numbing your throat with a spray, try swallowing! The act of swallowing should override your gag reflex. -Jess

Want to sweeten your come? Drink pineapple juice regularly! -Jess

Play the “Who can make the other come first?” game! Try your very best to make your partner climax before they make you come. The object of the game is to hold back for as long as you can, delaying that sweet, sweet release. -Shay

When you’re giving a blowjob, use thicker gel lubricant like Good Head. This will coat your mouth much better than a traditional water-based lube, so you can really get your face fucked! -Mykey

Try some sensory deprivation. Intensify your partner’s experience, or your own, by adding a blindfold and earplugs (or earbuds playing some mood-setting music). Taking away the ability to see and hear will not only heighten your sense of touch, but also add the thrill of “what’s coming next?” Have fun with it. Massage, sensation play, toys. The possibilities are endless! -Shay

Apply Nipple Nibblers to your asshole for a cool, tingly sensation. It will also make your asshole sweet and leave your lover’s tongue tingling. -Mykey

Invest in one really good toy, like a stainless steel Njoy plug or a Jimmyjane Form 2. -Lillian

Keep your partner’s package locked until you’re ready to play with a chastity device like the CB6000 or the Birdlocked. -Matt

This one’s perfect for an anniversary or birthday surprise. Buy a wireless vibrator with remote control. Wear the vibrator and then gift wrap the controller. When your partner unwraps it and asks what it does, tell them to switch it on and see your reaction. Or, if you want to be in charge, gift wrap the vibrator. When they open it, switch on the controls, so that it vibrates in their hand. Either way, you’re both in for a fun night. -Sandra

 Make a replica of your partner’s penis. You can use it when you’re apart and missing him. Or, tie him up and tease him, while he watches you get yourself off with his clone. For more fun, bend him over, lube him up and fuck him with his own cock. -Matt

Take a bath together. It’s a wonderful way to relax, and also great foreplay. Bring a waterproof toy to play with. Wash each other’s bits before the main event. – Matt

Write erotica starring yourself! - Lillian

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jun 17 2011

Sounding? Sounds like fun!

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by thepleasurechest

A sound is a medical instrument designed to stretch or enlarge the urethra. Sounds were originally developed to identify obstructions in the urethra, and to stretch the passage, allowing the flow of urine and semen. This tool was used to “sound the depths” of a patient’s urethra, in the same way that one measure’s the depth of water.

Sounds are also rapidly becoming a popular tool in the kinkster toybox, winning popularity with CBT enthusiasts, medical players and anyone looking to experience a new sensation during sex.

Surgilube

Sounds sexy!

It is! Sounding stimulates nerves you’ve never felt before. The sensation is often described as begin given a hand job from the inside.

A sound is usually inserted while the receiver (or “bottom”) is on his back. The sound is inserted into the meatus (also known to us regular folks as the “piss hole’). It should be allowed to slide down the urethra by gravity. You should never force or push a sound in. It’s always a good idea to use plenty of lube; we recommend Surgilube, a sterile medical lubricant. It may take awhile to find the natural path. Once inserted the weight of the sound should be supported by hand, as they are quite heavy.

After the sound is in place, you can create pleasurable sensations by sliding it gently up and down the shaft. You can also tap against the exposed end of the sound with another metal object or place a vibrator against it. We suggest a silicone vibrator, or something with a soft tip, as it will make gentler contact with the metal sound. Advanced players often like to combine sounding with electro-stimulation, using the exposed end as an electrical contact. Many players prefer to gently masturbate while sounding, reporting explosive orgasms.

Sounds like it’s for boys only!

Sounding is for girls too, but a woman’s urethra is much shorter than a man’s. For this reason, women looking to explore urethral play should try Hegar sounds. The Hegar sounds were actually developed for cervical dilation, but are also quite useful for urethral sounding. The Hegar sounds have a slight “S” curve, and are shorter than other designs. They also make excellent beginner sounds for men.

Sounds risky!

If you don’t take precautions, sounding can cause irritation, tearing and even a urinary tract infection. Infection can spread to the bladder, resulting in further complications. For this reason, it’s important to sterilize your sounds before each use. Unless you have an autoclave handy, you’ll want to boil your sounds. Some even suggest using a pressure cooker. You can also use a mixture of 9 parts water to one part bleach to clean your sounds.

When inserting a sound, use Surgilube, a sterile medical lubricant, to minimize the risk of infection. It is recommended to that you use the single serve packets rather than the tube, to minimize the possibility of contamination.

If you’re planning on sharing sounds with another person, all of the precautions we mentioned are doubly important.

Sounds complicated!

ss sound

Stainless Steel Sounds

It can be. But exploring the different types of sensations offered by sounds is part of the fun. Here’s a quick overview:

Pratt sounds are longer, and can be up to a foot in length. They have rounded ends with a slight bend on each side. These are for advanced male players, and not recommended for women.

Rosebud sounds derive their name from the bulbous shape of the tip. This type of sound focuses the sensation in one spot.

Hegar sounds are shorter, rounded on both ends, and have a slight “S” curve. These sounds are ideal for women, but can also be used by male beginners.

Van Buren sounds are designed for reaching and stimulating the bladder, and have a pronounced curve at the end. These J-shaped sounds may be difficult to remove with an erection, so a person may have to be soft before removal.

Dittel sounds are flat on one side and rounded on the other. The flat tip acts as a grip for insertion.

There are many other types of sounds, including those made of soft, body-safe silicone and sounds that vibrate.

Sounds like I should learn more!

Yes, you probably should. If you’re new to the world of sounding, you should consider learning from an experienced practitioner. Many professional dominants are skilled in the art of sounding.

Feb 19 2011

Choosing a Nipple Toy

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by thepleasurechest

Whether you like them tweaked, pinched, pumped or bedazzled, your nipples can be a source of erotic pleasure. But how to choose between the dozens of products designed for you precious buds? Perk up! Here’s our guide to choosing a nipple toy.

What’s your fetish?

We think that there are three main reasons that people play with their nipples:

1) Adornment

Adorning or decorating your nipples can be an exciting way to increase their visual appeal, while making you feel sexy.

Nipple Enhancers & Bedazzling

Bodyperks Nipple Enhancers– made famous on Sex & the City– are discreet silicone nubs, designed to be worn under a bra and over your real nipples. If you’re planning to go topless, there are a wide array of pasties and bedazzling products allowing you to get creative and express your own style. The Bijoux Mimi Rhinestone Pasties are eye-catching and easy to use.

2) Sensation Play

Nipples are extraordinarily sensitive, making them one of the main sites on the body for sensation play. While it’s assumed that the use of nipple clamps is primarily about pain, many people also find this activity pleasurable. All sensation exists on a continuum, and the toys designed for nipples also span the continuum from pleasant pressure to piercing pain.

The Wide World of Nipple Clamps

There are so many different sizes and styles of nipple clamps, that choosing among them can be truly intimidating. We’ve broken them down into toys which offer lighter or more distributed results to those which really get to the point!

Oooh!

  • Tweezer Clamps- This style of clamp offers the lightest and most erotic sensation. The level of intensity is easy to adjust with the sliding ring, and the pinch is distributed across the most surface area. These Sex Kitten Nips are a great choice.
  • Broad-tip- With a broad tip, you’ll feel the pinch spread across a greater surface area. The sensation will be less sharp than that produced by toys with a smaller tip. These Broad Tip Adjustable Nipple Clamps are a good choice for this kind of play. If you want an even more versatile toy capable of delivering similar results, the Press Adjustable Nipple Clamps can adapt to almost any size or shape of nipple, and offer maximum adjustability.
  • Snake Bite Kit- Though invented for sucking the venom out of snake bites, these have enjoyed popularity with nipple players. Simply squeeze the air out of the rubber cylinder and attach to your nipple. Like pumping, this creates a pleasurable sensation, drawing blood into the nipple and increasing sensitivity. Snake Bite Kits are also fun for attaching to the clitoris. Wherever you choose to put it, a little vibration can make it feel even better.

Ouch!

  • Alligator Clamps- These have “teeth” that look just like a gator’s open mouth. They usually have more bite than other kinds of clamps. In some cases, they can even draw blood. To avoid this, you may want to try the style that have rubber tips. These Adjustable Gator Clamps offer the best of both worlds.
  • Clover Clamps- Also known as Butterfly Clamps, these deliver a focused and intense sensation. They’re also designed to tighten when the chain is tugged, making for an interactive experience with your favorite dom.
  • Plier Clamps- Just like the name implies, these are like mini pliers for your nipples. They are not for beginners! The adjustment knob gives you the ability to build up the intensity.
  • Clothespins- It’s true. You can try nipple play with common wooden clothespins. You’ll probably discover that the tension on these differs widely, but they can be an excellent and inexpensive way to try sensation play.

3) Enlargement

For some people, bigger is better, and since nipples are erectile tissue, they can be stretched and enlarged, to increase their visual appeal. The process of enlargement can also be pleasurable, and result in greater nipple sensitivity.

Pumping & Enlargement Products

Pumps work by creating a suction vacuum around your nipple, stretching the tissue and drawing blood into it. If you’re just starting out, this Nipple Bulb is the ideal choice. It comes with four rubber rings designed to encircle the nipple and keep its shape. If you decide to make a serious commitment to enlarging your nipples, you can invest in a pumping system. These Nipple Cylinders come in three different sizes and can be attached to a pump. Make sure to pick a size that’s closest to (though bigger than) your current size. This way, you can increase your size gradually.

Weights ‘n Things

If your nipples are begging for more, remember that you can also add weight to your clamps. These Steel Weights come in 6oz. and 10oz. sizes, and can be attached to most nipple and cock toys with a D-ring. For added excitement, you can also get nipple clamps with built-in bullet vibes, combining pinch with vibration.

Tips for Using Nipple Toys

Remember that choosing the right toy is only part of discovering the joys of sensation play.

Location- You’ll likely discover that where you place the clamp is a big factor in the resulting sensation. In general, the smaller the surface area being clamped, the more intense the pain. If you want a more distributed effect, pull your nipple out, and place the clamp closer to the base of your nipple. If you really want to feel the pinch, place the clamp closer to the tip.

Duration- As with most sensation play, you will experience an endorphin rush, as your body responds to the pain of the clamps. After a while, you may adapt to the clamps. This can be deceptive! Remember that the most intense pain you’re likely to experience during nipple play comes when you remove the clamps and the blood rushes back into the nipple. The longer you leave the clamp in place, the more intense the feeling when you finally remove it.

Feb 19 2011

Basic Toy TLC

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by thepleasurechest

This is a general guide to help improve and even lengthen the happy life of your new sex toy. For instructions on caring for each type of sex toy material, see Sex Toy Materials, Care, and Cleaning.

Wash toys before their first use and immediately following each subsequent use.

Always remove batteries when storing vibrating toys.

Know whether your toy is water-resistant (“splash proof”) or water-proof. Only water-proof toys should be submerged in water.

Be sure the rubber ring around the battery compartment of your water-resistant or water-proof toy is present, intact, and tight. Do not use it in water if it is not.

A bit of electrical tape around the wire or cord can strengthen and protect wired toys.

Store porous toys separately in plastic bags.

Never excessively pull on or use the cord of a vibrating bullet as a “handle”. If you plan to insert it, put it inside a condom.

Feb 19 2011

Sex Toy Materials, Care & Cleaning

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by thepleasurechest

Non-porous materials – May be shared safely after proper cleaning

Aluminum is a lighter-weight metal that warms quickly to body temperature but can also be cooled or warmed with water for temperature play. It can be used with all types of lubricant. Clean with soap and water.

Ceramic toys are double-fired and covered with body-safe glaze to be non-porous, hygienic, and durable. They may be warmed or cooled with water for temperature play and can be used with any type of lube. Clean with soap and water or isopropyl alcohol and air dry.

Glass can be used with all types of lube and washed with soap and water. Never use hollow glass, do not expose glass to extreme heat or cold, and discontinue use it if it becomes cracked or chipped.

Medical-grade plastic and Elastomed are non-porous and easy to clean. They are compatible with all types of lube and can be cleaned with soap and water.

Pyrex is glass that is more resistant to impact and extreme temperature. It can be sterilized by washing with soap and water, boiling, or in the dishwasher.

Silicone is hypoallergenic, hygienic, and durable. To clean, wash with soap and water. Toys without electrical components can be cleaned by boiling for three minutes or on the top rack of your dishwasher with no detergent. Silicone toys should not be used with silicone lube.

Stainless steel toys are prized for their hardness, heft, and hygiene. Try cooling them down or warming them up with water for temperature play. They can be used with all types of lubricant. Clean with soap and water, in the dishwasher, or with a 10% bleach solution.

Wood used in high-quality dildos is coated with various (depending on the brand) food-safe and in some cases medical-grade finishes that make them non-porous and easy to clean. Read labels on how to use and care for individual products, but in general they can be used with all types of lube and should be washed with soap and water or alcohol. Do not boil and retire or discard if deep scratches occur.

Porous materials – Are not safe to share without a condom, as they may transmit STIs and harbor bacteria and yeast.

Acrylic can be used with all types of lube and can be cleaned with soap and warm water.

Cyberskin (also sold as Ultraskin, Softskin, and UR3) is very delicate and must be used with water-based lube only. Most require a gentle and thorough wash with soap and water and air-dry, but see individual manufacturer for specific instructions. To maintain the feel of Cyberskin and keep it from getting sticky, powder it lightly with cornstarch (never use talcum powder on or near the genitals) and use a plastic bag for storage. Condom use is highly recommended.

Elastomer and TPR (Thermo Plastic Rubber)are durable, hypo-allergenic soft plastics free from phthalates*. Use water-based lube and wash them with soap and water or toy cleaner.

Hard plastic (yes, it’s porous!) can be used with any type of lube and cleaned with soap and water or toy cleaner.

Jelly-Rubber is a soft rubber that contains latex and phthalates*. To clean, wash with soap and warm water or toy cleaner. Condom use is highly recommended.

Leather can be cleaned with soap and water, with leather cleaner, or a rubbing alcohol solution. Once leather is cleaned, it should be allowed to air dry for at least 24 hours. You may want to use leather conditioner to keep the leather soft and supple. Never soak leather.

Neoprene can be washed with mild soap and water or toy cleaner and allowed to air dry fully.

Nitrile is a latex-free synthetic rubber compound that is now used in many cock rings and gloves as an alternative for those with latex and other sensitivities. Dispose of all gloves after use for sanitary reasons. Clean nitrile rings with mild soap and water or toy cleaner.

Nylon can be washed in the washing machine on the delicate cycle or by hand. Using a lingerie bag in the wash and air-drying can protect straps and help them keep their shape.

Silagel, Silicone blends, and Vinyl toys can be cleaned with soap and water or toy cleaner. Although they contain lower levels of potentially problematic chemicals than jelly-rubber, they are porous and condom use is still recommended.

*Phthalates (pronounced “thal-ates”) are plastic softenersthat are known to have carcinogenic properties. We do not recommend inserting them into the vagina or anus, the most absorbent areas of the body, without a condom.

Feb 19 2011

How to Use a Cockring

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by thepleasurechest

Cockrings made of rubber, silicone, wood, leather, metal, and other materials keep the flow of blood in the penis, which creates an erection that is more sensitive, harder, and may last longer. Many people also love the way they look. There are many varieties of cockrings that vibrate or have textured nubs to stimulate both partners during sex or for something extra during masturbation. Some are also designed to be shaft-only rings or rings for the penis head. WARNING: Do not use cock rings if you have a blood-clotting disorder or suffer from any nerve disease.

  • Cock rings should be worn against the body, surrounding the base of the penis and the testicles. The fit should be snug, but comfortable. Some cock rings, such as smaller ones made of wood or metal, are designed to be worn around the shaft or head only. Always read manufacturer instructions.
  • Adjustable cock rings are recommended for new users. They are often leather with snaps or rubber bolo styles, like the Lasso Cock Ring. We also tend to recommend the Clear Super Stretch Silicone Cockrings for new users, as they have a great stetch and come in many different sizes.
  • Put on the cock ring before the penis becomes hard. Non-adjustable cock rings should be entered one-testicle at a time, then tuck the penis through head-first. You can use lube to ease this process, but be sure to hold onto the ring until you are completely hard to avoid slippage.
  • Do not wear a cock ring for more than 2 hours and remove it if the swelling is overly pronounced and accompanied by pain, numbness, or cold genitals.
  • Wait until you are flaccid to take off your cock ring.

Feb 17 2011

Strap-on, Get Off: Mastering the Art of Harness Play

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by thepleasurechest

Strap-on sex is for everyone. We know that sounds far too awesome to be true, but it totally is. In our stores and online, we sell harnesses and dildos to women who fuck women, men who fuck women, men who fuck men, and women who fuck men. For this reason, there are a multitude of harness styles, materials, and sizes to suit just about everybody. People strap it on for a variety of reasons, some of which are: because it feels good, because playing with power dynamics is sexy, for double penetration, for variety in gender expression, for variety in cock size, shape, and color possibilities, because it looks hot, to have a permanent hard-on, and because watching your partner bob their head up and down on your cock is pretty awesome no matter what sex organs you were born with.

joquePelvic harnesses come in two basic styles, two-strap and thong style. The two-strap style leaves the wearer’s genitals free and frames the ass like a well-hung piece of art, while the thong or g-style can provide more friction and stimulation in the crotch area as well as hold a butt plug in nicely. Users of both styles debate over which provides the most controlled thrust, but personal taste and comfort are the main things to consider. If you think g-strings are the ultimate in sexy, go for it. If you’d rather go commando than ever wear thong underwear, you’ll most likely be more comfortable and confident in a two-strap, and when it comes to strapping it on, confidence is key.

Once you’ve found the style you like, the next thing to consider is material. Most harnesses are constructed of either leather or nylon. The leather used to make harnesses can range from sturdy and hard to buttery soft. Leather harnesses like the Terra Firma Harness are popular because with time they mold to the body like a second skin, and some people find leather to be quite sexy. Nylon harnesses are vegan and usually less expensive, which makes them great for beginners and cow-huggers, but they can sometimes chafe or be uncomfortable. As far as non-leather harnesses go, a major standout is the Spareparts Joque Harness. It is made of soft, breathable nylon and Lycra that fastens with Velcro at the waist, is fully machine washable, ultra-adjustable to fit a variety of sizes, and manages to stay in place even during rough play without snaps, buckles, or d-rings.

When you know you want to get a leather or nylon harness other than the Spareparts, the next thing to consider is what type of fastener you want at the waist. Some people prefer d-rings, as on the O-Ring Harness, which are quick and easy to adjust once the harness is on. Similar to this are plastic backpack strap-style adjusters, found mostly on nylon harnesses. Both of these types can be vulnerable to slippage during the act, but again, they are easy to pull back into place. Still, the most secure waist straps are buckles, because they stay exactly where you want them. Check out the Jaguar Harness if you want to explore this option. Leg straps are adjusted with d-rings or plastic adjusters in most harnesses.

But the pounding (hopefully) heart of a strap-on lies in the center, aka where the dildo goes. All harnesses have this, though in different incarnations. Some are just holes in a back pad (which is the piece of material that covers the pelvis) that you slide an appropriately sized dildo with a base through, with the base resting against your body. These are quick and simple to use, but because the hole is cut into the pad, you are limited to that girth of dildo. The Spareparts harness has an extremely stretchy hole that can accommodate dildos large and small. We like harnesses with a snap-out o-ringbecause you can purchase a variety of ring sizes to fit almost any size dildo. Others, like the Commando Harness,have an o-ringwithout any back pad or a removable back pad. These are great for strappers who like extra friction against their body, for hard packing, or for people with a bio penis because the genital area is completely open. Harnesses with a hole or opening as well as an adjustable o-ring are the best option for using a double dildo.

The Fit

Your harness should fit securely yet comfortably. If your harness is too tight or loose, you’re going to have some trouble pitching at the mound (sorry, couldn’t resist). Many people prefer a harness that sits low on the pelvis, because it is easier to feel and therefore control the action, not to mention the extra rub for the wearer. However, a harness that sits higher on the waist is great for larger bodies, people with restricted movement, or someone with a bio cock. Thong and g-styles have a center strap that nestles between your buns. With a two-strap harness, the bottom two straps go between your legs and around the ass cheeks, like the afore-mentioned picture frame. Some of these have versatile straps that slide to the center for some g-string action, if you want to try it out. Most of the harnesses we carry are adjustable, and some are extremely so.

Sporting a strap-on may feel or look strange or even silly to you at first. Try wearing it around the house before showing off the goods to your partner. Get comfy, let it mold to your shape for a bit, and test your penis space perception by making sharp turns around corners and trying not to bump into the furniture.

Thigh Harnesses and More

There are even different harnesses for people to wear on other body parts! Thigh harnesses are probably the most well known. These are perfect for larger bodies, people with restricted movement, or someone who wants an un-obstructed view of the penetration party. Try the Buckling Thigh Harness for a sexy, sturdy leather option. The Spareparts La Palma Glove is one of our most recent favorites because it’s great for finger fucking when your hands get tired, frees the fingers to do other titillating things, and allows for a nice hard thrust. Face and chest harnesses, which are handy for oral sex with penetration, round out the harness family, for now anyway. Foot harness anyone?

Get to the Cocks, Already!

Harness-compatible dildos come in an insane variety of shapes, sizes, colors, materials, degree of realism, etc. The most basic rule when picking out a cock to strap on is that it must have a flared, flat base. Some have plain bases, some may have flat or 3D balls, and some have a suction cup. Suction cups are cool when you want to get frisky hands-free with the shower wall, but they don’t make the best base inside an o-ring because they can flop around and/or rip fairly easily. Balls are a great addition when it comes to gender expression or fantasy play, but make sure they are flat enough on the back to fit securely and comfortably in your harness. We love the VixSkin Goodfella because it has a flat base completely separate from awesome, lifelike 3D balls.

Color is a personal choice. A lot of people like to keep it realistic and match their dildo with their skin tone, others like realistic skin tones other than their own, and of course there is the ever-popular purple shimmer. The same goes for texture. Veins and a realistic head can look and feel great in any color, from mocha to turquoise. Smooth, silky dildos, like the Tantus Silk range are perfect for those who don’t like a bumpy ride or for anal beginners.

A tip we like to give is that a dildo with a lip, or distinctive ridge at the head, may help serve as a guide for how far you can pull out of the vagina or anus. It will also give extra sensation to your partner’s G-spot or prostate. When it comes to size, be reasonable and respectful of the needs and desires of the person you’ll be fucking. When you get to pick out your own dick, it may be tempting to go for the stretch Escalade, but when you can’t find anywhere to park it, you won’t be feeling so hot anymore. When possible, shop with your partner and have them close their eyes and wrap their hand around the widest insertable portion of the dildo. If the size feels about right for what they’ve had inside them and enjoyed in the past, you’ve got a winner.

If you’re going it solo, we love classic, sexy models likeVixSkin Tex (shorter, g-spot pleasing curve and head), VixSkin Bandit (reasonable girth with longer length for good control), Vixen Mistress (slender with a bit of extra length for control) Fun Factory Magnum. On a tight budget? Basix dildos are made of rubber, which we do not recommend as highly as silicone, since the material is porous, but they are latex-free and phthalate-free. Basix come in a variety of sizes and colors, with some that vibrate, and even double dildos.

Ah, the double dildo! Thankfully, the jelly rubber relics of yore are nearly obsolete thanks to the fine design and marketing of silicone companies Tantus, Fun Factory, and Vixen. Try the Feeldoe if you want to go for the no-harness double dildo thing, but be aware that strong PC muscles are a must. The Share has a much easier to grip “giver” side, but it is also rather large for some. Both of these dildos can be used with a harness as well. Vixen created their Nexus double dildos to be used in a harness. These have great balance between both ends and an awesome angle for mutual pleasure.

A successful harness and dildo combination should make you and your partner feel comfortable, sexy, and bring pleasure. With the right fit, it can become like an extension of one’s body, creating a unique and satisfying sexual experience.

Feb 17 2011

How to Pick a Butt Toy

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by thepleasurechest

We’ve assembled this handy how-to for anyone looking for an anal toy. Remember, this orifice is pretty picky about who and what gets inside it, so relax and choose wisely.

Why use a butt toy?

It can feel amazing on those oft-neglected nerve endings around and inside the asshole. Stimulation brings blood to the area, which makes for a healthier hole. In fact, prostate stimulation is pleasurable and beneficial to a man’s sexual and physical health. Plugs and beads are great preparation for anal sex with a penis or dildo. And, last but not least, the anus is our equal-opportunity orifice in that everyone has one and inside all of us is the potential to enjoy ass play. It’s the kind of commonality that can bring everyone together. Well, not everyone at once, but you get the idea.

When is the best time to use butt toys?

You can use anal toys solo, during intercourse, during oral sex, as prep for anal sex with a penis or larger toy, or wear a butt plug to your ceramics class at the learning annex. It’s kind of your call.

How do I use them?

With lots of lube! Use a lube that is compatible with your toy (as in the no-silicone-lube-with-silicone-toys rule) and lube that’s compatible with condoms, if you’re using one. Check out Our Favorite Anal Lubes for product recommendations. Never rush your partner or yourself, and don’t go jamming things inside you without any lube or warming up (you know, with backdoor foreplay like rimming or gently inserting a finger).

When sharing toys between non-fluid bonded partners or from ass to vagina, use a fresh condom for each partner or before each use. Once porous toys (like most soft rubber and non-medical grade plastics) are used as butt toys, they need to stay butt toys forever, unless you’re using a condom. Non-porous toys should be washed thoroughly before and after each use, when switching from ass to vag, and before each use between non-fluid bonded partners.

What exactly can I put in my ass?

There are a few different types of anal toys.

Butt plugs are designed to be worn in the ass for a period of time, giving it a sense of fullness. They come in a variety of shapes, but the main things to look for are a tapered bottom to help it stay in and a flared base to help it stay out (as in, “out of the emergency room”). Even better, look for a base that is designed to be hugged perfectly by your cheeks, like the silicone Fun Factory Bootie or Njoy Pure Plugs, which (BONUS!) are also stainless steel and feel wonderfully weighty in your ass.

Anal beads are usually on a string or, if made of silicone or other soft materials, linked together. We don’t recommend anal beads with string because the fabric can cause small tears that can lead to irritation and increased risk of infection. Anal beads come in all sizes, from small for beginners, like Fun Factory Flexi Felix, to extra large, like Tantus Cowboy. Some even have graduated sized beads to work your way up, like the Tantus Ripple. The main attraction to anal beads is the feeling, texture, and anticipation of each bead upon insertion or removal. Some people like to have sex with anal beads inserted and pull them out at orgasm for extra sensation. This is fine, in theory, but don’t pull on it like you’re starting a lawn mower. The rectum will not be pleased.

Any dildo with a flared base, but we super-highly recommend non-porous materials, like silicone and stainless steel. You can utilize dildos in strap-on anal sex in just about every way imaginable, including her strapping it on and penetrating him, or him wearing a strap-on and penetrating her anus and vagina at the same time. A good place to start for beginners is the Vixen Vibrating Mistress because of its slim shape, ideal length, and silicone material.

naughty boyVibrating anal toys… vibrate. Anal vibrators may sound like the best thing ever, but with butt toys it can be more about the material, texture and shape for good stimulation of the prostate or anal nerve endings. The good news is that quality toys made of non-porous materials, like Naughty Boy and Tantus Pro-Touch are just as good with the vibrations off and can be safely sanitized for vaginal use in women.

Prostate toys are anal plugs, dildos, or vibrators that are curved to stimulate the prostate. They are marketed toward male-bodied types (you know, people who have prostates), but many women love toys like the Aneros Progasm Jr. because of its anatomy-friendly shape. Any toy with a nice curve can also be used to access the G-spot anally.

Any parting words?

As in cheek parting? Well, the most important thing to mind when engaging in ass play is comfort, communication, and safety. If those factors are there, then pleasure isn’t far behind.

Feb 16 2011

Beyond the Tube Sock:
Masturbation Sleeves for Men

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by thepleasurechest

From pocket pussies to full replicas of Belladonna’s ass to state of the art sleeves that replicate oral sex, masturbation tools for men are growing in variety and popularity, leaving the old tube sock and hand lotion behind.

What the eff is a “masturbation sleeve”?

Masturbation sleeves as discussed in this article include any toys with a hole and “tunnel” in which to insert your penis. They come in a variety of shapes and styles. Some are realistic-looking, others are more discreet, but most are designed to feel somewhat like vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Paired with lube, they create exciting slippery sensations for your penis.

tenga 3dWhy would I want a jack-off accessory?
Because women shouldn’t get to have all the fun sex gadgets! A good old-fashioned handjob is nothing to shake a stick at (so to speak), but sleeves can provide a wider variety of sensations and serve a specific purpose. Tenga 3D sleeves are made of ultra-soft elastomer, with a variety of exciting textures inside. Fleshlight Stamina masturbators have the much-loved realistic feel and superior suction that Fleshlight is known for, but the inside is extra tight and studded to aid in stamina training for men who want to last longer during the real thing.
When do I use masturbation sleeves?
Masturbation sleeves are awesome solo (duh), but they can also be great to use with a partner for handjobs. The open-ended ones, such as Vibratex Sidekick 2 can also make a great blow-job even better, as your partner can use it to stroke your shaft while they give extra oral attention to the head of your penis.

A lot of masturbation sleeves are not only portable, but also very discreet. Tenga Eggs are disposable after a few uses, so they’re great for travel. Just don’t do it on the airplane, or in the parking lot of an Arby’s. We could talk about sex all day, but legal advice isn’t really our thing.

 

  • How do I use them?

Lube is a must with masturbation sleeves. As with any type of sex toy, what kind of lube you use will depend on your preference and the material the toy is made of. Cyberskin, Softskin, and the like should be used with water-based lube only and treated very delicately. Wash with soap* and warm water and dry completely. Powdering these with cornstarch with help maintain the silky, skin-like feel. Elastomer sleeves like the Vibratex Maven can be used with any type of lube and should also be washed and dried before and after each use.

As for the actual “getting down” part, individual products’ instructions will vary, but in general you’re going to lube up, stick your penis in, and do what comes naturally.

*Do NOT wash Fleshlights with soap. Warm water only.

Jan 22 2011

How to Use a Vibe with Your Partner

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by thepleasurechest

Using a vibrator with your partner for the first time can be intimidating, that’s for sure, but building that kind of intimacy is totally rewarding. Your reward can be not only more orgasms, but also a sense of fun and openness to please one another sexually. There are all kinds of vibes that are especially great to use with a partner, whether they’re designed in a way that makes them physically accommodating during intercourse or specifically to offer stimulation for both partners.

Here are some common questions and concerns that may come up when you’re looking to add a buzz to the bedroom (or somewhere more scandalous, if you want):

What will my partner think of me if I grab desperately for the Hitachi Magic Wand under my bed 20 minutes into a vigorous round of thrusting?

We’re not gonna lie, this could be startling for your lover, partly because they might think you’re about to attack them with a baseball bat, but mostly because the best time to talk about sex toys is generally before you start having sex. A surprising number of people are unfamiliar with the idea of using vibrators during partner sex, and also the fact that most female bodies do need some form of clitoral vibration to orgasm. Well before the deed begins, it helps to sit your partner down and let them in on this information, along with some personal encouragement and motivation like “I love how you fuck me and I want to come extra hard for you” or “Later, I can show you how good this feels on your balls while I suck you off.” After all, even the most secure among us hates to feel left out of the action.

Speaking of vibrators the size of sports equipment, are there any vibes you might recommend for couples just starting out with toys or that are specifically designed for partner use?

We happen to know plenty of couples who use and really enjoy the strongest, loudest, most unwieldy vibes around, but we do have recommendations for those just starting out, and there are more and more vibes being made that are designed specifically for partner sex. In general, you’re probably going to want something that’s on the quiet side and fits nicely between two bodies, like Jimmyjane’s Little Chroma. Vibrating cock rings, like the Vibratex Duet are very popular with couples because they provide hands-free stimulation to one partner’s clit or perineum while trapping blood in the penis of the wearer for an erection that can be harder and stronger. We-Vibe has created a revolutionary dual-stimulation vibrator that can actually be worn during sex! One end of the totally waterproof, rechargeable silicone vibe hugs the clit while the other goes inside the vagina, resting on the g-spot and allowing enough room for a partner to penetrate and feel the vibrations at the same time!

This is all so new and overwhelming, it makes me want to lie down… and try it! Any tips and tricks?

For some folks, the ultimate foreplay is the element of surprise and/or control. Those types tend to enjoy vibrating panties like Berman Center Astrea or other wearable remote control vibes. One partner wears a tiny vibrator tucked between the labia or under the balls while the other controls the vibrations from afar. A finger vibe like the PicoBong Ipo or a simple vibrating cockring fits around fingers without too much bulk or fuss and makes for a great reach-around during doggie style sex. Vibrating cockrings worn around the penis or dildo offer the most clit stimulation in the “cowgirl” position. It’s like turning your partner into a giant rabbit vibe with hands (don’t tell them that though)! We love the Laya Spot by Fun Factory because it’s quiet, splash proof, and its ergonomic shape feels wonderful in the hand and on the clit. Use it to cup his balls during a blow-job for extra stimulation and many thanks.

So this is what they mean by sharing is caring…

Wait! You may have learned in kindergarten that sharing your toys is always the polite thing to do, but with adult toys there are a few important guidelines. Rule number one is never, ever use a toy in the butt then use it in or around the vagina unless it has a fresh condom or is a non-porous toy that has been properly cleaned. Non-porous toys are those made of silicone, non-porous hard plastic, metal, or glass. They are safe to share with a condom or having been properly cleaned. Porous toys are made of several materials, the most popular being porous hard plastic, elastomer, vinyl, jelly rubber, and cyberskin. A toy made of porous materials should never be used anally without a condom unless it is to remain an anal toy for the rest of its days. Two partners who are STI tested and fluid bonded may share porous toys, but we still recommend condom use in the case of jelly rubber and cyberskin, due to high porosity and potentially harmful plastic softeners.