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Aug 27 2015

Buzz Kill: The Ultimate Guide to Turning a Vibrator Off

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by Chelsea

This guest post is written by our friend and sex educator Lucas!

The staff at The Pleasure Chest answer thousands of questions about sex and sex toys on a daily basis. But the most frequently asked question may surprise you. No, it’s not about giving the best blow job. It’s not about finding the g-spot. It is, in fact…

“How do I turn this off?”

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Don’t panic, though! I assure you, we are all especially skilled in the art of turning off a vibrator, and we are are here to properly equip you for any visit you make have to our store, should you turn something on, panic, and not be able to turn it off.

First of all, how many buttons does it have?

A) 1
- Push it.
- Push it again.
- Still going? You should probably hold it down for a few seconds. Good? Good.

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B) 2
- Do the buttons have a + or – symbol on them? If so, hold the – button for a few seconds.
- If not, just hold one of them done. That should probably work. If not, ask the nearest Sex Specialist.

C) 3
- Do the buttons have a + or – symbol on them? If so, again…hold the – button for a few seconds.
- No luck? It’s the other one. I can almost guarantee it. It probably has a squiggly line or a shameless brand logo on it.

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D) 4
- We must be getting into Lelo territory. Again, that – button is your best friend.

E) None
- Okay then…what does it have instead?
1) A twisty thing
- Twist it. Counterclockwise
2) A pull cord.
- We definitely didn’t sell you that, and it’s probably not something you should use on your genitals.
3) None. What gives?
- Sorry to break this to you…but not everything in our store vibrates. Some folks get their jollies by other methods. If it breaks your heart that this beautiful piece cannot mechanically tremble within or around your privates, speak to our staff and we can possibly teach you some clever ways of rectifying this situation, but that, my friends, is a different blog post.

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Lucas Brooks is a New York-based writer, performance artist, and sex educator. His blog “The Intellectual Homosexual” (formerly “Top to Bottom”) has been named one of the top 100 sex blogs in the world by four different websites and magazines. He has spent the last three years touring the continent with his one-man shows “VGL 5’4″ Top” and “Cootie Catcher”, the former of which was named “Best LGBT Show” in the Orlando Fringe Festival in 2014. As a sex educator, he has presented at Dark Odyssey events and Catalyst Con, and is currently on staff at The Pleasure Chest.

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May 15 2015

Role Play for the Nervous Beginner

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by thepleasurechest

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From what we’ve heard around the store, a lot of people are afraid of role play because they don’t want to feel silly. We think that’s a shame. After all, role play is a great way to expand your sexual palate.

Role play lets you give yourself permission to try things that are out of character, for the simple reason that you are playing a different character. Nervous that your girlfriend will laugh at you when you tell her to get on her knees and beg? Well, you’re not talking to your girlfriend; you’re talking to Sexy Werewolf. And if Sexy Werewolf laughs at you? It’s okay, she’s really laughing at Sexy Mad Scientist.

Also, she’s really laughing with you. You’re probably also laughing, because role play is almost inherently giggly, at least at first. You’re probably both feeling a little self-conscious, and laughter is a common defense when you’re nervous. Plus, role play is silly. You’re pretending to be other people, and those people are usually sexpots. Embrace the camp.

Okay, so you’re sold on the idea of role play. Where do you start?

role playFirst, choose your scenario. Try drawing from:

- Fantasies you’ve had: Do you like the idea of being tied down and tortured? Try a military interrogation scene. Of being pampered with hot baths and bon bons by a shirtless hottie? Let’s play (some variation of) master and servant.

- Movies and books: This definitely, definitely includes porn and erotica, but it’s not limited to it. Do you find yourself spacing out to explicit Holmes/Watson fantasies? Don’t dream it – be it.

- Real life wish-fulfillment: You didn’t get laid on prom night, but you will tonight.

Got a scenario in mind? Time to get your costumes and props in order!

role play 4Strictly speaking, costumes and props aren’t necessary, but they’re so much fun! Besides, it’s a lot easier to let yourself behave like Sexua, Ruthless Purveyor of Martian Pleasures, when you’re wearing latex opera gloves than when you’re wearing pajamas.

- Try getting dressy. You don’t have to track down a military uniform or invest in an ermine robe. Often, cocktail attire lifts you far enough out of the daily grind that it gets the job done.

- Add some accessories. Rhinestone pasties or a flattering collar will make all the difference.

- Incorporate your toys. A beloved flogger becomes that much more exciting when wielded by a cross schoolmistress, a Wartenberg pinwheel is as useful for playing doctor as for playing inquisitor, and you know that James Bond would have fun letting the Bond Girl decide which dildo he should strap on for her.

Alright, your supplies are in order. Now:

- Decide how you’re going to start. Will one of you run outside and ring the doorbell? Will it start immediately as soon as you both get home? Will you be building up to it all day over text and email?

- Decide who’s going to initiate sex. This sounds a little clinical, but trust us. Hot scenes can fizzle out if each of you is waiting for the other to make sex happen.

Get it? Good. Go get dressed up and have hot wizard sex.

Apr 22 2015

Our Top 6 Picks for Earth-Safe Sex

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by Chelsea

You can make every day Earth Day… in your pants! Want to make your sex life as eco-friendly as the rest of your life? Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re concerned with both your health and your pleasure.

Personal Health
Promoting a safe environment starts with your own body. Some toys and lubes are made with chemicals like phthalates or additives like glycerin and propylene glycol, which can be irritating to your skin. Look for brands whose materials and ingredients reflect a commitment to your health – body-safe silicone toys and pH balanced, glycerin-free lubes, for instance. We especially love:

Jimmyjane Form 2  Jimmyjane Hello Touch XJimmyjane Form 5

JimmyjaneVersatile luxury toys made from body-safe, medical-grade silicone — what’s not to love? Plus, they’re so well-made that they’ll last you years and years. That’s sustainability we can get behind!

Sliquid H20 Sliquid Lip Lickers Sliquid Satin

Sliquid: Free of potentially-irritating additives, vegan, and cruelty free, Sliquid lubes are friendly to both the Earth and sensitive skin.

Also check out:

Fun Factory
Je Joue
- Minna
- Aneros
- Tantus
- Njoy
- Uberlube*
- Southern Butter**

Global Sustainability
Manufacturing practices are a big part of keeping pleasure products eco-friendly. These companies’ ecological footprints are as modest as their toys are exceptional.

Fun Factory Amorino  Fun Factory Cobra Libre IIFun Factory Bouncer Dildo

Fun Factory: You can always feel good about taking home a Fun Factory toy: they have some of the most eco-friendly practices in the business. All of their body-safe products are designed, manufactured, and packaged in their factory in Germany, which offers top-notch working conditions. Their minimal packaging is made of recycled cardboard, without plastic or glue. Oh, and the toys are innovative and awesome.

Southern Butter BlissOn Southern Butter Intimate Butters Southern Butter Massage

Southern Butter**: This lube and body product company takes sustainability seriously, even growing many of the plants and herbs they use in their own garden or sourcing them from local farmers.

Also check out:

Jimmyjane
- Tantus
- Crave
- Oxballs
- New York Toy Collective

Social Responsibility
Some brands aren’t just businesses: they’re active members of their communities, both locally and globally. Whether by donating safer sex supplies where they’re needed most or finding ways to make body-safe lube without animal testing, these brands go the extra mile.

Sir Richard's Condom CollectionONE Mixed Pleasures

Sir Richard’s Condom Company & ONE CondomsBoth of these companies support safer sex, and not just by selling condoms. Sir Richard’s donates a condom for every condom you buy, and ONE regularly partners with healthcare professionals and community groups on a variety of projects for making safer sex supplies and education more available.

Also check out:

Jimmyjane
Sliquid
- Good Clean Love
- Southern Butter**

*Pro tip: If you want to use a silicone lube with a silicone toy, cover the toy with a condom first. We love both, but they don’t play well together.
** Oil-based lubes stay slick and can even condition skin – just don’t use them with latex condoms!

Mar 05 2015

Fifty Shades Fantasy vs. Reality:
Exploring Your Kinks Safely

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by Chelsea

We encourage sexual adventure, and we’ve been delighted to see how many people have felt inspired to try something new after seeing Fifty Shades of Grey. For those of you who can’t wait to start tying each other up, just like in the movie, we’d like to offer some alternative options that are much safer and just as much fun.

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Fantasy
Go to your local hardware store and buy some zip ties. It’s bondage time!

Reality
As much as we love repurposing household items as kinky toys (see: clothespins as nipple clamps), we recommend that you steer clear of zip ties, which are easy to tighten and impossible to loosen. If you’re restraining your partner’s wrists or ankles, make sure that your restraints aren’t digging into the skin, and that they’re not going to tighten further while you play. (You should be able to slip a couple of fingers between the restraint and your partner’s body.) Too-tight bondage can cut off your partner’s circulation and even cause nerve damage — and that’s even more likely to happen when the restraint is thin, like a zip tie. Wrist and ankle cuffs are great because you can set them at a comfortable level of snugness and then play without worry.

Also, we guarantee that the customer service staff at Home Depot does not want to know what you’re going to do with that rope. Save the broad hints and meaningful winks for your partner. (Or visit an adult store, where the staff would be happy to speak frankly about what kind of restraints would best suit your needs.)

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Fantasy
Set up slipknots ahead of time to bind your partner’s wrists and ankles. That way, you can restrain your partner quickly and move on to the fun stuff!

Reality
Slipknots are dangerous for the same reason that zip ties are dangerous. You can find instructions for basic, safe rope ties easily online or in books like the excellent Two Knotty Boys instructional guides. Also, safe rope bondage may take a little longer, but it can definitely be part of the fun! Why not use the time to build anticipation by telling your partner all about what you’ll do to them once they’re tied up and at your mercy? If you’re nervous about your rope skills, a blindfold is your best friend: your partner never has to see you checking your work against the instructions.

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Fantasy
Want to play? Pull out your favorite toy and start smacking your partner with it. They’ll love it!

Reality
As you may have noticed, warm-up can mean the difference between enjoying hours of hot dungeon sex and crying in an elevator on your way out of your millionaire ex-boyfriend’s apartment. Before you start whacking your partner, physically warm up their skin by increasing blood flow to the areas that you’re going to hit. Try massage, and/or try starting out with softer kinds of impact: light spanking, even through underwear, or a gentler toy like a fur- or plush-lined paddle or a small suede flogger. Working up to harder impact is often what differentiates fun pain from bad pain. If you both want to, this is also good time to help your partner get aroused. Being turned on increases a person’s pain threshold, making sensations that might otherwise be unpleasant sexy and enjoyable. When you take your time with warm-up, it lets the receiver’s brain start releasing endorphins, and that adds up to lots of erotic, blissful responses!

The art of bondage

Fantasy
Have your partner lie on their back, then flog their stomach.

Reality
If you want to flog your partner’s stomach (where many of their organs live), use the tiniest, cutest, softest flogger in the whole world. (The Lelo Sensua Whip is a good option.) There are really relatively few areas on the body that can safely take more than some light surface impact. Here’s a great diagram of where it is and isn’t safe to smack. 

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Fantasy
Restrain your partner’s wrists so that their arms are pulled straight up above their head.

Reality
There’s nothing intrinsically unsafe about this, but there are a few things to keep in mind. Keeping one’s arms above one’s head for an extended period of time will affect circulation, which can lead to dizziness and even fainting. Make sure that you build in a break or a change in position if you’re playing for a long time. If your partner has a heart condition or diabetes, this is a particular concern; in that case, steer clear of this particular position. There are many more to choose from!

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Fantasy
Draw up a contract about how your partner should behave. Get it notarized. If your partner breaks the contract, prosecute them to the fullest extent of the law.

Reality
BDSM contracts aren’t legally enforceable — after all, slavery is illegal — and trying to strong-arm your partner into doing what you want makes you a crummy partner. Contracts can be great fantasy fodder, but when you’re deciding what you’d like to try together, there are better ways to negotiate.

Feb 20 2015

Fifty Shades Fantasy vs. Reality:
Negotiate Your BDSM like a Badass

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by Chelsea

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Despite what it might sound like (and despite what you may have seen in a certain popular book-turned-movie), BDSM negotiation is not a competition in which two partners use fancy legal jargon to try to win an argument about what their sexytimes will look like. (That’s a fun fantasy, but in real life, it’s more likely to leave you resentful and upset than ready to go.) Instead, it’s a collaboration in which both (or all) partners discover what they might like to enjoy together.

For folks who are unfamiliar with the lingo, BDSM is an acronym that encompasses bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. We’ll be using “scene” to refer to the period of time in which BDSM is happening and “play” to mean just about anything that can happen within a BDSM scene, from dirty talk to heavy flogging.

Want to fulfill all of your kinky fantasies? This is where to start, especially when you’re playing with someone for the first time.

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“But doesn’t negotiation take away the spontaneity?”
“Think of it this way: we can have a lot more fun once I know what makes you tick.”

1. Negotiate as equals, not from a power dynamic. 
You may be the most intense dominant that ever dominated, or the most passive submissive, but this isn’t the time to make demands or ask permission. Both of your wants and needs matter and deserve to be given equal weight.

2. Tell your partner what you like and don’t like.
Likes and dislikes can go by degrees, so be as specific as you can. For instance:
“I like being pinched, except on my inner thighs.”
“I like the Neon Wand, but I can only take it for a few minutes.”
“I like tickling my partner’s feet until they shout with laughter.”
“I like being spanked really hard until I bruise.”
“I like being called names, but don’t call me ‘toy’.”
“I like being called names, especially ‘whore’.”
“I like being called ‘Mistress’, but I don’t like being called ‘ma’am.’”
“I don’t like being bitten, so you can use that as punishment if you want to.”
“I don’t like pain, but I like proving that I can take it.”
“I like being spanked because it turns me on; I like being slapped in the face because it makes me afraid.”

Don’t know what you like? Talk about what you’d like to try, or take a look at a yes/no/maybe list.

Don’t know how to do something? Do a little research first to make sure that you can do it safely!

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“He wants to ‘cyber’? What’s a cyber?”

3. Don’t say “ew.”
You’re both sharing some pretty personal information, and that can be scary! You don’t have to try everything that your partner wants to try, and vice versa, but you do have to be kind and respectful. If you’re surprised by something your partner says, ask them what about that particular kink or scenario appeals to them. On that note…

4. Find common ground.
What if one of you wants to try something that makes the other uncomfortable? Drill down to the core of the fantasy and find what about it appeals to you most . If you want to do teacher/student role play, but your partner doesn’t want to try age play, can you find another fantasy that appeals to you for similar reasons? If you like the power dynamic, you could try a boss/employee role play. If you want to be playful and innocent, you could role play as a sheltered heiress or even a fairy.

5. Tell your partner your limits.
These are things your partner should never do. Even if it’s something you don’t think they’ll do in the context of the scene, mention it.

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“Sorry, handsy-buttsy is a limit for me.”

6. Tell each other about any relevant injuries or medical conditions. 
“I have bad knees, so I can’t kneel for long periods.”
“I’m dealing with chronic pain, so I don’t want to physically hold you down. I can cuff you ahead of time if you like to struggle.”

7. Talk through what you’d like to do together.
Come up with a list of activities that’s good for both of you. You don’t have to outline the whole scene if you don’t want to, but you should both have some idea of what to expect.

8. Establish whether surprises are okay.
Before you start playing, ask your partner if you can do something that they haven’t explicitly okayed, as long as it isn’t one of their limits. (For instance, you might decide in the middle of a scene that it’s the perfect time to bite your partner’s ear, but you never discussed biting.) If they say no, then anything you haven’t negotiated is off the table.

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“All opposed to surprise pony play say ‘neigh.’”
“I said yes to the riding crop, but I did not agree to the painfully bad jokes.”

9. Check your assumptions.
Do you always have sex with your play partners? Do you always kiss them? Do you always call them sir? Or slut? Do you always give them orders? Do you always punish disobedience? Think through what you expect in a play encounter, and then ask about every element of it, even the ones that you think you can take for granted.

10. Set up safewords, and make sure you both know what they mean.
Choose a word that means “stop” that won’t come up in another context. This is really useful for situations in which “Ow, shit, you sick motherfucker!” can mean “You push my buttons in all the right ways.”

Many people use the stoplight system, in which “red” usually means “stop everything” and yellow can mean a few things, including “stop that specific thing you’re doing,” “check in with me,” or “I’m almost ready to stop, so start winding it down.” You can see how confusing (and potentially upsetting) it would be if you said “yellow” meaning “let’s stop and deal with the fact that this cuff is digging painfully into my ankle,” and your partner thought that you meant “I’ll be ready to stop in a few minutes,” and kept going.

11. Decide what you’d like aftercare to look like. 
Unless you’ve both agreed otherwise, it’s just common decency to take care of the person you’ve just been spanking. BDSM requires a lot of trust on both sides, and many people find themselves physically and mentally drained afterwards (often in a good way, like when you’ve just finished a long run or a satisfying and demanding project). It’s extra nice to establish ahead of time what the receiving partner might like afterwards, and to have any relevant materials on hand: a soft blanket, for instance, or a snack. Some people like to be cuddled, and some prefer to be left alone to regroup for a minute. Your partner might want to be praised for how well he took his punishment, or she might like you to tell her a bad joke in order to bring her back to reality. Just ask.

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“We’re gonna aftercare like we just don’t care.”

12. Remember: negotiation can be sexy.
You are talking about what you want to do to each other. How is that not foreplay?

Nov 05 2014

Semenette Q&A: How to Use our Favorite Squirting Dildo

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by Chelsea

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Looking for a squirting dildo? We’re smitten with the Semenette, the only silicone toy of its kind. Lucky for us, Stephenie R. Berman, who designed and now sells this unique toy, agreed to chat with one of our staff and share some pro tips for getting the most out of your Semenette experience.

stephanie bermanI hear that the company has a great origin story. Would you share it?

I own a women’s reproductive health company with my family. I’ve been helping couples get pregnant since 2003. When I married my wife in 2011 and we started thinking more seriously about a family, we realized that the only options available for at-home insemination were a turkey baster or a syringe – even though I had access to all of this medical equipment.

When we started trying, I found that I just didn’t have enough hands for all of the equipment: syringe, lube, flashlight, speculum.  I started wearing a head lamp!

Wait, why did you need a flashlight?

To get the semen as close to the cervix as possible. There was nothing intimate or romantic about it. After a lot of awkward, uncomfortable, failed attempts, I started thinking about how to make the experience better overall, because anything would be better than what we were doing. I thought that if [penis-in-vagina sex] works for heterosexual couples, why wouldn’t it work for a same sex couple to mimic the experience? A year and a half later, I was knee deep in the world of sex toys. I had prototypes and a business.

How long before you could start selling them?

I started the company in 2012. The Semenette has only been on the market since February.

My wife and I did conceive using the Semenette, by the way. We have a seven month old. The most rewarding part of this job is the success stories, and I’ve heard several. I love to help people start a family with love, privacy and intimacy. I like to joke that I’m not just the president, I’m also a client.

It’s not just about pregnancy, though: it’s about intimacy and romance. I don’t want to pigeonhole this toy as a tool for home insemination.

Have you heard from customers who are using it as a toy, not primarily for insemination? Were you ever surprised by who was buying it?

I actually didn’t think of the obvious: trans men. The Semenette isn’t flexible enough to be used as a packer, but it still lets you mimic an ejaculation. I’ve heard from gay men, folks in the fetish community, and men who have erectile dysfunction or are sterile. It’s also great for straight couples who are far apart, maybe having phone sex, who want a better way to simulate being together.

semenette largeWhat sets this toy apart from other squirting dildos on the market?

The Semenette is made 100% in the U.S.A.  It’s made of medical grade silicone, which is phthalate free, non-porous, and hypoallergenic. The tubing that threads through the middle is removable and replaceable, which keeps everything clean. You can keep using the same bulb, though, since the liquid should never come in contact with the bulb.

I’m looking at the Semenette and trying to figure out how exactly I’d strap it on and what I would do with the bulb once I’m ready to go. Any tips?

It’s a standard size and the base is also a fairly standard size. I tried to make it as universal as possible, so that it could fit into almost any harness. There’s a groove on the bottom of the toy for the tubing, so that when you put it in the harness it lays flat and doesn’t kink. The tube isn’t too long, and the idea is that you can just tuck it into the harness. That’s why we made the bulb smaller – we didn’t want you to be saddled with this hulking thing.

Do you have a favorite harness to use with the Semenette?

I love any Spareparts harness!

Got any other insider tips?

When you’re drawing the liquid into the bulb, you want to be careful. That small bulb is surprisingly strong! Do a couple of trial runs with water. Make sure that you can pull the liquid in without trapping air bubbles and then test the squirtablility.

Also – and I’m not a doctor – some lubricants can be extremely toxic to sperm. If you’re trying to conceive, make sure that you’re using one that’s going to work for you.

Pleasure Chest tip: if you’re using the Semenette to mimic ejaculation, try using a hybrid lube like Liquid Silk, Sliquid Silk or Spunk for a realistic touch!

Aug 22 2014

7 Toys for Anal Sex Beginners

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by Chelsea

Interested in anal? The trick is to start small. Whether you’re warming up for intercourse or just want to experience the fun of a butt plug, we have a few favorite toys to get you started.

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Lube Shooter

This little gadget is the key to having the best butt sex ever. Even when you lube up your toys (which you should always do), the lube often ends up collecting around the outside of the butthole. A Lube Shooter is a thin syringe that you fill with lube, so that you can insert the lube directly into your ass, where it belongs. Make sure to put some lube on the outside of the lube shooter before you do, though! (Some would argue that the lube shooter is not a toy but an accessory. To those people, we say: wait until you’ve tried mad scientist role play.)

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Tantus Silk Small
As slim as a finger but without those pesky nails and knuckles, this is the perfect anal toy for nervous beginners.

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Aneros Helix Syn
This slim, comfortable plug is designed to rest against your prostate – and you can make it rock back and forth using only the movements of your muscles. Effortless, hands-free prostate massage during intercourse? Yes please.

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Aneros Progasm Jr. 

Most Aneros toys – and we love them all – are only really worth using if you have a prostate for them to massage. The smaller version of their popular Progasm massager, however, is great for everyone. If you enjoy G-spot play, you’ll find that if you wear the Progasm Jr. during intercourse, it will angle the cock up toward your G-spot.

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Tantus Ripple

Do you know how anal beads work? No? Let us explain. Insert the beads slowly, one by one. Then, leave them in while you do whatever sexy things make you feel good. When you’re about to orgasm, pull the beads out, again slowly. Removing the beads will make your butt muscles contract over and over again, which will make your orgasm crazy powerful! We like the Ripple because it’s made of body safe silicone and because it’s all one piece, which makes it easier to insert than the traditional beads-on-a-string design.

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Njoy Fun Wand

We cannot rave about the Fun Wand enough! This gorgeous toy is made of stainless steel: heavy, smooth, great for temperature play, and incomparable to anything else. One end of the wand has a slight upward curve, making it perfect for prostate play (and G-spot play, since this is a toy you can sterilize). Plus, the prostate tends to respond to firm pressure, and the weight of the toy does half of the work for you! The other end functions as a set of anal beads. We also love the Fun Wand for beginners because it heats up when you run it under warm water, making it really comfortable to insert.

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Black Latex Gloves

Let’s not forget some of your best sex toys: your fingers. Smooth over callouses and nails with latex gloves – or nitrile gloves, if you’re sensitive to latex. Your butt’s sensitive skin will thank you. Whether or not you’re into penetration, we recommend lubing up your gloved fingertips and stroking and massaging the anus. Your butthole is one of the most nerve-dense places in the body (second only to the clitoris), and it deserves some love.

Jul 07 2014

Hate Condoms?
8 Reasons This Product is for You

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by Chelsea

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We’d like to take a minute to sing the praises of the internal condom (also known as the female condom). Often passed over for being unfamiliar and marginally less quick to put on (or in this case in) than a traditional condom, the internal condom is the unsung hero of safer sex.

The internal condom is essentially a pouch that you insert into the vagina or the rectum, with a small, flexible ring on the inside, and a large, flexible ring that sits outside of the vaginal or anal opening, preventing the condom from being pushed inside during intercourse. For comfortable anal sex, we recommend removing the inner ring before you insert the condom.

In no particular order, here are some things that we love about the internal condom:

female condom1. Putting it in can be just as much fun as using it. If you’re using a condom at all, it’s probably because you like a) having something inside you or b) putting something inside your partner. Once you’ve lubed up the outside, inserting the internal condom is a good excuse to touch the wearer in fun ways. Why not incorporate some G-spot or prostate play, since you’re there already?

2. OR you can put it in before you have sex. If you want to get right down to business, you can always slip the internal condom in ahead of time.

3. The giver gets more friction; the receiver gets less. How convenient, since the penis tends to respond to friction, while the extended friction of a condom-clad penis can be rough on the sensitive skin of an ass or vagina.

4. Erectile dysfunction? No problem. The internal condom is effective whether or not the penis is hard. With traditional condoms, if the wearer doesn’t stay fully erect the whole time, the condom can slip off, which defeats the purpose of wearing a condom.

female condom fc25. You can use oil-based lube with it. Love the feel of oil but hate how it shreds your latex condoms? The popular FC2 brand internal condoms are made of nitrile, which is safe to use with any kind of lube you prefer.

6. It’s safe for folks with latex allergies. Again: nitrile.

7. It provides extra protection against some STIs. Because the outer ring partially covers the vulva or butt, internal condoms make transmission of HPV and herpes, both spread through skin-to-skin contact, less likely.

8. It doesn’t rustle like it used to. Okay, so part of the internal condom’s bad rap is that it used to make an annoying crinkling noise the entire time you were using it. Luckily, times have changed, and now you can have all of the fun with none of the sound effects.

Jun 02 2014

Our Top 5 Toys for Outdoor Sex

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by Chelsea

Looking for adventure? We’ve got what you need to get down and dirty in the great outdoors.

tango

We-Vibe Tango

Pocket this powerful bullet before your next hike! The We-Vibe Tango is ultra-strong, fully waterproof, and won’t take up too much space in your pack. With two hours of play from a single charge, you can count on the Tango for quite a few woodsy quickies. If you’re traveling solo, tuck the Tango into the strategically-placed bullet pocket of your favorite Spareparts harness, for a very interesting trip.

sports cuffs and tethers

Sports Cuffs and Tethers Kit

Take bondage out of the bedroom with this versatile kit. Made of neoprene – the same material as wetsuits – Sports Cuffs are comfy, lightweight, and easy to wash. Clip them together, or use the nylon tethers to tie your partner to a nearby tree.

njoy pure plugs

Njoy Pure Plugs

Don’t want to carry an arsenal of toys into the wilderness? Go hands-free! Pure Plugs are comfortable enough for long-term wear, and their pleasant weight will turn any trek into a luxurious anal massage. Smooth, sturdy and non-porous, these stainless steel plugs simply make sex better.

sliquid naturals lube cube

Sliquid Naturals Lube Cube Sampler

You should never have to go without lube, but that doesn’t mean that you should risk leaking silicone all over your sleeping bag. Enter Sliquid! This small sample box comes with two single serving packets each of thin water-based lube, thick water-based gel, silicone lube, and their three most popular flavors of Sliquid Swirl: Blue Raspberry, Cherry Vanilla, and Green Apple. Slip one in your back pocket, or take the whole box for variety!

meany

Fun Factory Meany Mini Vibe

If you’re planning a long excursion, you don’t want to have to worry about recharging your vibrator, or about bringing a toy for every mood. The battery-operated Meany is an extra nice alternative. Totally non-porous, pleasingly soft, and shaped for either clit or G-spot stimulation, this little vibe makes a great road buddy.

Don’t forget your Pjur Med Clean Wipes, for cleaning your toys and yourself on the go!