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Feb 19 2011

Safer Ways to Sexy

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by thepleasurechest

A basic guide to safe sex. See How To Pick the Perfect Condom for more in-depth info.

Condoms, Gloves, and Dams are a must-have for safer sex with partners and toys.

Never use oil-based lube with latex condoms, gloves, or dams.

For those with latex sensitivities, polyurethane or polyisoprene condoms and dams, plastic wrap, and nitrile gloves are great alternatives. Polyurethane and nitrile can be used with oil-, silicone-, and water-based lube. Use only water-based or silicone-based lube with polyisoprene.

Be sure your plastic wrap is the non-microwavable type, as microwave wrap has tiny holes and will not protect from infection.

To create a slippery sensation and increase pleasure for the receiver, use gloves to apply lube to the area beneath the dam or plastic wrap before cunnilingus or analingus.

Lube is actually a major player in the safer sex arena. It can not only increase the quality and duration of penetrative play, but makes sex safer for both partners, providing a slick cushion that prevents tearing.

Never use lubricants that contain the spermicide Nonoxynol-9 because it can irritate the skin and actually make you more susceptible to STIs.

Use extra lube for anal sex and never use oil-based lube with a latex condom.

Use fresh condoms, gloves, or dams when switching between partners or from the anal area to the vaginal area.

Feb 19 2011

Prostate (P-spot) Basics

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by thepleasurechest

The prostate, also known as the P-spot or male G-spot, is a gland located between the rectum and the bladder. During arousal the prostate fills with fluid which helps semen travel through the urethra upon ejaculation. The spot can be felt through a man’s anus as an area similar in size to a walnut. Stimulation of this area heightens pleasure for many men.

To locate the P-spot, insert a finger or fingers 2-3 inches into anus and press gently towards the belly button using a milking or come-hither motion. It helps to use lube and for the receiver to be very relaxed and comfortable.

Toys with a gentle curve aid in solo or partner P-spot exploration.

Angle and position are key during partner penetration. If a man is lying on his back, angle fingers or toy upward. If he is bent over, gently angle downward. Use a pillow and/or a little imagination to find the best way to hit the P-spot during anal penetration with a penis.

Bodies will respond differently to different types of stimulation, so experiment with pressure, rubbing, tapping, and vibration of the p-spot to find what feels best.

Studies have shown that regular prostate massage can help ward off cancer by increasing blood flow to the area.

Feb 19 2011

How to Pick the Perfect Condom

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by thepleasurechest

With the help of some innovative new products, materials, and styles, safe sex can be sexier (and more sensational) than ever. Condoms come in a variety of styles, materials, sizes, and even textures. Never use oil-based lube with latex condoms, gloves, or dams.

okamotoTraditional Condoms: Standard thickness and size for those who like a classic condom. Example: Trojan Non-Lubricated

Thinner Condoms: Extra to ultra-thin for that “skin to skin” feeling, yet tested to meet condom safety standards. Example: Okamoto .004

Flared Condoms: Wider at the head for extra penis stimulation and added friction and sensation for both partners. Example: ONE Pleasure Plus

Non-Latex Condoms: Great alternative for people with latex sensitivities, these also have no latex odor or taste. Today’s most popular latex alternatives are polyurethane (which can actually be used with any type of lube) and polyisoprene, which has more stretch for a more natural sensation, but can only be used with water-based and silicone-based lubricants. Both protect against pregnancy and STIs. Naturalamb condoms, which are made from part of a lamb’s intestine, protect against pregnancy but do not protect against STIs such as HIV and herpes. Example: Lifestyles Skyn (Polyisoprene)

skynSensation Condoms: Can intensify pleasure for both partners. Ribbed and studded condoms add titillating texture, warming and cooling condoms add a “tingle,” and flavored condoms are great for blow-jobs. Example: Trustex Flavored Condoms

Sized Condoms: Provide a more customized fit for larger or smaller-sized men. This will make the condom more comfortable to wear and can help solve breakage or slippage issues. Example: Trojan Magnum XL

Variety Packs: Can’t decide? Try a variety pack. It’s the perfect way to try something new or spice up safe sex. Example: ONE Mixed Pleasures

Feb 19 2011

Negotiating Sex with the Yes/No/Maybe List

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by thepleasurechest

Total surprises in bed are generally frowned upon, at least when it comes to a new partner or a new and/or exotic sex act. Want butt sex? Negotiate. Want to be tied up or tie someone up? Negotiate. Want to call your partner a filthy manwhore while working his nipples like a stuck zipper in a urinal at Mardi Gras? Yeah, definitely negotiate.

The Yes/No/Maybe List is a tool we use here in the store to help partners get the conversation started. It’s a list of sex acts (to which you can always add your own) and columns reading “Yes”, “No” and “Maybe.” We suggest each partner take a list and fill it out separately, then get together on a sex date, which incidentally is not actually a date in which you have sex, but one to get together and talk about the sex you might want to have without shaming or judging one another.

Go ahead and try it! It’s way more fun than, say, negotiating and delegating household chores. Although, we do recommend doing that as well. Better communication in any situation always leads to better sex. A little naughty housekeeper roleplay perhaps? The possibilities are endless.

Feb 19 2011

Love at First Lube

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by thepleasurechest

Lube, or “Personal Lubricant,” is actually one of the sexiest sex toys there is. The extra slickness allows you to have sex longer without irritation, can increase sensation, and will definitely spice up a ho-hum handjob. There are all kinds of lube to love, and each type has its pros and cons, but this guide will hopefully help you find the slippery sidekick(s) of your dreams.

Water-based lube is one of the most popular types because it feels natural and absorbs well into the body for minimal cleanup. Glycerin-free water-based lube is recommended for vaginal sex, especially for women who are prone to yeast and urinary tract infections. The classic water-based lubricant Slippery Stuff is one of our favs. If you are trying to conceive,using a water-based, sperm-friendly lube like Pre-Seed may increase your chances. That being said, other types of lube are NOT to be used as birth control methods.

Silicone lube wins hands-down in the test of time, being that it stays ultra-slick and does not absorb quickly into skin. Ultra-concentrated Pjur Bodyglide is the gold standard for quality silicone lubes. The staying power of silicone is great for anal sex because a well-lubed ass means hotter, safer butt sex. Some women are perfectly happy using silicone lube vaginally, while others who are sensitive or prone to bacterial and yeast infections will prefer something that washes away more easily. The fact that silicone does not wash away easily in water also makes it great for water play, such as in the shower or hot tub. Just make sure things don’t get too slippery, as head injuries are not sexy. One word of warning: Do not use silicone lube with silicone toys.

Hybrid
Water-based lubes with a small amount of silicone added for slip and creaminess are called hybrids. We love Liquid Silk because it lasts so long and feels really natural, plus the pump bottle is extra convenient. Sliquid Organics Silk is similar, but is natural, organic, paraben-free, and has a less noticeable taste.

Oil-based lube is not highly recommended for penetrative sex, as it can cause vaginal infection and is not condom compatible. Some people do enjoy using oil anally because of its lasting slickness, but this is only safe to do between partners that have been STI tested or are fluid bonded. Snake Oil is a rare exception to the condom compatibility rule and is safe to use with latex. Masturbation creams for men are commonly oil-based and work wonderfully for a good hand job. Boy Butter is one of our favorite lubes for… churning.

Flavored and warming lubes are most commonly water-based, and can add an element of playfulness and excitement to sex and oral sex. Be aware of those that contain potentially problematic ingredients likesugars, glycerin, or honey. Many flavored lubes contain glycerin and other sugars that may be sweet at first, but the risk of irritation or infection from these ingredients leave a bitter aftertaste. Luckily, Sliquid Swirl is formulated without glycerin, parabens, or sugars. It comes in four great, subtly sweet flavors and is the only flavored lubricant we carry that we recommend for oral and penetrative sex. When you want to feel the sensations of a warming lube, water-based, glycerin and paraben-free Sliquid Sizzle and Sliquid Organics Natural Warming Lubricant are our picks. The warming sensation in warming lubes is typically created by menthol or similar ingredients, and some are stronger than others. Test a small amount slowly to be sure you’re not overly sensitive. There are few things worse on the crotch than a big squirt of burning.

Odorless and Taste-free
Our favorite pure and simple lubes are water-based Sliquid H2O, which is glycerin and paraben free, and Uberlube, a silicone-based lube made from the highest-quality pure silicone and nothing else.

Anal
There are a few great water-based lubes made specifically for anal sex, as they are extra thick, cushioning gels. Maximus and Sliquid Sassy, for example,are also glycerin-free, so they’re vagina-friendly as well! That being said, silicone lube is a great choice for anal sex because it never dries out and keeps things very slick. Our favorites are Gun Oil,with moisturizing Vitamin E and Aloe, and Pjur Bodyglide, which is super-concentrated, pure silicone for added slip and cushion.

Eco-friendly and Natural
One of our favorite lube lines, Sliquid, has created an all-natural, organic, paraben and glycerin-free line called Sliquid Organics. For a classic water-based lube, try Sliquid Organics Natural. For something a little thicker that works great for anal or vaginal sex, we love Sliquid Organics Gel.

Feb 19 2011

G-spot Basics

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by thepleasurechest

The G-spot, also known as the urethral sponge, is the not-so-elusive-as-you-may-think area inside a woman’s vagina that fills with fluid when aroused. It is located at the front wall of the vagina and can feel textured and bumpy. Pressure applied to the G-spot can feel very pleasurable, and some women are even able to ejaculate fluid (which is not urine) from the urethra.

To locate the G-spot, insert a finger or fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina and press upward gently towards the belly button using a milking or come-hither motion. It helps to use lube and for the receiver to be very relaxed and comfortable.

Toys with a gentle, upward curve aid in solo or partner g-spot exploration.

Clit stimulation during G-spot play can enhance arousal and orgasm.

Position is crucial for G-spotting during partner penetration. Remember to angle fingers, toys, or penis upward, toward the belly button. Use a pillow and/or some imagination to find great sexual positions for G-spotting.

If you are trying to experience female ejaculation, a.k.a. squirting (it’s not pee!), bear down and pull toy/penis/fingers out of the vaginal canal during orgasm, as a full vagina can hinder ejaculation.

Bodies will respond differently to different types of stimulation, so experiment with pressure, rubbing, tapping, and vibration of the g-spot to find what feels best.

Your goal should be pleasure, exploration, and fun!

Feb 19 2011

How to Use a Cockring

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by thepleasurechest

Cockrings made of rubber, silicone, wood, leather, metal, and other materials keep the flow of blood in the penis, which creates an erection that is more sensitive, harder, and may last longer. Many people also love the way they look. There are many varieties of cockrings that vibrate or have textured nubs to stimulate both partners during sex or for something extra during masturbation. Some are also designed to be shaft-only rings or rings for the penis head. WARNING: Do not use cock rings if you have a blood-clotting disorder or suffer from any nerve disease.

  • Cock rings should be worn against the body, surrounding the base of the penis and the testicles. The fit should be snug, but comfortable. Some cock rings, such as smaller ones made of wood or metal, are designed to be worn around the shaft or head only. Always read manufacturer instructions.
  • Adjustable cock rings are recommended for new users. They are often leather with snaps or rubber bolo styles, like the Lasso Cock Ring. We also tend to recommend the Clear Super Stretch Silicone Cockrings for new users, as they have a great stetch and come in many different sizes.
  • Put on the cock ring before the penis becomes hard. Non-adjustable cock rings should be entered one-testicle at a time, then tuck the penis through head-first. You can use lube to ease this process, but be sure to hold onto the ring until you are completely hard to avoid slippage.
  • Do not wear a cock ring for more than 2 hours and remove it if the swelling is overly pronounced and accompanied by pain, numbness, or cold genitals.
  • Wait until you are flaccid to take off your cock ring.

Feb 19 2011

Entering the Back Door:
Butt Sex Basics

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by thepleasurechest

When engaging in anal play, it is essential to relax and use plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. One of the key things to remember about anal adventures with a partner is the incredible amount of trust involved. Practice open communication with your partner and let the person being penetrated control the action, at least in the early stages.

  • Use a lot of lube. Silicone lube is great for butt sex because it stays slick for a long time, but water-based lube can be thicker and more cushioning for delicate anal tissue. Experiment to find what’s right for you. And be sure to read about Our Favorite Anal Lubes.
  • Never use numbing lubes or creams, which are unsafe because they inhibit the body’s pain response and could cause you to over-do it.
  • Only use toys with a handle or flared base, otherwise they can slip inside the rectum during use. Cover porous toys with condoms for safer sex and easy cleanup.
  • Condoms, gloves, and dams are not only great for safer sex, but can reduce friction during anal play.
  • Before entering, use your finger to stimulate the sensitive outer area of the anus to excite and relax it. When penetrating with a finger, enter pad-first to avoid scratching. Short fingernails and/or wearing gloves can also help with this.
  • During butt play, do not enter the vagina with the same toy/finger/penis without thoroughly washing it or changing condoms. This can lead to infection.
  • Always pull out of the anus gently and carefully.

Feb 18 2011

Our Favorite Anal Lubes

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by thepleasurechest

Anal sex without lube?! It’s almost too frightening a thought to say out loud, but here at The Pleasure Chest we talk people down from that lubeless ledge on a daily basis. We’re kind of like behind-the-scenes heroes, if you think about it. When it comes to ass play, no amount of lube is too much.

These are a few tips on the lubes we like best for butt sex.

Silicone lube is a fanny-fucking favorite because it coats the ass with its extreme slickness and lasts pretty much until you’re done. The main drawback of this type of lube is the fact that cleanup isn’t as easy and it may stain your sheets, but hey, that’s what mutual showers and all those old towels you refuse to throw away “in case you need them” are for.

One brand that is loved by the boys who come by the store is Gun Oil because it’s ultra-slick and has aloe and vitamin E to soothe the skin. Incidentally, the makers of this brand also make Pink silicone lube, which is the same lovely formula packaged in a top-of-nightstand friendly glass bottle. Use this for a night of hot, passionate anal sex, then smooth over rough knees and elbows and wake up with skin like silk!

The silicone lube everyone can agree on is Pjur Bodyglide. Its ultra-concentrated blend of the highest quality silicone and nothing else means it lasts longer than any of the other silicone lubes out there and is a much better bet in case you want to try it for vaginal sex as well.

Water-based lubes can’t be counted out of the rump race, however. A lot of people prefer to use water-based lube even for anal sex because of the easy cleanup, versatility, and thicker formulas that provide a cushion for the anus.

A long-time love of ours for anal sex is Maximus lube. It is an extremely thick gel formula that stays surprisingly slick and comes in a pump bottle for extra convenience. The one thing we often advise when using this lubricant is to make sure you handle your oral business before you lube up, because the taste is quite bitter.

Sliquid Organics Gel

Sliquid Sassy is a glycerin-free water-based gel lube specifically designed for the booty. We love this one because it can easily be used vaginally or with toys so there’s no need to have ten different lubes on hand. Sliquid Organics Gel is Sassy’s all-natural cousin and works fabulously for those who prefer an organic approach.

A note on oil-based lubes: Look, we know no matter how many times we say there are better alternatives out there, a lot of people are still going to gravitate toward oil. If you must, we like to suggest naturally-derived Stroke 29, whichis not condom-safe, but does feel great and really slick yet non-greasy.Again, we want to remind you that oil-based lubes are not condom-safe with very few exceptions, such as Snake Oil. It may not be conveniently located in the kitchen cabinet, but it sure beats contracting an STI or farting Crisco for a week.

Feb 17 2011

Strap-on, Get Off: Mastering the Art of Harness Play

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by thepleasurechest

Strap-on sex is for everyone. We know that sounds far too awesome to be true, but it totally is. In our stores and online, we sell harnesses and dildos to women who fuck women, men who fuck women, men who fuck men, and women who fuck men. For this reason, there are a multitude of harness styles, materials, and sizes to suit just about everybody. People strap it on for a variety of reasons, some of which are: because it feels good, because playing with power dynamics is sexy, for double penetration, for variety in gender expression, for variety in cock size, shape, and color possibilities, because it looks hot, to have a permanent hard-on, and because watching your partner bob their head up and down on your cock is pretty awesome no matter what sex organs you were born with.

joquePelvic harnesses come in two basic styles, two-strap and thong style. The two-strap style leaves the wearer’s genitals free and frames the ass like a well-hung piece of art, while the thong or g-style can provide more friction and stimulation in the crotch area as well as hold a butt plug in nicely. Users of both styles debate over which provides the most controlled thrust, but personal taste and comfort are the main things to consider. If you think g-strings are the ultimate in sexy, go for it. If you’d rather go commando than ever wear thong underwear, you’ll most likely be more comfortable and confident in a two-strap, and when it comes to strapping it on, confidence is key.

Once you’ve found the style you like, the next thing to consider is material. Most harnesses are constructed of either leather or nylon. The leather used to make harnesses can range from sturdy and hard to buttery soft. Leather harnesses like the Terra Firma Harness are popular because with time they mold to the body like a second skin, and some people find leather to be quite sexy. Nylon harnesses are vegan and usually less expensive, which makes them great for beginners and cow-huggers, but they can sometimes chafe or be uncomfortable. As far as non-leather harnesses go, a major standout is the Spareparts Joque Harness. It is made of soft, breathable nylon and Lycra that fastens with Velcro at the waist, is fully machine washable, ultra-adjustable to fit a variety of sizes, and manages to stay in place even during rough play without snaps, buckles, or d-rings.

When you know you want to get a leather or nylon harness other than the Spareparts, the next thing to consider is what type of fastener you want at the waist. Some people prefer d-rings, as on the O-Ring Harness, which are quick and easy to adjust once the harness is on. Similar to this are plastic backpack strap-style adjusters, found mostly on nylon harnesses. Both of these types can be vulnerable to slippage during the act, but again, they are easy to pull back into place. Still, the most secure waist straps are buckles, because they stay exactly where you want them. Check out the Jaguar Harness if you want to explore this option. Leg straps are adjusted with d-rings or plastic adjusters in most harnesses.

But the pounding (hopefully) heart of a strap-on lies in the center, aka where the dildo goes. All harnesses have this, though in different incarnations. Some are just holes in a back pad (which is the piece of material that covers the pelvis) that you slide an appropriately sized dildo with a base through, with the base resting against your body. These are quick and simple to use, but because the hole is cut into the pad, you are limited to that girth of dildo. The Spareparts harness has an extremely stretchy hole that can accommodate dildos large and small. We like harnesses with a snap-out o-ringbecause you can purchase a variety of ring sizes to fit almost any size dildo. Others, like the Commando Harness,have an o-ringwithout any back pad or a removable back pad. These are great for strappers who like extra friction against their body, for hard packing, or for people with a bio penis because the genital area is completely open. Harnesses with a hole or opening as well as an adjustable o-ring are the best option for using a double dildo.

The Fit

Your harness should fit securely yet comfortably. If your harness is too tight or loose, you’re going to have some trouble pitching at the mound (sorry, couldn’t resist). Many people prefer a harness that sits low on the pelvis, because it is easier to feel and therefore control the action, not to mention the extra rub for the wearer. However, a harness that sits higher on the waist is great for larger bodies, people with restricted movement, or someone with a bio cock. Thong and g-styles have a center strap that nestles between your buns. With a two-strap harness, the bottom two straps go between your legs and around the ass cheeks, like the afore-mentioned picture frame. Some of these have versatile straps that slide to the center for some g-string action, if you want to try it out. Most of the harnesses we carry are adjustable, and some are extremely so.

Sporting a strap-on may feel or look strange or even silly to you at first. Try wearing it around the house before showing off the goods to your partner. Get comfy, let it mold to your shape for a bit, and test your penis space perception by making sharp turns around corners and trying not to bump into the furniture.

Thigh Harnesses and More

There are even different harnesses for people to wear on other body parts! Thigh harnesses are probably the most well known. These are perfect for larger bodies, people with restricted movement, or someone who wants an un-obstructed view of the penetration party. Try the Buckling Thigh Harness for a sexy, sturdy leather option. The Spareparts La Palma Glove is one of our most recent favorites because it’s great for finger fucking when your hands get tired, frees the fingers to do other titillating things, and allows for a nice hard thrust. Face and chest harnesses, which are handy for oral sex with penetration, round out the harness family, for now anyway. Foot harness anyone?

Get to the Cocks, Already!

Harness-compatible dildos come in an insane variety of shapes, sizes, colors, materials, degree of realism, etc. The most basic rule when picking out a cock to strap on is that it must have a flared, flat base. Some have plain bases, some may have flat or 3D balls, and some have a suction cup. Suction cups are cool when you want to get frisky hands-free with the shower wall, but they don’t make the best base inside an o-ring because they can flop around and/or rip fairly easily. Balls are a great addition when it comes to gender expression or fantasy play, but make sure they are flat enough on the back to fit securely and comfortably in your harness. We love the VixSkin Goodfella because it has a flat base completely separate from awesome, lifelike 3D balls.

Color is a personal choice. A lot of people like to keep it realistic and match their dildo with their skin tone, others like realistic skin tones other than their own, and of course there is the ever-popular purple shimmer. The same goes for texture. Veins and a realistic head can look and feel great in any color, from mocha to turquoise. Smooth, silky dildos, like the Tantus Silk range are perfect for those who don’t like a bumpy ride or for anal beginners.

A tip we like to give is that a dildo with a lip, or distinctive ridge at the head, may help serve as a guide for how far you can pull out of the vagina or anus. It will also give extra sensation to your partner’s G-spot or prostate. When it comes to size, be reasonable and respectful of the needs and desires of the person you’ll be fucking. When you get to pick out your own dick, it may be tempting to go for the stretch Escalade, but when you can’t find anywhere to park it, you won’t be feeling so hot anymore. When possible, shop with your partner and have them close their eyes and wrap their hand around the widest insertable portion of the dildo. If the size feels about right for what they’ve had inside them and enjoyed in the past, you’ve got a winner.

If you’re going it solo, we love classic, sexy models likeVixSkin Tex (shorter, g-spot pleasing curve and head), VixSkin Bandit (reasonable girth with longer length for good control), Vixen Mistress (slender with a bit of extra length for control) Fun Factory Magnum. On a tight budget? Basix dildos are made of rubber, which we do not recommend as highly as silicone, since the material is porous, but they are latex-free and phthalate-free. Basix come in a variety of sizes and colors, with some that vibrate, and even double dildos.

Ah, the double dildo! Thankfully, the jelly rubber relics of yore are nearly obsolete thanks to the fine design and marketing of silicone companies Tantus, Fun Factory, and Vixen. Try the Feeldoe if you want to go for the no-harness double dildo thing, but be aware that strong PC muscles are a must. The Share has a much easier to grip “giver” side, but it is also rather large for some. Both of these dildos can be used with a harness as well. Vixen created their Nexus double dildos to be used in a harness. These have great balance between both ends and an awesome angle for mutual pleasure.

A successful harness and dildo combination should make you and your partner feel comfortable, sexy, and bring pleasure. With the right fit, it can become like an extension of one’s body, creating a unique and satisfying sexual experience.