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Feb 16 2011

Beyond the Tube Sock:
Masturbation Sleeves for Men

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by thepleasurechest

From pocket pussies to full replicas of Belladonna’s ass to state of the art sleeves that replicate oral sex, masturbation tools for men are growing in variety and popularity, leaving the old tube sock and hand lotion behind.

What the eff is a “masturbation sleeve”?

Masturbation sleeves as discussed in this article include any toys with a hole and “tunnel” in which to insert your penis. They come in a variety of shapes and styles. Some are realistic-looking, others are more discreet, but most are designed to feel somewhat like vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Paired with lube, they create exciting slippery sensations for your penis.

tenga 3dWhy would I want a jack-off accessory?
Because women shouldn’t get to have all the fun sex gadgets! A good old-fashioned handjob is nothing to shake a stick at (so to speak), but sleeves can provide a wider variety of sensations and serve a specific purpose. Tenga 3D sleeves are made of ultra-soft elastomer, with a variety of exciting textures inside. Fleshlight Stamina masturbators have the much-loved realistic feel and superior suction that Fleshlight is known for, but the inside is extra tight and studded to aid in stamina training for men who want to last longer during the real thing.
When do I use masturbation sleeves?
Masturbation sleeves are awesome solo (duh), but they can also be great to use with a partner for handjobs. The open-ended ones, such as Vibratex Sidekick 2 can also make a great blow-job even better, as your partner can use it to stroke your shaft while they give extra oral attention to the head of your penis.

A lot of masturbation sleeves are not only portable, but also very discreet. Tenga Eggs are disposable after a few uses, so they’re great for travel. Just don’t do it on the airplane, or in the parking lot of an Arby’s. We could talk about sex all day, but legal advice isn’t really our thing.

 

  • How do I use them?

Lube is a must with masturbation sleeves. As with any type of sex toy, what kind of lube you use will depend on your preference and the material the toy is made of. Cyberskin, Softskin, and the like should be used with water-based lube only and treated very delicately. Wash with soap* and warm water and dry completely. Powdering these with cornstarch with help maintain the silky, skin-like feel. Elastomer sleeves like the Vibratex Maven can be used with any type of lube and should also be washed and dried before and after each use.

As for the actual “getting down” part, individual products’ instructions will vary, but in general you’re going to lube up, stick your penis in, and do what comes naturally.

*Do NOT wash Fleshlights with soap. Warm water only.

Jan 22 2011

How to Use a Vibe with Your Partner

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by thepleasurechest

Using a vibrator with your partner for the first time can be intimidating, that’s for sure, but building that kind of intimacy is totally rewarding. Your reward can be not only more orgasms, but also a sense of fun and openness to please one another sexually. There are all kinds of vibes that are especially great to use with a partner, whether they’re designed in a way that makes them physically accommodating during intercourse or specifically to offer stimulation for both partners.

Here are some common questions and concerns that may come up when you’re looking to add a buzz to the bedroom (or somewhere more scandalous, if you want):

What will my partner think of me if I grab desperately for the Hitachi Magic Wand under my bed 20 minutes into a vigorous round of thrusting?

We’re not gonna lie, this could be startling for your lover, partly because they might think you’re about to attack them with a baseball bat, but mostly because the best time to talk about sex toys is generally before you start having sex. A surprising number of people are unfamiliar with the idea of using vibrators during partner sex, and also the fact that most female bodies do need some form of clitoral vibration to orgasm. Well before the deed begins, it helps to sit your partner down and let them in on this information, along with some personal encouragement and motivation like “I love how you fuck me and I want to come extra hard for you” or “Later, I can show you how good this feels on your balls while I suck you off.” After all, even the most secure among us hates to feel left out of the action.

Speaking of vibrators the size of sports equipment, are there any vibes you might recommend for couples just starting out with toys or that are specifically designed for partner use?

We happen to know plenty of couples who use and really enjoy the strongest, loudest, most unwieldy vibes around, but we do have recommendations for those just starting out, and there are more and more vibes being made that are designed specifically for partner sex. In general, you’re probably going to want something that’s on the quiet side and fits nicely between two bodies, like Jimmyjane’s Little Chroma. Vibrating cock rings, like the Vibratex Duet are very popular with couples because they provide hands-free stimulation to one partner’s clit or perineum while trapping blood in the penis of the wearer for an erection that can be harder and stronger. We-Vibe has created a revolutionary dual-stimulation vibrator that can actually be worn during sex! One end of the totally waterproof, rechargeable silicone vibe hugs the clit while the other goes inside the vagina, resting on the g-spot and allowing enough room for a partner to penetrate and feel the vibrations at the same time!

This is all so new and overwhelming, it makes me want to lie down… and try it! Any tips and tricks?

For some folks, the ultimate foreplay is the element of surprise and/or control. Those types tend to enjoy vibrating panties like Berman Center Astrea or other wearable remote control vibes. One partner wears a tiny vibrator tucked between the labia or under the balls while the other controls the vibrations from afar. A finger vibe like the PicoBong Ipo or a simple vibrating cockring fits around fingers without too much bulk or fuss and makes for a great reach-around during doggie style sex. Vibrating cockrings worn around the penis or dildo offer the most clit stimulation in the “cowgirl” position. It’s like turning your partner into a giant rabbit vibe with hands (don’t tell them that though)! We love the Laya Spot by Fun Factory because it’s quiet, splash proof, and its ergonomic shape feels wonderful in the hand and on the clit. Use it to cup his balls during a blow-job for extra stimulation and many thanks.

So this is what they mean by sharing is caring…

Wait! You may have learned in kindergarten that sharing your toys is always the polite thing to do, but with adult toys there are a few important guidelines. Rule number one is never, ever use a toy in the butt then use it in or around the vagina unless it has a fresh condom or is a non-porous toy that has been properly cleaned. Non-porous toys are those made of silicone, non-porous hard plastic, metal, or glass. They are safe to share with a condom or having been properly cleaned. Porous toys are made of several materials, the most popular being porous hard plastic, elastomer, vinyl, jelly rubber, and cyberskin. A toy made of porous materials should never be used anally without a condom unless it is to remain an anal toy for the rest of its days. Two partners who are STI tested and fluid bonded may share porous toys, but we still recommend condom use in the case of jelly rubber and cyberskin, due to high porosity and potentially harmful plastic softeners.

Jan 22 2011

Pussy Fitness

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by thepleasurechest

Before you get excited picturing a vulva riding a stationary bike, that’s not exactly what we have in mind.

What “Pussy Fitness” refers to is exercising the PC muscle, or pubococcygeal muscle, sometimes called “Kegel exercises” or simply “Kegels”. This muscle, found in both sexes, runs from the pubic bone to the tailbone, cradling the internal sexual organs. Having a well-toned PC muscle can be beneficial for men as also, is it controls urinary and ejaculatory function, but in this article we’re going to focus on the vag. Women with well-toned PC muscles can have stronger orgasms, better bladder control later in life and during pregnancy, and an easier time during natural childbirth.

The great news, once you locate it, is that the PC muscle is easy to exercise. There’s no set-aside time or equipment required, though there are many products that can enhance your workout.

To find your PC muscle you can imagine you are holding your urine stream or actually try to stop it while on the toilet. Another technique is to insert a finger inside your vagina and squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should feel your vagina tighten and pelvic floor move upward then back down to the starting position when you relax.

Caution: Don’t make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream. Doing Kegels with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles and can also lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder, which increases risk of a urinary tract infection.

Now for the workout! Feel free to make a Kegel mix on your iPod. We recommend something mid-tempo or relaxing. This is more like pussy yoga than aerobics (that comes later when you’re getting your sex on). Make sure you empty your bladder completely, then sit or lie down and:

1.      Contract your pelvic floor muscles.

2.      Hold the contraction for three seconds then relax for three seconds.

3.      Repeat 5-10 times, increasing reps as it becomes easier to do.

4.      Adding more seconds to your contract/relax routine will help you strengthen over time. Try to work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.

5.      Don’t hold your breath. Relax and breathe, coordinating your breathing with your exercises.

6.      Focus on isolating and tightening only your pelvic floor muscles.

7.      Toys work great as a resistance tool and to maintain awareness and focus on these muscles. You can think of the Pure Wand like a barbell, using muscles to lift and lower first the light end and eventually the heavier end. Lube up some exercise balls on a string, like Fun Factory Smartballs or Lelo Luna Beads, insert them into your vagina, and gently pull on the string, squeeze to keep the balls in place, then relax and repeat. You can even get an exercise ball kit, like the Ami Vaginal Exerciser Set, which comes with three balls of increasing weight, letting you work up to the heaviest.

The bonus with exercise balls is that they can be worn discreetly as you go about your day, squeezing your PC muscle as you blog, ride your bike, or go to work, and there’s a smaller ball inside the outer ball that rumbles around pleasantly as you move. Awesome, right? Now all you need is some of those shoes that allegedly give you a workout just by wearing them and you can totally cancel your gym membership. Just kidding.

Jan 22 2011

BDSM for Beginners

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by thepleasurechest

You’ve probably seen some form of BDSM depicted on television, in movies, or even snuck into an otherwise “vanilla” porno film. Maybe it made you curious, maybe it turned you on, or maybe it turned your partner on and now you sleep with one eye open, afraid that some night you’ll wake up to get a glass of water and find yourself tied to the bed. Well fear not, adventurous friend, for BDSM is all about mutual consent and negotiated boundaries. There’s a whole lot to learn, and we carry several books and DVDs to help you along on your journey, but this is quick guide to get you started.

We hear a lot of questions from people about BDSM. Here are some common ones:

“Wait, what is BDSM again?”

BDSM is the commonly used catchall term for bondage, discipline, submission, dominance, sadism, and masochism. It can include role-playing with dominant and submissive roles, restraints, sensation play (exploring with ice cubes or hot wax, or deprivation with gags or blindfolds), impact play (such as spanking or flogging), and much more.

“Doesn’t all this hurt? Why would anyone like pain?”

The idea that BDSM is all about pain is incorrect, although most agree that certain things that would be painful in a street fight, like someone scraping their nails across your skin, can feel great and be totally hot in the right context. For many BDSM players, the pleasure is not only in the sensation, but the connection and intimacy between partners in a situation where communication and trust is of the utmost importance. The power dynamics involved in BDSM, whether you are playing master and submissive or calculus teacher and failing football star eager to get the grade, can be extremely erotic.

“Okay, so maybe I like it when my partner blindfolds me and tickles my feet no matter how much I try to wiggle away, but what if I REALLY want them to stop?”

In the BDSM world, players make up a safe word to let their play partner know when they need to stop or slow down. Words like “stop” or “ouch” don’t work well as safe words because, especially in the midst of intense power play or discipline, they can seem like part of the action. It’s important, for that reason, to pick a very specific safe word that you and your partner will remember easily. It can be as simple as “yellow” for slow down and “red” for stop, or you can get more creative, as long as it stands out.

“I’m really liking the sound of this. Uh oh, does that mean I’m a freaky sexual deviant?”

No way! The thing to remember is that the motto for the BDSM community is Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Sometimes, especially as depicted in the mainstream media, scenes of BDSM can seem intimidating at best and downright abusive at worst. This is not the case at all because, in real life, people involved in BDSM acts have discussed their boundaries, desires, and safe words ahead of time. They discourage or ban use of drugs or alcohol during play or playing with an unclear mind.

Keep in mind that enjoying BDSM doesn’t mean you have to give up your job at Pottery Barn and move into a dungeon. Some people are “lifestyle players” within their relationships or daily lives, but many choose to only bust out the ball gag late at night or bring out the suspension hooks on the weekends or simply add a little spice to their regular sex lives with a blindfold and ice cubes. You can incorporate as much or as little BDSM into your life as you want. It’s all about what turns you and your partner on.

“Wow, thanks! I totally feel so much better! Should I go out and get a leather face mask, bullwhip, and spreader bar right now???”

Enthusiasm noted and appreciated, but no. When beginning to explore BDSM, it’s best to start out slowly, not only for safety’s sake, but for your wallet as well, until you know a little more about what you like and how to use more advanced implements. Since communication is so important in the practice of BDSM, the first place to start, of course, is by talking with your partner. If you need some guidance, use the Yes/No/Maybe List, one of our favorite tools to get people talking about sex, desires, and boundaries. Depending on your comfort level you can try role-playing and begin to play with power dynamics.

Reading books like The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping Book, or SM 101, and watching instructional or erotic BDSM DVDs like the classic fetish extravaganza Fashionistas can help you learn new tricks and figure out what kinds of things tickle (or slap) your fancy the most. Speaking of a sexy slap session, spanking is a great place to start exploring. Use your hand at first so you have optimal control of the impact and stroke. Focus on fleshy parts like the ass and thighs, and eventually you can try something like a crop or slapper.

“Is there any other gear you’d recommend for beginners?”

As far as restraints go, we highly recommend using cuffs made of neoprene or leather that buckle at the wrist or ankle. You can attach them together using a piece of chain, rope, or an Under the Bed Restraints kit. Traditional handcuffs or silk scarves can tighten suddenly and cause pain and loss of circulation. We also love guiding absolute beginners to the Pleasure Tape because it is safe and versatile. The vinyl tape sticks to itself but not your skin, so it’s sturdy but easy to remove. You can practice using it to bind hands, feet, as a gag or blindfold, even for total mummification without the fear of cutting off circulation or ripping off anything important when it’s removed. A light flogger, pinwheel, or adjustable nipple clamps are a great for exploring sensation play.

The most important thing to remember (aside from your safe word) is that communication and trust are key elements to enjoyable BDSM play, and any sex, really. It’s okay to experiment and have fun, just as it’s okay to have a deep spiritual experience. Our bodies and their varied responses to stimuli are what make sexual encounters so exciting and pleasurable.

Dec 10 2010

How to Choose a Vibrator

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by thepleasurechest

With so many buzzing, humming, and even rotating devices to choose from, what seems like a simple, sexy task can get a little intimidating. Whether you’re shopping for your first vibrator or in the market for something new, there are a few important questions you can ask yourself to help the process along.

Why should I get a vibrator?

Vibrators are fun! Most women find some kind of vibration pleasurable and many actually need that kind of steady stimulation to have an orgasm. That’s totally normal and ok. No, you won’t get addicted, but if you do find introducing a vibe into your sex life helps you get off, chances are your partner will be perfectly pleased as well.

What kind of vibrators are out there?

The amount of styles, speeds, and pulsations vibrators come in could create enough heavy breathing to power a small city for weeks.
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Clitoral Vibes
are vibrators specifically designed to be used externally. Pretty much any vibrator can be used on the clit, but many clitoral vibes aren’t meant to be inserted, like The Pleasure Chest Red Mini, a one-speed, water-resistant, portable classic. One of our most popular vibrators is the two-pronged Jimmyjane Form 2, which is rechargeable, ultra-powerful, and designed to rest on either side of the clit.
iconic smoothie
Slimline Vibes remain popular because they are a bit more versatile and most are fairly inexpensive. They usually have a twist dial or push button at the bottom to control the speed. The Jimmyjane Iconic Smoothie is the obvious choice, with its ultra-powerful motor and one-year warranty. The Je Joue Uma is a luxurious alternative, rechargeable and made of body-safe silicone.
g kii
G-spot Vibes
are curved to access the g-spot. Lelo’s Gigi 2 continues to blow our minds and fly off our shelves due to the spot-on curvature, silky silicone cover, and the fact that it’s rechargeable. The fully water-submersible G-kii is covered in 100% silicone and has joints that lock in place to reach just the right spots.
rabbit habit double plus good
Rabbit-style Vibes first hopped into our hearts and top drawers courtesy of Charlotte on Sex and the City. These vibrators feature a rotating or vibrating shaft of some kind and an external clit stimulator. They’ve seen a million incarnations and copycats since, but Vibratex, the founders of the original Rabbit, with an updated classic Rabbit Habit and the amazing Sugar Pop, which features vibration and rotation patterns galore. The Fun Factory Amorino doesn’t rotate, but its ingenious band also stimulates the often-neglected clitoral legs, making it both unique and freaking awesome.
aneros vice
Anal Vibes vibrate on the delicate, sensitive nerves around the anus or on the prostate. Make sure that your toy has a base, so that it can’t possibly get pulled into your butt. We love the Aneros Vice, which doubles as a hands-free prostate massager, and the taint-tickling Naughty Boy.
We-Vibe 4 remote pink
Couples’ Vibes can only be used with a partner. They literally explode when single people turn them on. Just kidding, anyone can use vibes geared toward couples, and likewise some couples prefer more traditional vibes. The more mainstream sex gets, though, the more thoughtful sex enhancers for couples come out on the market. The We-Vibe 4 is the hottest new item for two because it’s made of silicone, waterproof, rechargeable, and can actually be worn during sex. The Mio vibrating cockring from Je Joue is one of the only rechargeable vibrating rings on the market. It gives strong sensations – including multiple speeds and vibration patters – to both partners.
little chroma
Luxury Vibes often carry a pinky-out aesthetic, but the real benefit to most of these lies in the quality, body-safe materials they’re made of. Sure, Jimmyjane’s Little Chroma is a bit of an initial investment, but it’s nearly  silent, submersible in water, and boasts a stainless steel outer layer and replaceable motor. That’s more of a smart investment than splurge, if you ask us.
kandi kisses
Discreet Vibes had to be extremely slick to get into this category. Pick one of these if you have curious kids or roommates or travel a lot. There are the obvious hidden in plain sight vibrators, like the Kandi Kisses lipstick vibe and then there are those like the Lelo Mia, which is ultra-quiet and looks nothing like a sex toy, yet has multiple speeds and vibration patters.

How do I use my vibe?

The individual vibrator’s intended use, instructions, and your personal taste will guide you, but here’s a few tips: Experiment with the on/off, speed change, and pulsation functions before you get down to business. You can use your vibrator to tease your favorite spots like nipples, neck, and thighs. A drop or two of lube helps a clit vibe glide around nicely and is a must for inserting a g-spot vibrator, vibrating dildo, or anal vibe.

Dec 10 2010

Cock Extensions

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by thepleasurechest

vixskin ride on

Cock Extensions, Really?

OK, time for some straight talk. You were born with the dick that God gave you. (And there’s no sense complaining to her, because she’s got bigger problems to worry about.) We’re not in the business of dick shaming or size queening, around here. All penises are beautiful, and they can all give pleasure to their owners and to others. In fact, most of the nerve endings in the vagina are in the very first third. You don’t need to be Long Dong Silver to hit the magic G-Spot.

OK, enough with the disclaimer, because the truth is that we love cock extenders. What are they, you ask? A cock extender is a hollow sleeve or sheath, usually made of rubber, that fits on the end of your penis, giving you up to a few inches of extra length and girth. They can be worn with or without a condom, and they don’t need any harnesses or straps to stay in place. So, why would anyone want to try a cock extension? Here are just a few reasons you might want to extend your reach under the sheets.

Plunge the Depths

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Fat Boy Sport

A cock extension can allow you to go where no man has gone before. If your partner is female, those few extra inches could reach her cervix. (And yes, there are women who love to feel pressure on their cervix). The extra girth also means a fuller feeling for vaginal and anal sex, whether your partner is male or female.

Last longer

OK, this might be obvious, but a penis extender will reduce sensations for the wearer. So, if you’re the kind of guy who needs a little help to keep from coming, this will likely do the trick. Or, if you’ve already come, you can grab an extension and keep fucking to your heart’s content.

It’s Kinky

Maybe you like how the bulge looks when you’re wearing a penis extender under your pants. Or you like the way your improbably large cock looks and feels as it plunges into your partner. Or maybe you’re a submissive who kinda gets off believing that you’ll never be able to satisfy without a few extra inches of silicone. If you enjoy orgasm denial, this can be a great way to pleasure your master or mistress without coming. Whatever your kink, a penis extender can be a great tool to bring your fantasies to life. You may never be John Holmes or Jeff Stryker, but with a cock extension, you and your partner can enjoy the fantasy.

oxballs dude

Oxballs Dude

Choosing a Cock Extension

 

If erectile dysfunction is your issue, the body-safe silicone Vixskin Ride On fits comfortably over a flaccid penis. Even better, it’s designed to anchor around your balls to stay in place during vigorous play. If you’re worried about losing the sensation on your sweet spot, the Fat Boy Stretchy Extender is lined with deliciously stimulating texture, giving the wearer extra pleasure and an extra inch of girth. (Try the smaller Sport model for a snugger fit.) If you’re after the monster cock fantasy, the Oxballs Dude Cock Sheath will provide all the extra size and bulging veins you could want.