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Jan 09 2014

Big Beautiful Sex

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We were delighted to have sex educator Lady Cheeky at our Los Angeles store last night, teaching her body positive workshop Big Beautiful Sex. She shared her insights about overcoming fat-shaming, building sexual confidence, and finding the toys and positions that work best for your body. The workshop was such a big hit that we want to share the highlights with all of you!

Tips for Learning to Feel Sexy

Remember this: “The person there with you in the room – they want to be there.”

“To feel better about having sex, you have to have sex.” Notice how confident you are while you’re afterglowing, and bask in that confidence.

Take time to touch the parts of your body that you normally want to hide in ways that feel pleasurable.

If you look in the mirror and think that you look ugly, replace that with a neutral observation: “I have red hair.”

Try going to a Korean spa. Everyone is walking around naked: you get to just be another body.

Notice how you judge other people’s looks. Try to be more compassionate in your thoughts. You’ll train yourself to be nicer to yourself.

hitachiFinding Your Favorite Toys

Try a longer toy that gives you some extra reach:

- The Magic Wand Original is an unbeatably powerful vibe.

- The Njoy Pure Wand may look like “a Star Trek torture device,” but it’s everyone’s favorite G-spot/prostate toy.

If you’d like to try strap-on play, the Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit comes with a harness that adjusts up to 82″.

Silicone lube lasts forever, keeps your thighs from chafing in the summer, and loosens doors. Magic.

The We-Vibe 4 vibrator stays in place during intercourse, so that you don’t have to worry about holding it there.

Excellent Sexual Positions

Having a  firm pillow to lean on – like a sofa pillow or a Liberator Wedge - can help you find a position that’s more comfortable. For instance, you can have doggy style sex without the stress on your wrists and knees.

liberator wedge

Reverse cowgirl lets you control your leverage.

Try having sex on your side; it lets you relax and leaves your hands free for other things.

Liberator pillows are great for oral sex too!

 

Jan 07 2014

A Crash Course in Communication

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by thepleasurechest

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If you’re in a romantic relationship, have a sex partner (or several), or have friends, you know how vital good communication is. It’s how we get what we want! It’s how we understand what other people want! Important stuff! Luckily, this has been a great week for smart articles about communicating.

Emily Brooks’s excellent article on Autostraddle, “Body as a Second Language: Navigating Queer Girl Culture on the Autism Spectrum,” is a must-read both for its points about different kinds of accessibility (making queer spaces comfortable for people with sensory processing issues) and for the way that the author identifies different “languages” that people use with each other, often unconsciously.

Even in close relationships, we can struggle to read situations correctly. “My now ex-girlfriend used to drop hints about things she wanted me to do, such as saying, ‘I’m going to take a shower,’ when she wanted us to take a shower together,” related Fern. “Of course, those flew right over my head. She also expected me to respond to non-verbal cues regarding whether or not she wanted sex, and again, I had no clue.” Fern may have looked disrespectful or apathetic; really, she and her girlfriend just weren’t speaking each other’s languages.

Along the same lines, an older blog post about “Ask Culture and Guess Culture” has been making the rounds this week. Basically, in Ask Culture, you can ask for anything that you want, as long as you’re equally prepared to get a yes or a no. Guess Culture depends on using social cues to try to be reasonably certain that you’ll get a yes before you’ll ask for something.

All kinds of problems spring up around the edges. If you’re a Guess Culture person… then unwelcome requests from Ask Culture people seem presumptuous and out of line, and you’re likely to feel angry, uncomfortable, and manipulated.

If you’re an Ask Culture person, Guess Culture behavior can seem incomprehensible, inconsistent, and rife with passive aggression.

This is such a useful way of looking at things, and particularly relevant when it comes to talking about sex. One person’s innocent expression of interest can be another person’s pressure.

On a lighter note, we loved Kate McCombs’s advice for using “Panda Memes as Relationship Communication Tools”:

After a bit of frustrating back and forth (I knew there was something going on), he shared that he was having feelings but didn’t know how to describe them – he just felt “off.” I said, “So, do you feel a little bit like the panda who fell of the slide and landed on its head?”

Go forth, read things, feel smarter, communicate better.

Nov 27 2013

Winter Workshops in L.A.

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The weather outside is frightful – okay, it’s a little chilly – but expanding your sexual repertoire is delightful. Our savvy sex educators will show you tricks and techniques that will keep you (and your sweetie) warm all winter long. As always, attendees get a 15% discount on all purchases.

blowjobsSuck it, Lick it, Love it with Larkin & Shay
Wednesday, Dec ember 4th @ 8-10pm – FREE!

Our sex specialists share tips and tricks to get you in the spirit of giving and receiving amazing oral sex. We’ll cover anatomy basics, giving mind-blowing blowjobs, eating pussy like a pro, lending your mouth a hand (literally) to please your partner, and the best toys to accessorize your licks, sucks, and squeezes.

 

Performance Anxiety – Comedy Night at The Pleasure Chest
Tuesday, December 10th @ 8-10pm

Get your laughs and lube in the same place. Join us for the return of the ever popular Performance Anxiety, a comedy night hosted by Eli Olsberg. For seven bucks, you can enjoy free beer, 15% off your purchases and live performances by some of the best comics working today.

 

Down and Dirty Sex for the Holidays with Kristen & Sarah
Wednesday, December 11th @ 8-10pm – FREE!

Add some spice to this holiday season with our best sex tips, tricks and games! Kristen and Sarah will discuss ways to take your play to the next level by owning your fantasies, learning the art of the tease, and reclaiming the “dirty” side of sex. They’ll also share their secrets for G-Spotting, squirting, blow jobs, and anal play.

 

Big, Beautiful Sex with Lady Cheekylady cheeky
Wednesday, January 8th @ 8-10pm – FREE!

Who says you have to be skinny to have the best sex of your life? Whether it’s media and advertising images of “perfect” bodies or snarky comments about our weight, fat-shaming is all around us, and it can get in the way of our sexual confidence and pleasure. In this workshop, which combines lecture and discussion, body-positive educator Lady Cheeky talks about attitudes (both external and internal) that can hold us back from great sex and specific challenges we face as plus-sized lovers. You will learn skills – from communication tools to the best toys, techniques and positions – to help you embrace your sexuality and have big, beautiful sex.

 

Performance Anxiety – Comedy Night at The Pleasure Chest
Tuesday, January 14th @ 8-10pm

Get your laughs and lube in the same place. Join us for the return of the ever popular Performance Anxiety, a comedy night hosted by Eli Olsberg. For seven bucks, you can enjoy free beer, 15% off your purchases and live performances by some of the best comics working today.

 

Fundamentals of Flogging with Koko & Shay
Wednesday, January 15th @ 8-10pm – FREE!

Flogging is one of the most theatrical and versatile kinds of impact play – it can feel like anything from a sharp sting to a deep punch to a soothing massage – but it can seem intimidatingly difficult to learn. Luckily, our sex specialists are here to teach you everything you need to get started! This class for beginning and intermediate players will cover safety, flogging techniques, and how to incorporate flogging into your play.

Nov 19 2013

Sex FAQ is here!

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by thepleasurechest

Here at The Pleasure Chest, we spend a lot of time talking to people about their sex lives. Consequently, we also spend a lot of time answering a pretty short list of questions. While we’re always happy to answer them in person, we thought that you might appreciate some quick and dirty answers to our most frequently asked questions. Read them all here.

Nov 11 2013

Getting Sexy With A Latex Allergy

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Latex allergies are growing more and more common as latex appears in greater numbers of consumer products. Unfortunately, this means that more people have to avoid most condoms, many toys, and a lot of fetish wear. Luckily, there are alternatives! Educator, fetish model, and healthcare professional Maggie Mayhem has facts about different kinds of latex allergies, lists of products to avoid, and work-arounds for folks who are both kinky and latex allergic. Educate yourself here.

Oct 18 2013

Threesomes, BJs & More! Upcoming New York Workshops

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We’re thrilled to announce the upcoming workshops and events in our gorgeous new location! What better excuse to come explore The Pleasure Chest Upper East Side?

Sleazy Saturdays
Every Saturday @ 4-6pm – FREE!

Let us give your weekend a lascivious twist. Come mingle in our new store, talk sex with the staff, and stock up for Saturday night. We’ll provide the booze and a variety of exciting entertainment.

Blowjobs and Beyond with Victor and Phillip
October 22nd @ 8-10pm – FREE!

Want to have him squirming in his seat? Our Sex Specialists will show you how to use your mouth, hands, and more to give mind-blowing blow-jobs. We’ll cover male anatomy, tips and tricks, the truths and myths of “deep throat” plus other sexy secrets that are sure to have him begging for more.

Negotiating Successful & Sexy Threesomes with Reid Mihalko
reid-mihalko2October 29th @ 8-10pm – FREE!

It’s a popular fantasy with twice the pleasure potential, but navigating a three-way romance (if only for one night) can be tricky. Sex educator Reid Mihalko will teach techniques to satisfy two lovers at once, ways to overcome fears and concerns, the most common threesome mistakes and how to avoid them, and how to negotiate boundaries and safer sex protocols to make your next ménage à trios trés bien!

Butt Sex Basics with Victor
November 5th @ 8-10pm – FREE!

In this workshop, no topic on taking it up the ass is taboo. Learn why a warm-up is important before anal exercise, why lube is your butt’s bff, and how building comfort and trust with your partner can dispel common concerns such as pain or cleanliness. We’ll show you our favorite toys, how to use them solo or with a partner, cover the perks of having a prostate, anal g-spot stimulation, and toy and partner safety.

Girl Gasms: Art of the Female Orgasm with Ducky Doolittle
November 12th @ 8-10pm – FREE!

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Women are a deep pool of pleasure and Ducky Doolittle is here to teach you how to swim. Let Ducky demystify the female body, from erogenous zones, to the vulva, clit, G Spot, female ejaculation, pelvis muscles and even anal pleasure. Together we’ll compare ancient Eastern knowledge, current scientific data, personal discoveries, tips and techniques and send you home with a wealth of orgasmic knowledge and resources. This class is open to all women and lovers of women.

Blowjobs and Beyond with Phillip
November 19th  @ 8-10pm – FREE!

Want to have him squirming in his seat? Our Sex Specialists will show you how to use your mouth, hands, and more to give mind-blowing blow-jobs. We’ll cover male anatomy, tips and tricks, the truths and myths of “deep throat” plus other sexy secrets that are sure to have him begging for more.

The Pleasure Chest Upper East Side is located at 1150 2nd Avenue. See you there!

Oct 11 2013

Fisting, Roleplay & More! October Workshops in Chicago

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Halloween is almost here! It’s the perfect time to learn some new tricks and then treat yourself to a new toy at a 15% discount!

Vaginal and Anal Fisting with Antoinette
Tuesday, October 15th @ 8-10pm FREE!

Fisting has a formidable reputation in some circles, but it’s actually a sensual, spiritual way of connecting with our partners. Find out what fisting really is (hint: there are no fists!), how to coax your body (or your partner’s body) into opening up for it, and some healthy and easy tips for making it hotter than you can imagine!

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A Lesson in Erotic Roleplay with the Domi Dollz
Wednesday, October 16th @ 8-10pm FREE!

Looking for a new way to share your fantasies? Role playing with your partner can be a great addition to your sex life! Enjoy slipping out of your traditional relationship roles and exploring a sexy new persona. Plus, you don’t have to wait for Halloween to play dress up anymore! Join famed dominatrices and authors of “Kisses to Kink” Nina Payne and Mona Rogers as they guide you through the basics of kink and into the exciting world of erotic role-playing. Open to both singles and couples, this class will be filled with tips and tricks that are a surefire way to turn those fantasies into reality!

Performance Anxiety Comedy Night
Monday, October 21st @ 8-10pm FREE!

Get your laughs and lube in the same place. Join us for Performance Anxiety, a comedy night hosted by Goodrich Gevaart and Kristin Clifford and featuring live performances by some of the best comics working today. As a bonus, all audience members get 15% off their purchases on the night of the show.

Butt Sex Basics with Ash
Wednesday, October 23rd @ 8-10pm FREE!

In this workshop, no topic on taking it up the ass is taboo. Learn why a warm-up is important before anal exercise, why lube is your butt’s BFF, and how building comfort and trust with your partner can dispel common concerns such as pain or cleanliness. We’ll show you our favorite toys, how to use them solo or with a partner, cover the perks of having a prostate, anal G-Spot stimulation, and toy and partner safety.

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Shy Freaks: Exploring BDSM for the Introvert with Mollena Williams
Wednesday, October 30th @8-10pm FREE!

If the thought of BDSM action gets you hot and bothered but the thought of dropping trou in the middle of a dungeon full of fellow kinksters leaves you cold and queasy, you just might be a shy freak! This class explores finding your own boundaries, and will offer some tools for self-assessment. How do you know if you should push your shyness, or let it sit? What do you do if your partner is a flaming show-off and you like nothing more than a quiet scene at home? And how can you overcome what YOU want to overcome without succumbing to potentially damaging scene pressures? All of these questions and more will be explored in a lively and interactive format where even the shyest freaks get their say!

Oct 10 2013

How to Flirt at a Pleasure Chest Workshop

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Autostraddle recently featured a list of places where hookups might be found. One of the favorites? Sex ed workshops. We couldn’t agree more! To our delight (and relief) the article included some tips and caveats for approaching a cutie you meet at your local sex shop’s G-spotting class.

You could always feel free to share some of your experiences, listen in on others’ experiences or ask a group of people for a few extra tips. Opening yourself up to discussions might help you catch the attention of a woman who peaks your interests.

Remember that sex-ed spaces are often meant as fun, safe spaces where it’s okay to talk about sex freely, and that respecting and maintaining the value of that safe space may mean being discreet about your attraction. Also, be cautious with asking too many personal questions about someone’s sexuality and sex life, unless she brings it up first.

If the worst case scenario is that you pick up some new skills for when you do have someone to use them on, we still call that a win. You can find our upcoming workshops here.

The Autostraddle article is aimed at queer women, but a lot of the tips can be adapted to suit anyone. Read it here.