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Feb 22 2010

Negotiate, Negotiate, Negotiate: The Yes/No/Maybe List

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by thepleasurechest

“Knock knock”

“Who’s there?”

Surprise Buttsecks!”

“Wait, WTF?!?!”


Okay, all adorable internet cat memes aside, total surprises in bed are generally frowned upon, at least when it comes to a new and/or exotic sex act. Want butt sex? Negotiate. Want to be tied up or tie someone up? Negotiate. Want to call your partner a filthy manwhore while working his nipples like a stuck zipper in a urinal at Mardi Gras? Yeah, definitely negotiate.

The Yes/No/Maybe List is a tool we use here in the store to help partners get the conversation started. It’s a list of sex acts (to which you can always add your own) and columns reading “Yes”, “No” and “Maybe.” We suggest each partner take a list and fill it out separately, then get together on a sex date, which incidentally is not actually a date in which you have sex, but one to get together and talk about the sex you might want to have without shaming or judging one another.

Go ahead and try it! It’s way more fun than, say, negotiating and delegating household chores. Although, we do recommend doing that as well. Better communication in any situation always leads to better sex. A little naughty housekeeper roleplay perhaps? The possibilities are endless.

Feb 08 2010

Roses are red, our logo is too, if you don’t like vibrators, do we still like you?

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by thepleasurechest

Our Facebook and Twitter pages are all  a-buzz over the awesomeness of the free vibe we’re giving away for the next week and a half, and we’re feeling pretty damn excited about it ourselves.

This weekend I went to someone’s home to do a toy party, however, and something interesting was brought to my attention. I didn’t bring any dildos because the party host didn’t request them specifically, and one of the guests was pretty disappointed by this. She said she wasn’t crazy about vibrators, that they made her nose itch when she used them, and, I quote, “I don’t want to be thinking about my nose at a time like that.” After my initial LOL, we chatted about one vibe I had with me, the Slimline G, that I feel is awesome as a g-spot dildo when it’s not powered on because of its shape and hard plastic body. Of course, there are vibrators that are less strong than others, like your basic Mini Silver Bullet, or with a lower frequency (think “hum” as opposed to “buzz”), like the Clitoral Hummer, which in theory could ease the tickle factor, but since everyone’s body is different, we know not everyone is going to love vibration on their delicate bits.

That’s why I wanted to write a post today on a few of my favorite non-vibrating toys. We’d like to think our vast collection of goodies definitely has something for everyone, within the boundaries of the law, of course, but we always like to hear suggestions and comments from you.

  • Njoy Pure Wand The words “The Perfect G-spot Dildo” tend to fly out of our mouths when we talk about this toy. It is solid and heavy, and its weight lends well to hitting the spot just right. Pure Wand is made of stainless steel, which means its easy to clean and can be used vaginally or as an anal dildo (the curve is perfect for the prostate too!)
  • Pleasure Tape is perfect for bondage on the fly, as it’s portable and doesn’t stick to skin or hair. You can use it to easily and safely tie someone’s hands, feet, or as a gag or blindfold for an extra thrill without the commitment. And by “commitment” I mean having to rip off patches of your hair like when you use regular duct tape.
  • Sasi is a newer toy that does vibrate of you want it to, hence it is typically categorized with vibrators. But the unique thing about Sasi is that it has a mechanical rolling ball that moves under a thin membrane of silicone, brilliantly simulating oral sex – with or without vibration – and actually remembers over time which movements you like best! Yeah, we know, we should have had you sit down for that one.

The point is, we know whatever floats your boat will get you there, and we really like helping you get there, so never hesitate to ask questions or think it’s “weird” that you don’t like something some people seem to love. Oh, and to answer the question in the ultra-poetic title of this post, yes, we definitely like you! And also our logo isn’t always red… I call that poetic license.

Feb 05 2010

How to buzz together in the bedroom (or somewhere else way more scandalous, if you want)

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by thepleasurechest

Using a vibrator with your partner for the first time can be intimidating, that’s for sure, but building that kind of intimacy is totally rewarding, and the reward can be  not only more orgasms, but also a sense of fun and openness to please one another sexually. There are all kinds of vibes that are especially great to use with a partner, whether they’re designed in a way that makes them physically accommodating during intercourse or made specifically to offer stimulation to both partners.

Here are some common questions and concerns that may come up when you’re looking to add a buzz to the bedroom:

  • What will my partner think of me if I grab desperately under my bed for my Hitachi Magic Wand 20 minutes into a vigorous round of thrusting? We’re not gonna lie, this could  startle  your lover, partly because they might think you’re about to attack them with a baseball bat, but mostly because the best time to talk about sex toys is generally before you start having sex. A surprising number of people are unfamiliar with the idea of using vibrators during partner sex, and also with the fact that most female bodies do need some form of clitoral vibration to orgasm. Well before the deed begins, it helps to sit your partner down and let them in on this information, along with some personal encouragement and motivation like “I love how you fuck me and I want to come extra hard for you” or “Later, I can show you how good this feels on your balls while I suck you off.” After all, even the most secure among us hate to feel left out of the action!
  • Speaking of vibrators the size of sports equipment, are there any vibes you might recommend for couples just starting out with toys or that are specifically designed for partner use? We happen to know plenty of couples who use and really enjoy the strongest, loudest, most unwieldy vibes around, but we do have recommendations for those just starting out, and there are more and more vibes being made that are designed specifically for partner sex. In general, you’re probably going to want something that’s on the quiet side and fits nicely between two bodies, like Jimmyjane’s Little Chroma. Vibrating cock rings, like the Vibratex Duet are very popular with couples because they provide hands-free stimulation to one partner’s clit or perineum while trapping blood in the penis of the wearer for an erection that can be harder and stronger. We-Vibe has created a revolutionary dual-stimulation vibrator that can actually be worn during sex! One end of the totally waterproof, rechargeable silicone vibe hugs the clit while the other goes inside the vagina, resting on the g-spot and allowing enough room for a partner to penetrate and feel the vibrations at the same time!
  • This is all so new and overwhelming, it makes me want to lie down… and try it! Any tips and tricks? For some folks, the ultimate foreplay is the element of surprise and/or control. Those types tend to enjoy vibrating panties or other wearable remote control vibes. One partner wears a tiny vibrator tucked between the labia or under the balls while the other controls the vibrations from afar. A finger vibe (or vibrating cock ring) fits around fingers without too much bulk or fuss and makes for a great reach-around during doggie style sex. Vibrating cock rings worn around a penis or dildo offer the most clit stimulation in the “cowgirl” position. It’s like turning your partner into a giant rabbit vibe with hands (don’t tell them that though)! We love the Laya Spot by Fun Factory because it’s quiet, splash proof, and its ergonomic shape feels wonderful in the hand and on the clit. You can also use it to cup his balls during a blow-job for extra stimulation and many thanks.
  • So that’s what they mean by “sharing is caring”… Wait! You may have learned in kindergarten that sharing your toys is always the polite thing to do, but with adult toys there are a few important guidelines. Rule number one is never, ever use a toy in the butt then use it in or around the vagina unless it has a fresh condom on or is a non-porous toy that has been properly cleaned. Non-porous toys are those made of silicone, non-porous hard plastic, metal, or glass. They are safe to share with a condom or after having been properly cleaned. On the other hand, a porous toy (made from several materials, the most popular being porous hard plastic, elastomer, vinyl, jelly rubber, and cyberskin) should never be used anally without a condom unless it is to remain an anal toy for the rest of its days. Sexual partners who are STI tested and fluid bonded may share porous toys, but we still recommend condom use in the case of jelly rubber and cyberskin due to high porosity and potentially harmful plastic softeners.

Jan 19 2010

Lipservice

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by thepleasurechest

Last Monday night we had a mini blow-job workshop with Midori in the Los Angeles store. Not surprisingly, it was a full house of cocksuckers (in the good way), eagerly absorbing Midori’s tips and techniques on how to give great head. This particular subject matter is consistently one of our most popular topics at workshops, Sex Toy Socials, and in-store chats with customers.

Ah, the bj, or simply “beej” if you want to get casual. As a non-penis-owner, I suppose I may never know exactly what it is about one that makes them extra-special. Is it the tongue action? The suction? The opportunity to examine the top of one’s partner’s head in a way that is impossible except for the very tall? Well, we can’t help you with that last part (hint: step ladder, Home Depot), but there’s been several awesome advancements for guys wanting to experience better blow-jobs with a partner, or even solo, say, if you’re not as talented as this fellow:

An open-ended masturbation sleeve, like the Tantus Stroker can be used during a blow-job for extra sensation on your shaft while your partner goes to town on the the rest of your cock. Another trick is to cut a hole at the top of a soft, inexpensive sleeve like the Tenga Egg (sold in our stores and coming soon online), which is even shorter and more flexible, giving your partner even more room to show off their moves.

Discreet, portable packaging, included water-based lube, and innovative design have made Tenga sleeves wildly popular. Tenga Lipservice is one of our absolute favorites. The outer packaging looks like an innocent bottle of lotion or shaving cream, and although the cross section photo of the inside kind of looks like the gears of a terrifying clock you’re supposed to put your penis in, it feels velvety-soft in there, and the pre-lubricated opening is both pleasing to the senses and downright thoughtful. Lipservice is designed to feel like actual deep throat oral sex, including varying amounts of suction, tightness, and a “slurping” sound as you use it, making it not just a sleeve, but an experience. Well, a simulated experience. Or, rather, a simulation of an experience that is in itself an experience. Oh, you know what I mean.

P.s. The Pleasure Chest does not advocate any kind of walrus Peeping Tom-ery. It’s totally rude, but, to be fair, that walrus is kind of an exhibitionist.