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Jul 23 2015

Slip n’ Slide with our Handy Lube Guide

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by Chelsea

A good lubricant is a must-have to keep things slick and silky, but the options out there can be overwhelming. What’s the difference between silicone and water-based lube? What kind of lube is best for butt play? Is what I’m putting in my mouth actually edible? Fear not folks: our handy lube guide will turn you from a lube layman to a liquid legend!
aneros

   Water-Based Lube

For the lube novice, water-based lube is a great place to start. They’re easy to clean up, and wash right out of sheets and clothing.

Pros: Works great with latex condoms and a variety of toys, especially silicone toys.

Cons: Water-based lube is highly absorbent, which means it dries out more quickly, so you may have to re-apply/add saliva as needed.

We love Aneros Sessions, Wet Original, and of course the OG classic Astroglide Original.



 

Water-Based Glycerin-Free Lube
southbuttblissLove lube, but prone to yeast and urinary tract infections? The culprit could be glycerin, a slippery ingredient that can often throw off a
vagina’s pH balance. Glycerin-free lube is also a great option if you prefer something less sticky than your average lube.

Pros: Great for vaginal play and sensitive skin

Cons: Like the water-based lube, it requires re-application as it dries out.

We recommend Sliquid H20 and Sliquid Sassy (which is great for anal play). Southern Butter Bliss-On is infused with organic Calendula flowers, and comes in fragrance-free and peppermint and ginseng.

 

 

 

   Hybrid Lube

Hybrid lubes combine the long-lasting qualities of silicone lube with the easy clean-up of water-based lube. Get your swirl on with a hybrid, but be sure to spot-test your silicone toys before using a hybrid to make sure it won’t damage them.

sliqsilk

Pros: Best of both worlds! A smooth ride without the requisite stickiness.

Cons: May or may not affect your silicone toys. Taking time to do a spot test is necessary, but often a mood killer.

We’re enjoying Sliquid Silk, as well as Spunk Hybrid Lube and Gun Oil Force Recon, when you want to butch things up.

 

Silicone Lube

We can’t say enough good things about silicone lube. The texture is silky and smooth, and silicone is hypoallergenic, which is great for sensitive skin. Because it doesn’t absorb quickly, silicone lasts longer and requires less application. It’s great with latex and most toys, except for silicone.

uber

Pros: Great for anal play and water play. A little goes a long way!

Cons: Silicone lube can degrade silicone toys, so it’s a major no-no to use the two together.

We’re loving Uberlube and Pink, and of course you can never go wrong with something from the Pjur line of lubes.

 

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Flavored and Warming Lube

If you’re looking to spice up your BJ game, you might be interested in edible flavored lubes.    Or if you’re more into temperature play, you can give warming lubes a whirl, which are    especially fun when applied to your nipples.

Pros: Puts a fun twist on oral sex!

Cons: Always spot test, as they could irritate sensitive skin. Also, we’ve tasted some gnarly    flavored lubes in our day, so give it a taste test before slathering it all over your body.

Try Sex Tarts for fruity flavor or the Sliquid Lip Lickers Lube Cube Sampler for some variety.    To heat things up, give  System JO H2O Warming lube a whirl.

 

 

Oil-Based Lube

If you’re looking for a creamier texture, consider giving oil-based lubes a try. These are great for hand jobs and anal sex, as they last a long time. However, since oil degrades latex, these are NOT RECOMMENDED for safe sex.

boybutter

Pros: Long-lasting, great for anal and water play. A must-have for hand jobs and masturbation.

Cons: Incompatible with latex condoms, hard to wash out of clothes and sheets.

You can’t go wrong with Shaft, or the perennial classic Boy Butter.

Jul 08 2015

Free Workshops in NYC in July

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by Chelsea

Have a hot time in the city with these free workshops!

 

Head of the Class: Advanced Blowjobs with Phillip

Wednesday, July 1st @ 8-10pm FREE!

Want to give an even better blowjob? Let our Sex Specialists show you some new tricks and techniques. Learn how to find the perfect grip and mouth movement. Discover how to use your whole body to go the distance. Find new ways to tailor your blowjob to your specific partner. This class is for anyone who feels confident in giving head, but wants to take their skills to the next level.

 

Advanced Anal Play with Victor 

Wednesday, July 8th @ 8-10pm FREE!

For those who like to push the boundaries of butt loving, we’re excited to offer this advanced workshop on everything from anal douching and enemas to safe and sexy anal fisting. We’ll cover smart ways to engage in extreme ass play, double penetration for all genders, and help dispel the myths and shame around this enjoyable orifice.

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The Ultimate O with Carly

Wednesday, July 15th @ 8-10pm FREE!

Maybe you’ve never had one, maybe you have but you’re still not sure what all the fuss is about, or maybe you’re an orgasm overachiever with an unquenchable thirst for knowledge. Whatever your reason for taking this class, you’ll learn all about anatomy, techniques for coming with a partner or solo, how masturbation can help you expand your orgasm, G-spot orgasms, anal orgasms, and, of course, our Sex Specialists’ favorite tips and toys.

 

Sex Toys for Curious Couples with Molly-Iris

Wednesday, July 22nd @ 8-10pm FREE!

Using sex toys together can be intimidating, but it can add a sense of fun and openness to pleasing one another sexually. Many toys are fun for more than one, whether they’re meant to offer stimulation for both partners or enhance your sex. Our Sex Specialists will cover the best toys to use with a partner, communication, toy safety, and toy tips.

dirtytalk

 

G-Spot and Female Ejaculation with Charlie

Wednesday, July 29th @ 8-10pm FREE!

Looking for an all-over orgasm? Seeking the ever-elusive female ejaculation? This class will provide you with tips and techniques to expand your orgasm, both with your partner and on your own. For years the existence of the G-spot has been rejected while some have hailed it as the ultimate pleasure center; come find out what the buzz is about!

Apr 21 2014

Toy Cleaning & HPV: a PSA

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by Chelsea

toy cleaner

A new study from the Indiana University School of Medicine examined the possibility of spreading HPV through shared sex toys. The results are mostly unsurprising, but very worth reading. They had twelve women each provide vaginal samples and samples from two different vibrators – one made of thermoplastic elastomer and the second made of silicone – just after use, just after cleaning with soap, and after 24 hours. Here, we’ll break the results down for you. The percentages refer to the number of samples in which HPV was detected.

Vaginal samples: 75%

Vibrator 1 (thermoplastic elastomer)
After use: 89%
After cleaning: 56%
After 24 hours: 40%

Vibrator 2 (silicone)
After use: 67%
After cleaning: 44%
After 24 hours: None

Okay, let’s review what we’ve learned!

1) Elastomer toys (and, we can assume, other porous toys) should not be shared with a partner with whom you’re not fluid bonded (unless you’re using a barrier).

2) It looks like silicone toys are safe to share 24 hours after cleaning, but there’s still a risk of HPV transmission immediately after cleaning.

The second one surprised us, but we’re glad to know it. Now we just have more questions! Were they using hand soap or toy cleaner? Which brand? What would the numbers look like using different kinds of cleaners? Or with several more groups of women?

Isn’t science exciting? Find out more here.

Mar 27 2014

Fun Facts About Dental Dams

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by thepleasurechest

dental dams

Here’s some of what we learned about dental dams from The Verge’s very informative “Oral History: The Sexual Misadventures of the Dental Dam“:

Clive Woodworth of Glyde Health decided to develop a thinner, better dental dam for sexual use after three women approached him at a sexual health conference in 1993, complaining that there weren’t safer sex options for them to use with their female partners.

The resulting Sheer Glyde Dental Dams became available for purchase the next year, and are still sold today.

According to a 2010 study, only 9.7% of queer women use dental dams, and only 2.1% use them regularly.

Dentists use dental dams to cover the rest of the mouth while working on a specific tooth.

The FDA has never done anything like a comprehensive study of dental dams.

This isn’t a fact, but a couple of people interviewed speculated that, for many, dental dams are important symbolically, even if they’re not using them. Their existence shows that safer sex suppliers take queer women’s health seriously.

Feb 21 2014

Sex for the Polite

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by thepleasurechest

manners

Ever wonder what Emily Post would say about your sexual exploits? Our readers have sexual etiquette suggestions (inspired by Sarah Sloane‘s excellent sexual etiquette article) that will make you the best-mannered partner you can be!

On Preparedness

“Practice basic hygiene: take a shower, brush your teeth and smell good before sex.”

“Abstain from eating beans and other flatulence-producing foods for 24 hours prior to sex. If caught off guard by gas, give your partner(s) fair warning.”

“Always have a few clean hand towels within reach for an easy clean up. Waiting until you’re in the moment/afterwards to find one makes for a good mood killer.”

“New relationship, new toys.”

“Always bring extra batteries.”

On Safety

“I like to bring more than one type of male condom, to let him choose his preference (although I’d prefer he already have his own condom of choice on-hand).”

“Be conscientious of your potential vegan lovers preference to animal testing/animal product free condoms, lube and leather alternative harnesses.”

“Always bring gloves (nitrile to accommodate latex sensitivity or allergy!) and ask about your partner’s/s’ comfort and preference with gloves.”

“Always ask your partner about condom material before it is time. Nothing like being told they react to latex when it is time to put it on.”

“Never ever re-use a condom!!!”

On Communication

“Don’t always expect your partner to be the one to initiate. Be proactive!”

“Ask first! Converse about what you each dig before going at it.”

“Be open to what your partner wants, and do not judge.”

“Always ask before doing anything new or potentially invasive.”

“Don’t mention someone’s ex or family members.”

“Discuss sleeping arrangements after threesomes prior to the actual threesome!”

On Doin’ It

“It’s okay to be a little selfish in the moment, but when the moment is over and you’ve gotten what you need, don’t forget there is another person to please.”

“No T.V.! (Unless it’s porn, that’s okay.)”

“After 5 spanks to the ass, switch cheeks.”

“Relax and enjoy the inherent hilarity of sex. Laugh about the squelching noise that can come from p-in-v sex. Take a breather and acknowledge the ridiculousness when someone’s limb hits the other in the face.

“Remember that the journey is the destination. Not all sex requires an orgasm, nor does an orgasm signal the end of play time.”

“Don’t overreact to a queef. They can’t be helped, damn!”

On Ending the Evening

“In the event that he has come on someone’s face, a true gentleman will assist in washing it off once the tryst has been concluded.”

“Offer your guest(s) a nice hot bath or shower after all of the action.”

“A dirty toy makes for a dirty user… clean up after yourself!”

“Always say thank you for the nice time, even if it wasn’t as nice as you wanted it to be.”

Nov 25 2013

The Future of Condoms

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by thepleasurechest

condom with tabs

It’s an exciting time to be a condom user.

The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation has awarded eleven $100,000 grants to scientists who designed condoms that people might be more likely to want to wear. The grants will fund research into the condoms’ safety, efficacy, and manufacturability. After eighteen months, the winners can apply for a million dollar grant to go toward production and clinical trials.

The winners sound amazing and/or bewildering. One team made a more skin-like condom out of collagen from beef tendons and fish scraps. Another designed a condom out of a material that clings to the skin, so that the condom doesn’t have to fit so tightly in order to stay on. Others are creating new, more effective applicators. You can read the full list here.

h/t NPR

Nov 22 2013

Detecting Toxic Toys

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by thepleasurechest

Dildo sex toys are pictured during the 14th "Venus" erotic fair in Berlin

Yesterday, Bitch Media ran a piece about the lack of government regulation in the sex toy industry and how this leads to the sale of sex toys made with potentially toxic chemicals. Unfortunately, this is a real problem – one that’s old news for us. Sex toys are not regulated by the FDA, and many of them are made with phthalates: plastic-softening chemicals that have been linked to all kinds of icky health problems.

Luckily, there are ways to avoid toys with phthalates. The article mentions using a flame test – lighting a match and holding it against your toy – to determine whether a toy is 100% silicone or not. Silicone toys are non-porous, hypoallergenic, and phthalate free, which makes them totally awesome, and most silicones won’t melt when you hold a match up to them. Still, this isn’t the best solution, since a) not all phthalate free toys are silicone and b) you’d probably rather find out whether your toy is safe *before* you buy it, take it home, and set it on fire.

Instead, here are a few of our tips for buying a body-safe toy.

1) Read up on materials before you buy. This is a good place to start, but it isn’t foolproof, since manufacturers aren’t required to list exactly what’s in each toy. (So, you could buy a toy that’s labeled “silicone” and which is, in fact, only 10% silicone and 90% pure evil.)

2) Do a smell test. The best way to tell if a toy has harmful chemicals is to sniff it. Toys with phthalates will smell kind of cough syrupy, like your plastic toys used to when you were a kid. (Phthalates are now illegal to use in children’s toys, which tells you something.) Even a faint, baby powdery smell tells you that there’s something to be wary of. The most body-friendly toys won’t smell like anything.

3) Ask one of us! The Pleasure Chest staff are a bunch of toy safety nerds, and we can point you toward several brands who make durable, totally safe, high quality products.

Nov 11 2013

Getting Sexy With A Latex Allergy

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by thepleasurechest

condoms on a line

Latex allergies are growing more and more common as latex appears in greater numbers of consumer products. Unfortunately, this means that more people have to avoid most condoms, many toys, and a lot of fetish wear. Luckily, there are alternatives! Educator, fetish model, and healthcare professional Maggie Mayhem has facts about different kinds of latex allergies, lists of products to avoid, and work-arounds for folks who are both kinky and latex allergic. Educate yourself here.