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Bend Over Buddy:
Girl on Guy Penetration

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by thepleasurechest

When you’re ready to talk to your guy about pleasing him anally, the idea could be a tough pitch or he may be face-down-ass-up on your bed before you can finish the sentence, saying he thought you’d never ask. More heterosexual partners than ever are embracing the fact that the anus is an equal-opportunity orifice, and that almost anyone can enjoy anal sex. But, before you start writing the lyrics to a folk song about ass loving, remember that many of us were raised with certain beliefs about butt sex. These myths and half-truths are difficult to dispel, and there are many more of them, but we’ll try and tackle the most common ones.

  1. The ass is dirty. While we wouldn’t recommend a burrito grande washed down with a latte just before doing the deed, in truth anal hygiene is as easy as a little soap and water in the crack. If he’s still worried about cleanliness, tell him to get a little fancy and stick a soapy finger in his anus in the shower. To get even fancier, he can do a simple warm water douche with something like the Clean Stream Enema Bulb. Apart from that, the best tools in your safe sex arsenal will be lube, condoms, gloves, and dental dams for rimming.

    Clean Stream Enema Bulb

    Clean Stream Enema Bulb

  2. Anal sex has to hurt. Like all sexual experiences, when it comes to anal sex, the hurting is optional. There are numbing agents available specifically for anal use, but we tend to steer clear of those, as pain is the body’s way of warning you there may be a potential tearing situation. A relaxed asshole in a situation with someone it trusts and liberal use of a good anal sex lube, such as Pjur Bodyglide or Maximus, can bring its owner into a whole new realm of pleasure. Hello, the prostate = the male g-spot! Communication and lubrication are key when it comes to a pain-free, pleasure-full experience.
  3. It will make you lose total control of your bowels. Oh, this one again. Look, there’s no need to fear. Lube, communication, and relaxation will keep his butt happy for years to come. In fact, stimulation of this area brings white blood cells that can help ward off cancer, and prostate stimulation encourages a healthier sex life. Now, if only there were a way to convince him that wearing old, torn boxers can actually cause certain types of cancer…
  4. Taking it in the ass makes a man gay. We’re not overly fond of sexual pigeon-holing, but let’s keep it simple for some of the fellows out there: A guy having sex with another guy = gay sex. A guy being pounded by his sexy, confident girlfriend = not gay sex.

Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s talk about equipment. If you bring home a ten-inch dildo, chances are he’ll feel somewhat intimidated. Luckily, there are all sorts of inexpensive harnesses and smaller dildos for couples just starting out to try, as well as more advanced equipment. We recommend silicone dildos in every strap-on scenario, but when it comes to anal sex this is especially important, as silicone is non-porous and will prevent bacteria from spreading. We love the Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit because it includes a simple, adjustable nylon harness with interchangeable O-rings and the smooth, slender Small Silk Dildo and Medium Silk Dildos. These dildos are also sold separately and are extremely popular for anal beginners, but there is also a large size for more experienced types. We love harnesses with snap-out or adjustable o-rings because they can accommodate different sizes of dildos to suit your taste or comfort level. See our Strap-on tutorial, Harness Guide, and Our Favorite Anal Lubes for more info and specific recommendations.

Now, a little cheat sheet:

Do get comfortable with your cock ahead of time. Try wearing your harness and dildo around the house to get used to the feel of it.

Don’t pound his ass unless he has some experience and asks you to. Let him control the movement by backing into your dildo at first.

Do go slowly and communicate every step of the way.

Don’t forget his other parts; reach around and stroke his cock, play with his balls, pinch his nipples…

Do utilize toys such as buttplugs to prepare his ass for penetration.

Don’t assume doggy style is the only way to have anal sex. Missionary style anal sex with a curved dildo will hit his prostate just right and another position that works great for anal is “spooning.” Check out Tristan Taormino’s The Anal Sex Position Guide for even more ideas.

Do reapply lube as needed. There’s no such thing as too much!

1 Comment

  • Pleasure Chest

    [...] addition to frottage and I definitely look forward to wearing it under my harness during my next pegging [...]

    ReplyFebruary 7, 2012 at 12:24 am

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