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Entering the Back Door:
Butt Sex Basics

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by thepleasurechest

When engaging in anal play, it is essential to relax and use plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. One of the key things to remember about anal adventures with a partner is the incredible amount of trust involved. Practice open communication with your partner and let the person being penetrated control the action, at least in the early stages.

  • Use a lot of lube. Silicone lube is great for butt sex because it stays slick for a long time, but water-based lube can be thicker and more cushioning for delicate anal tissue. Experiment to find what’s right for you. And be sure to read about Our Favorite Anal Lubes.
  • Never use numbing lubes or creams, which are unsafe because they inhibit the body’s pain response and could cause you to over-do it.
  • Only use toys with a handle or flared base, otherwise they can slip inside the rectum during use. Cover porous toys with condoms for safer sex and easy cleanup.
  • Condoms, gloves, and dams are not only great for safer sex, but can reduce friction during anal play.
  • Before entering, use your finger to stimulate the sensitive outer area of the anus to excite and relax it. When penetrating with a finger, enter pad-first to avoid scratching. Short fingernails and/or wearing gloves can also help with this.
  • During butt play, do not enter the vagina with the same toy/finger/penis without thoroughly washing it or changing condoms. This can lead to infection.
  • Always pull out of the anus gently and carefully.

3 Comments

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    ReplyFebruary 24, 2011 at 3:37 am

  • res_ident

    As a gay male of nearly 50 I have always had fears/reservations about anal sex – though also curious. Also had several painful/bad experiences with it. :-/

    I have been reading up on ways to get past this (safely – of course!) and appreciate this little article. I’m wondering: I’m VERY tight – what are some good ways/techniques/toys I could use to loosen and relax myself on my own – and how regularly should I use them? Much Thanks! -res

    ReplyApril 16, 2015 at 6:06 pm

    • Kate M.

      For getting over fears about anal play, we recommend incorporating it into stuff you already enjoy. Start with external play – use a finger or a vibrator to massage your anus – while you masturbate. The idea is to re-train your brain a bit, so that you associate butt play with pleasure rather than stress and are able to relax and enjoy it. After all, stress makes your butt tense up, and then you’re back to square one.

      Once you get comfortable, a small butt plug can be a great, low-key way to incorporate butt stuff into your solo play. We always recommend the Njoy Pure Plugs in small or medium, and a lot of our customers love the Aneros Helix Syn plug.

      Have fun!

      April 16, 2015 at 11:45 pm

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