THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON January 21, 2021 BY MALIC WHITE.
The Pandemic is still here and Valentine's Day is on the way, but that doesn't mean can't get freakay!
If you and your sweetheart(s) are quarantined in separate cities, or if you’re trying to date new cuties responsibly, you’re probably getting frisky on FaceTime. Mutual masturbation -- even from afar -- is an incredibly gratifying way to have sex. You’ll always be your own best lover, and watching a partner get themself off can be incredibly intimate and astonishingly hot.
Here are some tips and toys from Sex Educator Malic White for hot, safe and sexy play this Valentine's Day!
Put Your Love on Lock
Before you get busy, create the perfect setting. Interruptions can really kill the mood, so if you live with family or roommates, lock your bedroom door! If your door doesn’t lock or if you just want to take extra precautions, the old sock-on-the-door works -- just make sure that everyone in your household knows the signal.
Get That Light Right!
Experiment with lighting and find the glow that makes you feel sexy. Use warm light bulbs in any lamps -- cool bulbs can wash out your features -- and make sure you’re lighting yourself from the front, since lighting yourself from behind can put you out of focus. If you’re on your phone, an inexpensive phone stand can help you capture your best angle, but a stack of books will work in a pinch.
Know Your Angles
If you’re struggling to find the right camera angle and keep your eyes on your partner’s hot bod, sex toys can be hard to manage. With these hands-free options, you can save your fingers for the camera (or your nipples!) and make your hot socially-distanced dates even hotter. These toys are perfect for solo masturbation, too!
Now that you've got the basics down...
Here are some Top Toy picks for Hands-Free FaceTime Sex:
We-Vibe Chorus Couples Vibrator ($199.95)
The We-Vibe Chorus is a rechargeable, adjustable, silicone masterpiece with two rumbly motors. The smaller end vibrates internally on the G-spot while the external portion stimulates the clit. Pop it in and use the “easy squeeze” remote to change the settings (or let your partner control it for you using the We-Connect app!). This versatile toy works well in combination with other internal toys and can also be used as a stroker! If you’re banging to a sexy playlist, turn on “Beat Mode” and literally vibe to the music via the app.
Fleshlight Shower Mount ($26.95) + Any Fleshlight Stroker (prices vary)
If you love your Fleshlight and don’t want to hang onto its cumbersome plastic body, the Fleshlight shower mount will save your socially distant sex life. Unscrew the bottom of your favorite Fleshlight, replace it with the shower mount and suction your toy to any tile wall. Now you can thrust away and keep your hands on the camera.
Colours Pleasures Dildo ($37.95 - $69.95)
With three different size options, this silicone dildo’s prominent head is
perfect for G-spot or prostate stimulation. Its suction cup base is strong
enough to handle vigorous thrusting. Stick this toy to the wall or the floor,
lube it up with your favorite water-based lube and enjoy the ride.
We-Vibe Moxie Panty Vibe ($129.95)
Want hands-free clit stimulation? The rechargeable, silicone Moxie clips into your underwear with a slip-proof magnet so it can always hit the right spot. Experiment with its 10+ vibration modes using the remote or let your date choose a vibration pattern on the We-Connect app. Wear it while you’re out and about to make your (socially distant and masked!) outdoor picnic date a little more exciting.
Fun Factory Cobra Libre 2 Penis Stroker ($129.95)
Unlike most toys designed for people with penises, the Cobra Libre’s powerful vibration focuses on the sensitive head of the penis rather than the shaft. With no stroking required, the Cobra Libre can be fully hands-free. This rechargeable toy features two quiet motors and 11 vibration patterns, creating all kinds of unique sensations. The stimulating part of this toy is made out of silicone, so it’s easier to clean than other strokers.
Fun Factory Stronic G Puslating Vibrator ($169.95)
When you don’t feel like doing the thrusting, Fun Factory’s Stronic G saves the
day. This rechargeable silicone toy uses magnets to pulsate at seven different
speeds and three different rhythms. Its curved head provides powerful G-spot
stimulation and helps the toy stay put while your hands are free to roam
wherever they please. If you need a little extra stability, try propping it with a pillow. You might need a little extra water-based lube for this
powerful thruster. Don't worry, the Stronic G pairs well with
Sliquid
Sassy
, a relatively thick lube water-based lube that provides a little
extra cushion.
b-Vibe Rimming Plug ($149.95)
If you miss getting your salad tossed, this rechargeable silicone butt plug is
probably the next best thing. The vibrating portion provides strong internal
stimulation, while the rotating balls around the base massage the sensitive
anal opening. You can easily change the settings with its remote (or if you’re
quarantining with a partner, let them give the settings a whirl). Make sure you
use plenty of water-based lube! If this plug seems too big for your booty, try
the petite version.
Rechargeable Magic Wand ($129.95)
The Magic Wand isn’t marketed as a hands free toy, but if you get creative with
your position, this powerful wand provides plenty of surface area to grind on.
With multiple speeds and four impressive vibration patterns, the Magic Wand
will nearly blast you into space.
Aneros MGX Trident Prostate Massager ($54.95)
The aggressive but smooth angle on this butt plug is perfect for massaging the prostate.
This non-porous, medical grade plastic toy can be used with any type of lube.
Once your Helix is lubed up and inserted, use your sphincter muscles to squeeze
the Helix and create rhythmic pressure against the prostate. The Helix is
relatively small and easy to insert, making it a great beginner toy for people
without prostates, too!
Lelo Ina WaveDual-Action Vibrator ($209.95)
The Lelo Ina Wave dual-action vibrator is your perfect pandemic partner. Lelo’s rechargeable, silicone,
dual stimulation toy vibrates
and rhythmically curls up and down in a 'come hither' motion for
deep G-spot stimulation. Once you figure out your favorite settings, the Ina
Wave becomes an intense hands-free ride.
Malic White is a Sex Educator, Comic and writer for Autostraddle.
Need some more gift ideas? Check out our 2020 V-Day Gift Guides!
Stay safe & sexy, everyone.