How to Do it In Public

THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON March 19, 2021 BY THE PLEASURE CHEST.

Spring is Coming! Go Play Outside!

Here are a few of our fave tips and tricks on playing in public and a few eco-friendly products sure to please your Mother...Earth.

Have you ever wanted to 'do it' outside? Curious about the heightened pleasures of playing in public? Whether you're pulling over to pause from traffic, shagging in an outside shack, or playing in a park, having sex in public can add a heightened sense of fun to your play and a closer connection with nature.

 Naughty by nature!

Verbal Domination - Developing your own language with your partner or talking in code can really kink up your sex whether in the bedroom or in public. Establishing a consensual understanding around verbal domination or humiliation can heighten the intensity of both Dominant and submissive roles, especially in public where you can have your own secret dialogue.

Establish your cues & codes.

Exhibitionism - Some thrive on the shock value of being seen doing it in public or just the possibility of being caught. Whether you are taking your partner for a walk on all fours during puppy play or getting your airline miles in the Mile High Club, playing in public spaces heightens the level of dopamine production, which studies show can be enhanced as much by mental stimuli as physical!

Don't get caught. Or do...it's up to you!


Covert Kink - Playing in public doesn't necessarily mean having sex out in the open. Sometimes keeping your kink undercover can be as much of a rush as playing in public. Try incorporating kegel balls, butt plugs, or sensory play into your everyday activities and see how much fun it is to keep a secret. 

Fun Factory Smart Balls Kegel TrainerbVibe Snug PlugsWeVibe Moxie Panty Vibe
Kegel Krusher
Back Door Bliss
Perfect Panty Vibe


Covertly play in public with toys that stay put for more pleasure: Fun Factory Smartballs (keep up your Kegels), b-Vibe vibrating Snug Plugs stay put all day, and the We-Vibe Moxie offers some serious remote-controlled panty vibes.

Othello Oval Dildo
Othello Oval Dildo           +

MyStim Tension Lover Electroplay Kit

Need a little more? Try some electro play! Hook the Othello Oval Dildo up to the MyStim Tension Lover Electroplay Kit and play with currents and temperature play all day!


Remote and App-Controlled ToysThe good news is there have been a lot of technological advancements with remote and app controlled sex toys so you and your partner can program your pleasure from only a few feet away up to anywhere in the world! Go hands-free with remote control and Bluetooth features, or use your phone app to sync your vibrator, stroker, cock ring or anal plug to your favorite recorded settings, Spotify playlist, 2D videos and yes, even webcam stars!

We-Vibe Chorus Remote and App Controlled Couples VibratorHot Octopuss Duo Lux Remote Control StrokerSvakom Phoenix Neo App Controlled Vibrator
We-Vibe Chorus couples vibratorHot Octopuss Duo LuxSvakom Phoenix Neo


The We-Vibe Chorus couples vibrator will glide you easily to orgasm while staying comfortably in position during partner play. The easy squeeze remote, phone App sync feature will also have you singing Chorus' praises! Enjoy some different strokes with the Hot Octopuss Duo Lux Remote Control Stroker. Strap on the watch-shaped remote and easily play with varying vibration settings right from your wrist! Want to go extra virutal? Pair the app-controlled Svakom Phoenix Neo vibrator with the FeelConnect App for hands-free and remote partner play, or sync with 2D interactive videos and interactive WebCam sessions.


Play Parties - Although most play parties are held indoors, you can explore the world of playing in public in a more controlled environment. Play parties can be a great way to begin exploring playing in public as other like-minded attendees are encouraged to consensually engage in BDSM, kink, and other sexual activity in a designated space or 'Dungeon'. Not ready to play just yet? Attend a local Munch or join as a voyeur to get the lay of the land and familiarize yourself with the rules, toys, and potential future play partners.

Mix it up.


Communication/ Consent - As with any type of play, it’s best to discuss potential scenarios (Negotiation 101!) with your play partner to make sure you’re on the same page, and even more so when playing in public as safety can sometimes be compromised. Brushing up on these basics beforehand can build a stronger foundation to help you kink up your sex and do it safely! Need help planning a kinky outdoor scene? Try filling out our Yes, No, Maybe lists with your partner to see if you're (literally) on the same page!

Yes, No, Maybe list

Our famous Yes/No/Maybe cards.


Play au Naturel

The good news is most leading sex industry companies are now incorporating more eco-friendly products and practices.

Love Your Lube. look for body-safe lubes that are pH balanced as well as glycerin and paraben free. Some lubes are made with chemicals like phthalates or additives like glycerin and propylene glycol, which can be irritating to your skin.

Sliquid Organics water-based lube.

Sliquid Organics lube made with certified organic botanical extracts is vegan and glycerin and paraben free.


Inner Piece. Cut down on disposable battery waste by using rechargeable toys. Not only do rechargeable toys make it easier to play in public, most are made with lithium-ion batteries, which have one of the best energy densities available, as well as a slow loss of charge when not in use. If you really want to get in touch with the elements, try non-battery operated toys made of glass, metal, and yes, even rose quartz!

Chakrubs Rose Quartz Dildo

Chakrubs Rose Quartz Dildo

Open your heart, lower stress and attract love with the Chakrubs Rose Quartz Dildo, made from pure rose quartz.


Make It Last. Opt for non-pourous, silicone toys. Some companies use 100% FDA approved and or medical grade silicone, which is the highest quality on the market. Beware of toys made with phthalates, chemicals added to plastic as a cost-effective way of increasing its flexibility and durability, but which are easily leached away and absorbed into the body or the environment.

Silicone toys have a longer shelf life and can be reused safely when cleaned properly.


Love Your Mother. Many companies such as Fun FactoryLelo, Jimmyjane and We-Vibe are committed to socially conscious methods of production and packaging. Safer work environments and production practices, minimal packaging and material use are ways industry leaders are setting the example for safer, more environmentally conscious products.

Fun Factory Bootie

Fun Factory Bootie

Fun Factory's Bootie Training set. Made with medical-grade silicone, is packaged in recycled cardboard without plastic or glue, and printed using soy ink!

Playing in public can heighten your senses, spice up your sex life, and build a deeper connection between you and your partner. The beauty is, there are many new remote, bluetooth and app controlled sex toys on the market so you can keep it covert and kinky inside, outside, or anywhere in the world!