How To Choose A Dildo

THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON February 19, 2017 BY THEPLEASURECHEST.

So you’re in the market for a dildo. If you’ve browsed our site or taken a stroll through one of our stores, you might be overwhelmed by the sheer variety of dildos available for purchase. Let us help you choose the right tool for the job!

Choosing a Material

Dildos come in a variety of materials, from plastic, rubber and silicone, to glass and stainless steel. Each material offers its own unique sensation and there are strengths to each type of toy. The most affordable dildos are often made of plastic or rubber. Some types of rubber, especially those made from Cyberskin, can feel amazingly soft and lifelike. Slimline Cybercock Dildo is a great introduction to the benefits of Cyberskin-like materials. Because plastic and rubber are porous, you’ll want to use a condom if you plan to share these toys with a partner.

Colours Dildos

The most popular dildos are made from silicone, which is non-porous, pliable and very easy to clean. Silicone toys tend to be more expensive than rubber or plastic, but if you take care of them, they can last a lot longer. They’re also fine for use with multiple partners. They can be sterilized in boiling water and most brands are dishwasher safe.

Toys made from glass and stainless steel are great if you’re looking for a firmer sensation. Both are also ideal for enhancing your experience with temperature play. Simply put your dildo in the freezer to chill out or hold it under a warm tap to heat things up.

Realistic?

Shiloh from New York Toy Collective

Some people crave a realistic look and feel in a dildo. Others prefer a non-phallic or modern design. This is a matter of personal taste, so there’s no right choice. Folks looking for realism might enjoy toys like The New York Toy Collective's Shilo which has a very soft silicone exterior with a bendable inner core. When balls are a must, a fully-equipped dildo like the VixSkin Goodfella fits the bill. Porn fans will probably adore the Jeff Stryker Realistic Dildo, molded directly from its famous phallus.

Or Not?

Five Jules Dildo

If you crave something less phallic, you’ll probably enjoy the smoothness of the Tantus Silk or the elegance of the Five Jules dildo, designed by lesbians, for lesbians. Steel and glass toys offer even more options, from the hefty beauty of the Njoy Eleven to the smooth simplicity of the Glass Curved Wand.

Small, Medium or Ginormous?

Njoy Eleven

Picking the wrong size dildo can be a costly mistake. Close your eyes and grasp one, two, three or more of your fingers at the same time and think about the size of things you have enjoyed inside of you in the past. You can also do this with a cucumber, zucchini or other phallic fruit or veggie. If you want to try out the size, you can use these items with a condom to ensure the perfect fit.

Every dildo on our site has a “Specs” section listing the toy’s dimensions. If you’re just getting started or like ‘em on the smaller side, try something like the Tantus Silk Small or the small Vixen Realistic. Smaller dildos are also great when you’re first trying anal intercourse.

If you’re looking for something in the middle, try the Vixen Leo or the medium Tantus Silk on for size.

Vixen Leo

And when only a big dildo will do the job, check out the mighty Vixskin Maverick or the 7.5” Captain. If girth is more important than length, you might feel cozy with the Tantus Mr. Universe or the Vixen Randy.

Do You Want to Strap It On?

If you’re planning to strap it on, then you should pick a dildo that works with a harness. Anything with a wide base or balls should work, though some very large dildos might not fit your harnesses’ O-ring. If strapping it on its important, check this page for an assortment of dildos we’ve approved for harness play.

If you’re new to strapping it on, pick a dildo with a little extra length to keep it from slipping out. A dildo with a ridged head like the Vixen Woody or the VixSkin Maverick will help the wearer in sensing depth to avoid slippage.

Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Set

Finally, when picking dildos with a partner, here’s a good rule of thumb: the person wearing the cock should pick the look of it (realistic, color, balls, etc) and the person receiving should pick the size. Everybody’s happy.


How Do You Feel About Vibration?

Vixen Mistress

Want to add a little buzz to the action? Some dildos, like the Vixen Woody with Vibe and the Tantus Leisure come with removable bullet vibrators. On a budget? The rubber Pegasus comes with a handy wired remote. If you’re not satisfied with the vibe that comes with your dildo, swap it out for something stronger. The We-Vibe Tango is one of the strongest bullet vibes we’ve ever tried.

Remember that even if your dildo doesn’t come with vibration, you can always add vibration when strapping it on. When strapping it on, ask yourself who wants the vibration: the wearer or receiver? And where do you want the vibration, internally or externally?

If the wearer wants direct vibration externally, the We-Vibe Moxie is an excellent fit, as it can be worn under the harness. Some harnesses like the SpareParts Joque even come with hidden pockets for positioning a vibe at the base of the dildo. You can make any dildo vibrate with a vibrating cockring, and when positioned right, it should hit the clit of the wearer. If you want stronger vibration, pick a dildo with a vibrator in it and select a separate vibrating cockring.

Packing Dildos

Pierre Packer

Whether for gender expression or fantasy play, some folks prefer to pack. If you want a realistic bulge that can still be worn under clothing, take a look at the Pierre Packer. Worn with a packing strap or packing underwear like the SpareParts Pete, these are ideal for daily wear.

The Angle of the Dangle

Where do you want that dildo to reach? If you want to stimulate a G-Spot or P-Spot, then your best bet is a dildo with a shaft that curves upward. Some toys, like the Fun Factory Tiger, are designed especially for hitting the right spot. The handheld, stainless-steel Njoy Pure Wand is also great for targeting and stimulating your G-Spot or prostate.


Doubles Anyone?

Fun Factory Share Double Ended Dildo

Fun Factory Share

Double your fun with a dildo for two. Double dildos can feel like an extension of yourself and provide wonderful sensations especially while thrusting. They're ideal for gender play and for feeling more connected to your partner.

The Ruse Sili Slim Double Dong has a unique flexible center, perfect for sharing with a friend. If one of you wants to be in the active role, try a Tantus Feeldoe or the Fun Factory Share. These are designed to be held in place by your Kegel muscles while you have anal or vaginal intercourse with your partner. They can be used with or without a harness.