Mutual Masturbation

We all start out masturbating. Before we discover the joys of sex and intimacy with a partner, we learn how our own bodies can give us pleasure. Studies estimate that about 90% of men and 70% of women masturbate from time to time. (As the joke goes, the remaining percent are lying!)

But how often do we share this experience with our partners? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a solo affair. In fact, when done with a partner, it can be among the hottest activities.

With mutual masturbation, you can:

• Learn what your lover likes
• Show your partner how to handle your business
• Easily achieve simultaneous orgasm
• Enjoy being an exhibitionist and/or a voyeur
• Get off without the risk of pregnancy or STIs

So many combinations.

Mutual masturbation can be done in so many combinations. Partners can jerk off simultaneously or take turns doing each other. One partner can do all the work, while the other enjoys the ride. You can put on a show for your lover, or sit back and enjoy the view. In group situations, there are even more combinations, whether you’re a voyeur, an exhibitionist, or both.

Accessorize your stroke sessions.

Mutual masturbation is one of the best times to break out the toys. Dudes, here’s your chance to try out a masturbation sleeve, like the Tenga Flex while your partner sucks on your nipples or fingers your ass. You can also choose from a variety of Fleshlights or explore vibration with the Fun Factory Cobra Libre II.

Women, have your partner use a vibrator or G-spot toy on you, while your rub your clitoris. The Slimline G Mini is a great vibrator for hitting the right spot, while leaving room for you to use your hands on yourself. If you're into smooth stainless steel, let your partner use the Njoy Pure Wand - great for squirting! Or if you want hands-free satisfaction, give him a dual stim vibe like the Jopen Amour and lay back and enjoy the only vibrating glass dual stimulator on the market!

It’s educational.

You can learn a lot from watching your lover handle their business—everything from the speed of their strokes to the kinds of circles they make around their clit. One of the best things about mutual masturbation is the opportunity to get a hands-on lesson in how to get your lover off. Verbal feedback combined with a hands-on demo will intensify your sexual bond and enhance communication. This is your lover’s body, and it’s a great way to get acquainted.

It’s kinky.

Tease your partner by making them watch you masturbate. Don’t let them touch you or themselves. Or, tie up your partner and tease them, taking care not to let them come to soon. This can make great foreplay or the main course in a kinky evening of teasing and denial.

It’s safe.

Since there’s no fluid exchange and no risk of pregnancy, mutual masturbation is one of the safest ways to get off in the presence of a partner. If you’re giving your partner a helping hand, you can play even safer by wearing gloves. Combined with lube, these barrier methods can feel nearly as good as bare skin.

When to try mutual masturbation

• While watching or looking at porn.
• While telling or reading dirty stories.
• When one partner is more aroused/more “in the mood” than the other.
• When you’re not ready to “go all the away.”
• When you absolutely need to get off!