THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON March 5, 2017 BY THEPLEASURECHEST.
Surprises can be stone cold delightful, like free ice cream or finding a forgotten $20 in your jeans.
But there's one place where surprises can be disastrous: the bedroom.
Total surprises in bed are generally frowned upon, at least when it comes to a new and/or exotic sex act. Want butt sex? Negotiate. Want to be tied up or tie someone up? Negotiate. Want to call your partner a filthy manwhore while working his nipples like a stuck zipper in a urinal at Mardi Gras? Yeah, definitely negotiate.
The Yes/No/Maybe List is a tool we use here in the store to help partners get the conversation started. It's a list of sex acts (to which you can always add your own) and columns reading "Yes", "No" and "Maybe." We suggest each partner take a list and fill it out separately, then get together on a sex date (which incidentally is not actually a date in which you have sex) but one to get together and talk about the sex you might want to have without shaming or judging one another.
Go ahead and try it! It's way more fun than, say, negotiating and delegating household chores. Although, we do recommend doing that as well. Better communication in any situation always leads to better sex. A little naughty housekeeper roleplay perhaps? The possibilities are endless. We've also added a kinkier list for folks that have not so vanilla interests. Click below to download!
So grab your bae and get down to business: just remember to be open minded, open hearted, and compassionate about your partner's desires. This kind of open communication can put folks in a vulnerable place, so make sure that everyone feels safe, heard, and not judged!