Read this book before I started engaging in non-monogamous relationships, and while I’m glad I did, I definitely agree with other reviewers that there’s language that needs to be updated. The jealousy exercise is very helpful!
It was sort of helpful as a beginner reading about polyamory. It definitely tries to be inclusive by taking different identities into account but it feels like once they acknowledge that they move on and centers the rest of the book around cis-white relationships. I did like how it discussed jealousy and it's a good read for beginners or anyone looking to learn to be more secure with themselves.
Read this book because everyone was talking about it - it has a lot of language and definitions for nonmonogamy lifestyles but definitely directed towards beginners or people with no exposure to these types of relationships.
and expanded to be more inclusive, it still has very binary concepts of gender. This book only outlines a specific way of being polyam rather than emphasizing that it is what the person or couple makes it. Although it comes off as judgmental of monogamy, the exercises (especially the one on jealousy) are beneficial for any person seeking to grow in how they handle romantic and/or sexual relationships.