THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON May 21, 2018 BY Pleasure Chest Ness.
This entry was posted on May 21, 2018 by Pleasure Chest Ness.
#MasturbationMay is still going strong and we are super PUMPED. Thank you to everyone who reached out with your masturbation questions in our recent blog! Below are answers to some of your most asked questions. We hope you enjoy this little FAQ to better help 'You do You.'
Hold my calls, Karen.
1. (And THE MOST ASKED question) How much masturbation is too much masturbation?
Well, that depends on who you ask. Everyone has different stress and hormone levels, libidos, and relationships with masturbation, whether it be rooted in childhood, social stigma, or even sexual trauma. For these reasons, the amount of masturbation for each individual can vary greatly and what may be considered too much for one individual may feel absolutely normal for another.
There are indeed many health benefits to masturbation: it helps us fall asleep, reduces stress and tension, can lower the risk of prostate and cervical cancer, and help improve mood and alleviate depression. A good rule of thumb is that if masturbation starts to negatively affect one’s work, relationships, self-esteem, finances, or becomes an inhibitor to intimacy and social interactions, it may be a good time take a little break and experience different ways to reconnect with yourself.
In general, some folks may masturbate more than others, but there is no set prescription of how many times a day is too much, we'll leave that up to you. If you're into cuffin' the carrot or buffin' the muffin' many times a day in what feels like a healthy way, just consider yourself more well-versed in your pleasure zones and knowing how other's can please you.
Read more on the benefits of masturbation for men here!
Go ahead, make a shake date!
2. Are there any health benefits of masturbation that are specific to those with vulvas?
Most definitely! Not only can masturbation help relieve stress and boost self-esteem by releasing dopamine, oxytocin and endorphins, but it also increases vaginal elasticity! If not stimulated for long periods of time, these muscles can atrophy and cause discomfort during penetration. So yeah, use it or lose it! And of course, what better way to find all your different erogenous zones!?
Masturbation can also help prevent cervical cancer because orgasms regularly 'flex' the cervix which keeps it healthy and relieves pain. A nice ménage à moi can also 'lubricate' the vagina and flush old “unfriendly” bacteria from the cervix.
Come hither. Or any way you like, really.
3. Do vibrators desensitize the clitoris?
The million dollar question and probably the most common misconception about vibrators. The clitoris can acclimate to different strengths of vibration, but not to worry, the nerve endings in your clitoris are not breaking up with you, they just need a mome, especially if you are going full power with a Magic Wand on the highest setting. (And really, why wouldn't you?) Thankfully though, most vibrators these days have several different frequency settings, so you can tone down and re-up your pleasure at your leisure.
So what did we do before vibrators? (Seriously, WHAT DID WE DO?!?) We definitely found other ways to get off whether it was with our fingers, the bathtub faucet, or just something to rub against that hit the spot. Remember, you can always get back to the basics and reconnect with yourself in different ways. Most importantly, these types of lower frequency stimulation can give your clit a break until you're ready to hop back on the vibe ride.
Easy, Tiger.
4. What toys would you recommend to help someone reach orgasm outside of vibrators?
If you're no longer vibin' with your vibe, have sustained some physical trauma in that area, or just don't like the sensation, there are definitely other toys to help you reach orgasm outside of vibrators. Suction toys, temperature-sensitive toys, and toys that use weight and pressure for internal and external stimulation can be awesome workarounds and can also help you achieve G-spot stimulation, multiple orgasms, and yes, even squirting!
Here are some strong contenders and yes, also our faves:
The Njoy Pure Wand is specifically designed and curved to hit the G-Spot and P-Spot. It's stainless steel texture also makes it perfect for temperature play.
The Womanizer uses their signature 'Pleasure Air' technology which creates powerful clit suction for a truly unique and explosive orgasm.
5. How can someone entice their partner to masturbate more?
Encouraging your partner to masturbate or even introducing a new toy to the mix can be a touchy subject. Yes, literally. Communication is key as some may infer that their performance was not up to snuff or concerned that their partner isn't pleasing them. In order to curb any bruised egos or potential performance anxiety, maybe suggest that watching them masturbate turns you on and is a great way to understand the many different ways your partner likes to please themselves. Masturbation doesn't always have to be a solo sport, sometimes it's fun to do it together!
Read more on mutual masturbation here!
Need more ideas? Try these!
Say it with flowers.
Have a Kegel ball party!
Millennial masturbation for all ages with app-controlled toys!
Sometimes it's hard for people to embrace masturbation due to social stigma or experiences carried into adulthood from youth. With a little understanding and communication we can start to re-introduce masturbation as a pleasurable, educational, and healthy way to expand both solo and partner play! So go ahead, give yourself a hand!
Duh.