THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON October 28, 2014 BY Team Pleasure Chest.
You can keep having hot, joyful, down-and-dirty sex during and after menopause. Here’s where you might want to start:
1. LEARN TO LOVE LUBE- With your body producing less lubrication and your vaginal and vulvar tissues thinning and growing less elastic, you may find that sex isn’t as comfortable as it used to be. Luckily, a little lube will keep sex safe and amazing. Try glycerin-free lube, since glycerin can irritate your sensitive skin. Many drugstore lubes are filled with irritating ingredients. Try something from a company like Sliquid, which specializes in hypoallergenic lubes.
Sliquid Satin - Designed as a daily vaginal moisturizer, Satin is one of the best lubes out there. Made with natural moisturizing ingredients including vitamin E, carrageenan, and highly concentrated aloe for extra slickness, this lube feels similar to the lubrication your body is used to and lasts longer than almost any other water based lube.
Uberlube - Also enriched with vitamin E, this silicone lube is silky and super long lasting. As a bonus, it comes in a classy glass bottle with a convenient pump top. Doctor recommended.
2. DO YOUR KEGELS
Kegel exercises are great because they can give you stronger orgasms, prevent incontinence, and increase blood flow to your genitals, which is important for vaginal health.
Try this:
- Contract your pelvic floor muscles (the ones you’d use to stop peeing).
- Hold for three seconds.
- Relax the muscles, slowly, for three seconds.
- Repeat ten times, three times a day.
Ami Vaginal Exerciser Set - Get serious about strengthening your pelvic floor muscles with this set of three balls of increasing weight. Kegel balls give your muscles some resistance, helping them get stronger, faster. These are made of silicone and medical grade plastic, so they’re safe to keep wearing around while you focus on other things.
3. FEEL THE VIBRATION
Vibrators not only feel fantastic, they stimulate the vulva and vagina,
bringing blood to the area. In other words, they help you get physically
aroused!
But vibes can affect you differently around and after menopause. Many
folks find that they need stronger vibration than they used to.
Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, of Yale University School of Medicine, has been recommending the use of a vibrator to her menopausal patients who suffer from vaginal dryness. In an interview with The Huffington Post, Dr. Minkin explains that vibration increases pelvic blood flow, which can help boost vaginal moisture.
"I recommend my patients use a vibrator three to four times a week, but as Mae West said,'Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!'"
We-Vibe Wand - This lightweight massager boasts several speeds, a non-porous, hypoallergenic silicone head, an ergonomic handle, and fun attachments. Great for all body types and physical abilities!
4. MAKE TIME FOR FUN
Want to have better sex? Put it on the calendar and set aside time to enjoy yourself and your partner!
- Schedule time for solo or partner play at a time when you’ll have energy and focus for it.
- Vary your routine. If you normally have sex or masturbate in the evening, try the morning.
- Try new kinds of foreplay, even when you’re alone, such as incorporating a vibrator.
- Don’t become too goal-oriented.
- Savor the good sensations as they happen.
- If arousal and orgasm aren’t happening as quickly as they used to,
don’t panic. Slowly building up desire can be far more delicious than
sprinting to the finish line, and a little patience is sometimes needed
as our bodies change.
5. SHOP SMART
Want to try some toys?
- Check out a friendly, upscale adult store (yup, like The Pleasure
Chest). Many of them have display toys out, so that you can feel the
material, weight, and vibration strength – with your hands, of course!
- Choose a place that’s education-focused. Our staff skews young, but
they’ve all been educated within an inch of their lives by our in-depth
training program, which includes regular in-service trainings on topics
such as sex and aging.
- If you don’t want to visit a physical store, many retailers’ websites
include how-to articles and extensive product information to help you
find what you need.
6. TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR
If you’re in pain or discomfort, ask your doctor about your options. We’re not doctors, but we know that there are medical interventions that can help, from topical estrogen creams to dilators. If your doctor dismisses your sex-related questions, drop ‘em like a hot potato. There are lots of others out there with sexuality training and who view sexual health as integral to overall health.
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Joan Price’s website & blog
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