THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON October 20, 2023 BY The Pleasure Chest.
Healthy sexual behaviors and exploring one’s sexuality can unfortunately be negatively affected by the limits of a disability. Experiencing a chronic illness or a disability that prevents a person from participating in the sexual activities they desire can make them feel inadequate or depressed and even affect their health overall.
Luckily there are plenty of products designed to help folks with disabilities achieve pleasure more easily. Whether you or your partner struggle with decreased mobility, become fatigued quickly, or grapple with increased or decreased sensitivity issues, there are products out there designed to suit your needs and allow you to feel all the pleasure you deserve. There are also plenty of products that were designed with a different goal in mind but happen to provide uses that folks with disabilities can take advantage of. Sometimes it’s all about how creative you can be! For this reason, be wary of toys marketed as ‘accessible’ because something that’s accessible for one person won’t be for another.
It’s difficult to provide an exhaustive list of products that can improve your sexual experiences if you live with a disability because, again, everyone has different needs and one product that works for one person might not work for another person. Determine what it is you need in your sex life—where are things harder for you than they need to be? Do you need help getting into positions? Do you need longer toys that reach further? Do you need vibrators that are stronger/weaker? Consider your situation and narrow down what it is that will help you the most and take inspiration from this list. And if you have any suggestions, please send them to us here! We’d love to hear your feedback on how we can improve our selection of accessible sex toys.
Hands-free Toys
Hands-free sex toys are excellent options for both solo and partner play. Hands-free toys allow users to simply put the toy in place and let it do the rest of the work for them. Hands-free sex toys are typically toys that are ‘worn’ such as cock rings, butt plugs, extenders, and C-shaped toys like the Chorus and similar toys from We-Vibe.
 We-Vibe Chorus |  We-Vibe Sync O |  We-Vibe Sync Lite |
They’re designed to stay in place while you play with your partner or lay back and relax during a solo masturbation session. Sometimes, if the toy vibrates, these toys include remotes (more on those below!) to make controlling the toy even easier. These toys can also be controlled via buttons on their interfaces, which sometimes makes them not-so “hands-free” or accessible depending on where the buttons are and how the toys are shaped. Before purchasing a hands-free toy, determine whether or not it'll be easy for you to control if it doesn’t happen to come with a compatible remote control. Seeing and feeling the toy in person at your local adult store would be our best recommendation.
 We-Vibe Bond |  Je Joue Vesta Plug |  Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo Lux |
Buffers & Extenders
Buffers and extenders are hands-free sex toy accessories meant to be worn around dildos or penises. Extenders extend length and girth while buffers prevent deep insertion by limiting length. If you want to achieve deeper penetration or have decreased sensitivity issues, an extender would help with providing deeper penetration and extra sensations from their textured sleeves. If you want to prevent deep penetration due to pain (because of endometriosis for example) but still want to engage in penetration, then a buffer would help you engage in penetration without you having to worry about experiencing pain and going too deep.
 Renegade Brute Vibrating Extender |  Ohnut Buffer Rings |  Kink Jacked Up Extender |
Remote Controllable Toys
Toys that can controlled with remotes are super helpful for folks with mobility issues. They can even help prevent sensory overload, especially if you’re using more than one toy at a time. You can simply focus on the remote in your hand instead of attempting to reach around and find buttons while you’re in the middle of trying to achieve an orgasm.
Remotes not only make controlling your toys way easier but also turn them into excellent versatile partner toys. You can control the toy your partner is wearing/using via remote from a distance (like a ‘panty vibe’ if you want to take your play out of the bedroom) or up close. Some toys even have app capabilities and Bluetooth connection, allowing you to control a toy your partner is using from extremely long distances, even as far as on the other side of the world! These types of toys work great for long distance relationships and sexual activities where folks can’t be physical with each other for long periods of time or have trouble travelling but still want to connect with their partners romantically and sexually.
Here are a few sex toy options with standard remotes:
 Pegasus 6" Curved Wave Dildo |  b-Vibe 360 Plug |  Romp Cello G-Spot Egg Vibrator |
Here are a few app-compatible vibrators with Bluetooth connection:
 We-Vibe Moxie + |  Gemini Vibrating Nipple Clamps |  Svakom Alex Neo 2 |
Visit this page for more remote control and app-compatible sex toy options.
Toys with Grips
If you have trouble getting a good hold on your toy, toys with grips are a good option for you. Holding onto a vibrator for a long time can make your hand feel numb and uncomfortable. It can also be overwhelming to your senses and overshadow the good sensations. Toys with handles or grips (or toys that actually fit right into your hand like finger vibes) not only help you hold onto toys for longer periods of time, but they also help make it easier to use toys on other people.
 Fun Factory Tiger G5 |  Dioni Finger Vibe |  Switch Plug-In Dildo |
Longer/larger toys
Longer and/or larger toys can work really well or backfire on you depending on what you’re looking to get out of it. For instance, a big wand massager could help you reach further to stimulate the clitoris without having to bend your body in positions that are uncomfortable to you, but its weight due to its larger size might not be ideal. You might want a longer dildo for the same reason (to reach further), but sometimes that means the dildo is also girthier, which might not be what you’re looking for. Finding the right long/large toy can be a matter of trial-and-error, but the truth is that toys that are longer (or have longer handles) work nicely for folks with mobility issues simply because they reach farther than your arms can.
 Womanizer OG |  Le Wand Massager |  Njoy Pure Wand |
Suction-based Dildos
Dildos with suction bases can technically be considered another ‘hands-free’ option. Being able to stick a dildo to a surface removes all the stress of having to hold onto your toy. Instead of using your hands to thrust the toy into your body, you would suction the dildo to a surface and use your body to thrust into the toy.
The tricky aspect here comes in two parts. One: you’ll have to find a sturdy surface that the suction can adhere to securely. Porcelain, tile, wood and metal usually work well. Shower walls, for example, are a popular surface for placing suction dildos. Two: Using a toy that is suctioned to a surface can limit what positions you can use, and it might even be uncomfortable for you. You’ll have to experiment with different positions and heights until you find something that works.
Here are some suction dildo options that vibrate and thrust on their own:
 Velvet Thruster Teddy |  Maia Monroe Thruster |  U Strap Remote Thrusting Dildo |
Here are some non-vibrating standard suction dildos:
 Limba Flex |  Playtime Dual Density |  Colours Pleasures Dildo |
Wand Massagers
As discussed earlier, wands can be hit or miss. But a lot of folks with mobility issues adore wands and for good reason. Not only are they longer than your average vibrator so they can reach to further regions of the body (and places we can’t even reach well with our hands like back muscles), they’re also extremely powerful and able to send strong vibrations to the nerves and muscles without having to apply much pressure. They even work great for helping improve circulation and relieve stiffness in the joints. After all, the Magic Wand Original was initially created as a medical device recommended by doctors and therapists for these very reasons! And now, with the wand style of vibrator only getting more and more popular over the years, there are tons of options that are lighter weight and easier to hold than the classic versions created over 50 years ago.
 Magic Wand Rechargeable Vibrator |  Fun Factory VIM Wand |  Doxy Massager |
You can browse more wand massager options on this page.
Multi-Purpose Toys
Not only is it helpful to collect multi-purpose toys just for your wallet’s sake, it also makes using your toys much more enjoyable. The likelihood of you using your toys repeatedly increases when you can figure out multiple ways to use them. Sometimes toys are advertised as having multiple uses and sometimes we have to get creative with the way we use them to help them reach their full potential.
Styles of multi-purpose sex toys include wand massagers, pumps with vibrating motors, dual vibrators and combinations of different toy elements married into one shape, like a plug and cock ring combination for example.
Wand Attachments
We’ve talked about wand vibrators a lot in this blog, and they fall into the multi-purpose category quite easily. Of course they can be used as intense external vibrators as well as full body massagers, but you can also secure different attachments to them to create new toys without having to purchase a completely new item. Wand attachments include texture sleeves, insertable shapes for G and P-spot stimulation, flat textured grinding pads, stroking sleeves and more.
 Le Wand Flick |  Le Wand Curve |  Le Wand Stroke |
Dual Action Vibrators
Dual action vibes (sometimes called dual-stimulators or frequently referred to as rabbits) are toys with both an internal and an external component. There are tons of different styles and they’re usually designed to stimulate both the G-spot and clitoris or the P-spot and the external nerves that surround the anus. Most dual-action vibrators are safe for anal play due to the external component doubling as a base or stopper, preventing the toy from getting swallowed up by the anus.
Dual-stim vibes are versatile and can be repurposed to serve whatever your needs may be. For example, if you just want some external stimulation, you can use the longer arm of the dual vibrator instead of the shorter arm. This works great for folks who have trouble using shorter, smaller toys but want strictly external stimulation. Another example: many dual action sex toys have unique motors that twist, pulse, thrust, suck or simulate a ‘come hither’ motion, like this:
These motors can be used internally on the G-spot as they’re intended or used externally to provide some interesting and new sensations. They can also be used anally to stimulate the prostate or used underneath the frenulum and around the shaft to simulate a stroking toy.
 We-Vibe Nova 2 |  Wild Rose Suction Vibrator |  Jix |
Pumps
Pumps (often called penis pumps or pussy pumps) are vacuum devices that increase blood flow in the region they’re placed over, engorging the tissue and heightening sensitivity. The effect of using a pump makes the tissue appear swollen and therefore larger, a temporary result that many folks enjoy. The tissue can swell as large as the chamber that’s placed over it and, once released, will remain swollen for a short period of time before slowly returning to normal.
What makes some pumps multi-purpose sex toy accessories is the fact that some of them also vibrate! You can use the pump functions while using the vibration functions, which together create quite an intense experience, especially when you remember that the swollen tissue becomes hypersensitive due to the pumping. Vibrating pumps would work great for folks who need a lot of intense and unique stimulation due to a decrease in sensations from a disability.
 Fantasy For Her Ultimate Pleasure |  LUX Active Volume Penis Pump |  Bloom Pump |
Grinding Toys
Grinding and humping toys have recently gained some popularity and many variations have been released in just the last year alone. Usually soft, flexible and mostly flat, these toys are used for (of course) grinding against for external stimulation with the user either sitting on top of the toy or holding it against where they desire stimulation. Some smaller iterations of humping toys can even be folded and used as stroking devices on bottom growth and penises.
 Inmi Grinder with Remote |  Vibepad 2 |  Niya N5 Multi-Choice Massager |
Sex Furniture
Sex furniture and position aids are some of the most popular toy accessories among folks with or without disabilities. They work in a myriad of ways and serve many purposes, making them very versatile and a staple in anyone’s pleasure practice. Position aids like wedges and pillows allow folks to comfortably achieve positions that are normally out of reach for them by helping to angle their neck, hips, legs, etc. They usually consist of a foam core with a soft plush fabric zipped around it for comfort and easy removal for cleaning purposes. Some sex furniture aids even come with loops to attach cuffs or additional pads to slot vibrators into!
 Pivot Inflatable Positioner |  Pivot Positioning Bar |  Pivot Positioner |
There are also slings and straps that help hold people in certain positions or offer more leverage. Door jam slings let you hang from the door with ease, removing the pressure and weight from your partner so they can focus on your pleasure. Position straps provide support and better stability in a variety of positions like doggie, missionary, etc.
 Pivot Deluxe Doggie Strap |  Pivot Positioning Partner |  Special Edition Door Jam Sling |
Position aids and sex furniture like these options from Sportsheets are great for folks with any sort of mobility issue to allow them to comfortably achieve positions that are difficult for them and also stay in those positions for longer periods of time.
Go to this page to browse more products from Sportsheets and this page to browse more sex furniture options.
Sex Machines
We’ve discussed having your toys do all the work for you, and these types of sex toys definitely work the hardest! Fuck machines, while not for everyone, are going to be some of the easiest to use for folks with disabilities. They take on all the weight, pressure and speed that you would normally put into your toy yourself and provide it for you. Depending on the style of fuck machine, you can either lay on your back while the machine does the work or there are fuck machines that you can just sit on and ride. While not the most budget-friendly option depending on your means, fuck machines make for great masturbation toys and would be a welcome addition in any personal sex dungeon.
 Cowgirl |  Kink Power Banger |  Unicorn Cowgirl |