THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON October 21, 2013 BY THEPLEASURECHEST.
Fisting is one of the most stigmatized sex acts out there. Enthusiasts love the sensation of fullness and the feelings of trust and closeness with their partner that successful fisting can bring. Yet others think that penetrative vaginal or anal sex with their partner's whole hand sounds uncomfortable and unappealing for their sexual repertoire.
But you too can enjoy fisting!
A lot of misunderstanding surrounds fisting and what this sex act actually involves. We think that fisting can be a wonderful addition to anyone's sex life, and we've written out a few basic guidelines for curious beginners to master the art of placing one's entire fist inside your partner's vagina or anal canal.
Prepare for Your Vaginal Fisting or Anal Fisting Experience
Trim your nails. We cannot stress this enough. If you plan to fist your partner, trim them below the tips of your fingers and file them down. In Fact, keep your nails trimmed even if you are just giving clitoral stimulation. If you absolutely must keep your nails long, you can trim down cotton balls and pad the fingertips of your latex or nitrile gloves with them. Make sure that you can't feel the long nails through your gloves or the intense feeling of fullness your partner endures will be coupled with dangerous cuts or scrapes.
Buy High Quality Gloves for Fisting
Glove up. Gloves can be great for all kinds of sex, but they're especially good for anal play and fisting. A nitrile glove protects the fistee from the scratchier parts of your hand (nails, callouses), cuts way, way down on the risk of infection (both STIs and pesky common problems like urinary tract infections) and won't absorb lube or bodily fluids the way your skin will so it makes your hand more slippery.
Since there is an increased risk of danger from penetrative sex from your partner's hand, ensure that you are aware of whether or not you have a latex allergy before beginning.
For the most pleasurable experience, it's best if your glove fits your hand pretty snugly. If you'd rather not use a glove, make sure that your hands are freshly washed.
Choose the Right Lube for the Occasion
Use good lube liberally. Different lubes work better for different kinds of fisting. For anal fisting, many people prefer an oil-based lube, like Elbow Grease. Remember that oil-based lubes will degrade latex gloves, so make sure to use nitrile. Water, silicone, and hybrid lubes are all safe for vaginal play (oil can irritate the vagina) and can be used anally as well. Choose a long lasting lubricant like Sliquid Silver.
A good rule of fisting is to add more lube for one finger, then every time you insert another finger.
A Fist is a Large Butt Plug
Warm your partner up. Assume that your partner needs more arousal than they would for other kinds of penetration. Fisting is an activity best reserved for when the fistee is very aroused and relaxed. When you're ready to fist, start with a couple of fingers and let your partner tell you when they're ready for more.
You can also start small with sex toys, like butt plugs, which gradually make your anal sphincter more comfortable with stretching. Then, after an agreeable amount of time, work your way from one finger inside, to your pointer and middle finger, until everyone is relaxed enough for the whole fist of five fingers.
Keep in mind that not everyone shares the same body's limits. In fact, this may take a few tries, especially if you are not properly lubricated. If you need a refresher, check out our Warming Up Your Butt Blog!
Wrong way to fist.
It's All in the Way You Shape It
Make a duck. Do not try to insert a fist into your partner. Instead, make your hand into the shape you’d use to make a shadow puppet of a duck and turn it upside down: cup your thumb with your other four fingers. Of course, make adjustments according to what’s comfortable for you and your very receptive partner. The best tip is to make your hand as compact and easy to insert as possible. You can help your partner stretch to receive your full hand by opening and closing your fingers as if your duck puppet is speaking. Yes, there's also a fisting toy for that!
Try making your hand(s) into a duck shape, like this full fist sex toy!
Did We Mention You Need Lube?
More Lube: You guessed it! At this point, if you haven’t added more lube do it now. After your entire hand is covered in lube, insert it carefully, rotating it gently so that it goes in more easily. The bridge of your hand (your knuckles) is the widest part and your partner may need more lube or more stretching to accept this part of your hand in. Once your hand is actually inside your partner, you can curl your fingers over your thumb into a fist. Remember that this can be a pretty intense experience in real life.
Slow and Steady until They're Ready
Take your time. Fisting requires communication, cooperation and patience. It may take several tries for the receiving partner to be able to accommodate an entire hand. Have fun with the process, and don’t be afraid to throw other kinds of external stimulation into the mix. Using a vibrator while getting fisted is a very popular option and a stretchy vibrating cock ring fits nicely on all parts of the hand, like the Screaming O Wow Ring pictured above.
Keep Calm and Steady Your Palm
Once Inside When your hand is inside your partner, a little movement goes a long way. Your partner may even prefer you to keep your hand still. You can try slowly and gently rocking your hand back and forth or side to side or slightly clenching and opening your first slightly. Check in, go slowly, and have fun. Enjoy the tight sensation of your partner consuming your fist (even if the contraction and release of your partner’s muscles are intense, do not make any jerky motions) and observe how your heartbeats may sync!
Plan Your Exit
Safe Extraction When your partner is ready to have you pull your hand out, you may find that a bit of a vacuum seal has formed around your fist. Lubing up a finger on your other hand and running it along the anus/vaginal opening will help release the seal. Have your partner breath with you and on a long exhale slowly pull out your hand, using the duck puppet to keep your hand as small as possible. Your partner can also help you by bearing down with the PC muscles, which can help push your hand out. Then bask in your mutual, post-fisting euphoria.
Keep Fisting Safe and Fun
Safety note: If at any point, the sensation is too intense – stop. If your partner is masking pain – stop. Explore the sexual act of fisting in a state of mind where you are fully aware of the sensations in your body so that you can enjoy the experience and also feel your limits. There can be some light bleeding after being fisted. If it continues for more that 24 hours or increases in intensity, contact a doctor or seek medical attention.
HAPPY FISTING!
