THIS ENTRY WAS POSTED ON February 13, 2017 BY THEPLEASURECHEST.
It happens to the best of us. Whether you’re a shrinking violet or a priapic porn star, sometimes your cock just won’t cooperate. Can you keep up? Sometimes it’s hard. Or rather, it’s not hard. We know, it’s a bummer, but keep a stiff upper lip. We’ll tell you how to stiff up your dick. Here are some tips and tricks that just might work, when your cock won’t.
Foreplay
Slow down. Men can be very goal-oriented when it comes to sex. We’ve been taught our whole lives to compete, to win, to achieve. Performance anxiety can cause us to come too soon, or to lose our erections entirely. The best thing to do in these cases, is to stop focusing on your cock.
Give or get a massage. Keep some massage supplies handy. We’re partial to the Pleasure Chest Massage Candle which will help you set the mood with candlelight, while producing safe, warm oils that can be applied directly to the skin.
High on Love Chocolate Body Paint
And then there’s kissing. Remember kissing? Not just your lover’s lips, but all over. To make things a little more tasty, apply something sweet to your lover’s skin, like goodies found in the Kama Sutra Weekender Kit or High on Love Chocolate Body Paint, which comes with a paint brush to paint a dark chocolate masterpiece on your bae!
Sportsheets Cuffs and Tethers Kit
Foreplay doesn’t have to be gentle. Adding a light spanking or some basic bondage to your repertoire can help restart your sex drive too.
Before you know it, you’ll forget all about your fickle dick. And when you stop thinking about it, it will usually come out to play, all on its own.
Do Your Kegels!
If you don’t have the control and endurance you like, it’s time to hit the sex gym. Perhaps you’ve heard of Kegel exercises. Well, they’re not just for women! Your PC muscles control the flow of semen and urine, and they affect the strength and quality of your erections. If you exercise them regularly, they’ll do right by you. The best way to find them is by stopping the flow of urine the next time you go to the bathroom. (We don’t recommend doing this every day, but it does help to isolate the muscles.) Once you’ve located the muscles, you simply need to practice tightening and releasing them. This can be done anywhere—while watching TV, sitting in traffic, or sitting through a boring lecture. AskMen.com suggests these simple exercises to get you started:
Exercise A
Sets: 3
Tighten and release repeatedly for 10 seconds.
Take a 10-second break between each set.
Exercise B
Sets: 10
Tighten and release repeatedly for 5 seconds.
Take a 5-second break between each set.
Exercise C
Sets: 3
Tighten and hold your PC muscle for 30 seconds.
Take a 30 second break between sets. Over time, work your way up to doing three sets of 15 to 20 minutes per day. Just as with weight-lifting at the gym, you should eventually be able to increase your number of repetitions, up to 200 per session.
Using a prostate stimulator like the Aneros MGX is a great way to do your Kegels. When inserted, the Aneros will gently rock back and forth between your prostate and your perineum, giving those PC muscles the workout they need. You’ll experience greater endurance and stronger erections. As a bonus, your orgasms will feel more amazing than ever.
Kegel strength is important, but your diet may also play a role. Check out Dr. Steven Lamm’s The Hardness Factor to learn how nutrition, supplements and exercise all play a role in maintaining stronger erections.
Pumping
If you find that pumping up your PC muscles isn’t quite the workout you need, try pumping your penis instead! Penis pumps use vacuum suction to draw blood into your penis, resulting in fuller and stronger erections.
If you’re new to pumping, try this Metal Suction Pump and pair it with the appropriate-sized cylinder, for erectile enhancement that doesn't suck.
For a tutorial on pumping, check out this video.
Cockrings
Vibratex Duet Vibrating Cock Ring
Cockrings. They’re not just for kinky folks. Whether leather, steel, rubber, neoprene, silicone or wood, a cockring is a great way to keep it up. A cockring is designed to fit snugly around your balls and cock. When you’re hard and the blood rushes in, the cockring helps keep it there, resulting in a stronger, fuller erection and a whole lotta staying power.
- Classic leather cockrings look and feel sexy, but they can be hard to clean, and the snaps have been known to pinch. For the most comfortable fit, try something in rubber or silicone. The Super Stretch Silicone cockring is a great starter cockring. Silicone doesn’t play well with silicone lube, so be sure to use a water-based lube with this toy.
- A vibrating cockring can add extra stimulation for you and your partner, while keeping you rock hard. The Je Joue Mio is one of the best on the market, offering the stretch of silicone and the ability to recharge, for many repeat sessions. A more affordable alternative is the Vibratex Duet Vibrating Cock Ring, which can be switched on to continuous mode, or set to activate by pressure. Fun!
Supplements
Unless you have a prescription for Viagra or Cialis (in which case, can your spare some?), you shouldn’t be taking a pill every time you want to have sex. There are times, however, when a little help doesn’t hurt. There are a number of all-natural supplements on the market. None of them have been evaluated by the FDA, but some folks swear by them.
Horny Goat Weed, otherwise known as epimedium has been a staple of Chinese medicine for 2,000 years, and is believed to be both an aphrodisiac and an enhancer of erectile function. You can usually find it wherever supplements are sold, and it’s often one of the main ingredients in enhancement formulas.
Yohimbe is another popular herb, widely used for its aphrodisiac properties. It’s usually sold at health food stores, and can also be found in combination with other herbs.
Many supplements offer a combination of these and other natural ingredients, packaged and marketed for the sex-enhancing properties.
Desensitizers
When all else fails, and when you simply need a little extra help, you can always try a desensitizer. There are lubes, creams and condoms on the market, usually containing a solution of benzocaine or lidocaine, like the System JO Prolonger, which will basically numb your cock. If you don’t mind the loss in surface sensation, these will certainly buy you some more time in the bedroom. But be careful to put a condom on top, unless you want to numb your partner too.